Singles Flirting Thread (3)

[JPPT1974]

You can't change circumstances
As you need to give that to the Lord
Who can and will if you put your faith
And trust in Him!

 

[dluvs2trvl]

You can't change circumstances
As you need to give that to the Lord
Who can and will if you put your faith
And trust in Him!

I appreciate your point of view...however, I disagree. I believe that there is some effort required on our part to change the circumstances of our life...as long as the action we take is still in the will of the Lord.

For example, if you desire a new job...it is up to you to start knocking on doors and trust that the Lord will open the right one.

 

[Luther073082]

What are you doing to change the circumstances of your life? Are you applying for new jobs??? Are you sending out your resume and actively persuing a new career? Do you belong to any professional organizations that are in the same field as your degree so you can make contacts and network?

I am searching for new jobs however I think the biggest problem is that I don't know anyone. I live in an area where very few people has a college degree. I'm a first generation college student and my parents know absolutly no one. There are no professional organizations here as there is almost no demand for Finance majors in South Bend, IN. The only thing I can say is perhaps I could try harder then I am however everytime I do I just get so frustrated by it that I don't really want to do it.

I hope this doesn't come off as condescending because I truly don't mean it to...but you are only 24. You have plenty of time to have a family...just because you don't have one now doesn't mean that it isn't in God's plan for you to have a family in the future...trust Him Luther...trust that He is preparing you and your future wife so that when He brings you together, you'll both be ready to build a strong marriage and family...

I try to tell myself that but hon time flies by like a rocket and it won't be long before I'm 48 years old and wondering what the heck happened to my life.

I do understand how you feel Luther...I've been feeling some of the same discouragement. I long to be in a relationship...I desire nothing more than to share my life with someone...but I'm choosing to trust in the Lord. I'm choosing to believe that His ways are better than my ways and His thoughts are higher than mine. I don't understand but I'm choosing to trust....

I've asked for two years for something to happen, something good. Maybe I'm just too impatient but its two years of my life that has gone by the wayside. There are no redo's in life and life is not a rehersal. I get one shot to make this good and enjoy myself and right now its going no where. My friends are all married with houses of their own and will probably soon start having kids. I on the other hand am high and dry by myself living below the poverty level. And because of the loans I have from school, I have to live with my parents. All through high school all they told me was get a college degree and I'll go places, people will fall all over themselves to hire me. And I feel not only betrayed but also like I've been lied to my whole life. Like I just wasted $30,000 and 4 and a half years of my life on a worthless piece of paper that says I know alot about money & investments. Sometimes I just feel like my whole life is just a lost cause and I've missed my all my chances.

God loves you Luther...He wants good things for you...He knows what is best for you...and His timing is best...trust in Him...believe in His love for you...hold onto Him Luther...He won't let you go...

That is what I'm told. Its not easy to belive it some days.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

I am searching for new jobs however I think the biggest problem is that I don't know anyone. I live in an area where very few people has a college degree. I'm a first generation college student and my parents know absolutly no one. There are no professional organizations here as there is almost no demand for Finance majors in South Bend, IN. The only thing I can say is perhaps I could try harder then I am however everytime I do I just get so frustrated by it that I don't really want to do it

That is so awesome that you earned your college degree!!!! That is just awesome!!!!

Do you want to stay in South Bend? Or are you open to moving? Is there another job you might like to do that may not be in Finance but could still be financially better for you? What about insurance or the administration of a hospital or a state job?

I try to tell myself that but hon time flies by like a rocket and it won't be long before I'm 48 years old and wondering what the heck happened to my life.

I completely understand!!! All I can tell you is to try and enjoy life now...keep busy...foster new friendships...take more ballroom dancing lessons...join a bible study...take a class...volunteer at the boys and girls club or become a big brother...make the time you have now worthwhile and don't just let it pass you by because you are waiting for your life to begin...your life is now!!!! You can make a difference in peoples lives now!!!!

I've asked for two years for something to happen, something good. Maybe I'm just too impatient but its two years of my life that has gone by the wayside. There are no redo's in life and life is not a rehersal. I get one shot to make this good and enjoy myself and right now its going no where. My friends are all married with houses of their own and will probably soon start having kids. I on the other hand am high and dry by myself living below the poverty level. Sometimes I just feel like my whole life is just a lost cause and I've missed my all my chances.

Again, I totally understand. I've been praying for a husband for almost 20 years and still have not been blessed with one...but I've also had the opportunity to do things in my life that I may not have been able to do had I been married. I've traveled to India on a missions trip...I've traveled the world on different vacations...I started a summer camp for foster kid's in my county...I've been able to sit all night with friends in the hospital...I also get to do things the when I and how I want too...that will change once I have to consider the needs and desires of a spouse...right now, I get to decide what to spend my money on...or how much to put into savings...I can have cereal for dinner and pizza for breakfast...I can sleep in on Saturday or stay up until 2:00 am on Tuesday...

All I'm trying to say is enjoy and make the most of the stage you are at in your life right now so that when you are 48 you don't look back and say I wish I would have enjoyed being single while I had the chance...

That is what I'm told. Its not easy to belive it some days.

Times like this are when you pray Lord I believe but help my unbelief...

 

[HolyOne87]

humm ok something liek this

a top liek this

and pants like this

amd shoes liek this

i tried looking for this stuff..couldnt find much similar to it.

They had ripped jeans in the CF character thing, but they were very light (maybe take a look at them).

 

[Luther073082]

That is so awesome that you earned your college degree!!!! That is just awesome!!!!

Hasn't done me a lick of good yet.

Do you want to stay in South Bend? Or are you open to moving? Is there another job you might like to do that may not be in Finance but could still be financially better for you? What about insurance or the administration of a hospital or a state job?

There are a lot of jobs I can do, I havn't been limiting my search to just that. Those jobs you mention are just fine with me as long as they pay decent. For the right job I'd relocate to Mars at this point. So yes I'd relocate anywhere in this world if it paid well enough.

I completely understand!!! All I can tell you is to try and enjoy life now...keep busy...foster new friendships...take more ballroom dancing lessons...join a bible study...take a class...volunteer at the boys and girls club or become a big brother...make the time you have now worthwhile and don't just let it pass you by because you are waiting for your life to begin...your life is now!!!! You can make a difference in peoples lives now!!!!

I am doing a few things. I teach Sunday school and I am taking lessons and practicing for competition. But the problem is those are just side things for me. I'd never step on the dance floor again in my life if thats what it took to have a family and break into the middle class.

Again, I totally understand. I've been praying for a husband for almost 20 years and still have not been blessed with one...but I've also had the opportunity to do things in my life that I may not have been able to do had I been married. I've traveled to India on a missions trip...I've traveled the world on different vacations...I started a summer camp for foster kid's in my county...I've been able to sit all night with friends in the hospital...I also get to do things the when I and how I want too...that will change once I have to consider the needs and desires of a spouse...right now, I get to decide what to spend my money on...or how much to put into savings...I can have cereal for dinner and pizza for breakfast...I can sleep in on Saturday or stay up until 2:00 am on Tuesday...

Can't stay up til 2 am on Tuesday I have to go to work. I guess those things are true but I don't feel like any of it is good enough compaired to having a spouse. Good luck to you in your search as well.

All I'm trying to say is enjoy and make the most of the stage you are at in your life right now so that when you are 48 you don't look back and say I wish I would have enjoyed being single while I had the chance...

haha thats funny. I've been single for years and years now. The only thing that makes it worthwhile for most people to be single is casual flings and I don't do that kind of thing cause God told me not to. (Although I often wish I could) I just have had enough of the single life at this point. I want to marry while the women my age are still fertile so I can have a few kids.

Times like this are when you pray Lord I believe but help my unbelief...

Mostly my prayers have said "I can't do this God, I can't live like this for much longer."

 

[dluvs2trvl]

I'm sorry Luther...I wish there was something more I could say...I will be praying for you...

 

[AirForceTeacher]

I'm finallly home and have my internet access back!

 

[HolyOne87]

I'm finallly home and have my internet access back!

Hi, how are you doing?

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Alright, how yoo dooing!

It's my daughter's b-day, so we'l be going out tonite as soon as her mom gets her home so I can pick her up. I was hoping to pick her up on my ay into town, but oh well.

 

[HolyOne87]

im doooin good! lol

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Welcome back AFT...

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Welcome back AFT...

<hands Dluv a yellow rose he brought back from Texas>

 

[dluvs2trvl]

<dluv takes in the fragance of this beautiful rose and then reaches up and kisses AFT on the cheek...she's glad he is home>

 

[AirForceTeacher]

<AFT orders a virgin strawberry dacquiri and collapses in the couch in exhaustion>

<wants to sleep the entire 34 hours until he leaves again>

 

[dluvs2trvl]

<sounds like AFT wants to be alone so dluv slowly tiptoes out of the room so as not to disturb him...she looks back over her shoulder wishing she could cuddle on the couch with him...but maybe another time>

 

[AirForceTeacher]

<AFT sighs in disappointment - then opens one eye to look after Dluv>

I'm not that tired ...

 

[dluvs2trvl]

<dluv stops...did she hear AFT say her name??? She peeks around the door hoping...>

 

[AirForceTeacher]

<a waitress finally comes over and sits two dacqiries on the table in front of AFT's couch>

 

[dluvs2trvl]

<dluv sees two dacquiries on the table...looks like he's expecting someone...*sigh* she turns to leave the room again >