Singles fellowships

[Jenster]

As a 35+ y.o. person, do you feel there is a church fellowship that is age-appropriate for you? If so, what's the age range? And is it for singles or everybody?

And if your church doesn't have one, would you regularly attend another church's fellowship -- single or otherwise?

Just wonderin'.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

And if your church doesn't have one, would you regularly attend another church's fellowship -- single or otherwise?

Just wonderin'.

I would.

 

[Jenster]

Lately, I just haven't felt like going to a singles fellowship. Maybe because it's winter and I'd rather hibernate.

There's a nice one at a church nearby, and the people are really great. I've known them for a couple years. But since I go to a different church, sometimes it's challenging to develop deep relationships with members of that fellowship AND people at my own. Time-wise it's a little hard.

Or could there be such a thing as "fellowship fatigue"?? You know, for awhile you're all excited about it and you are faithful to go each week, but after awhile other things come up in your life and you get out of the rhythm. What's anyone think?

 

[covenantwmn]

My church doesn't currently have one. But when they did, it was kinda sad, I mean tho everybody tried hard to not seem to be "mate shopping", you could tell everyone really was, and really don't think any two ever connected. Ironically, the guy that headed it up got married just after it stopped, thru yahoo personals, they are in church every Sunday.

 

[Jenster]

Funny, covenantwmn, it seems like that tends to happen. The leaders of the group get engaged (sometimes to each other!) and the group goes through a transition period. Some groups continue; others don't.

I've been at my church for a number of years now. All the singles know each other, and it's a little tough to muster up enthusiasm for hanging out together. Not that we don't like each other, but there does seem to be that "extra" expectation for fellowship among singles (meeting someone). Unless the group can regularly attract new people, some people feel a little like they're attending out of loyalty to the church rather than excitedly.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I had to go to another church to find a single's group. Once a month all singles have the opportunity to fellowship on a Friday night with music, dessert and a message. There is a 30-40's group that goes out to dinner Sat. night twice a month after church and a twenties and thirties group that has a variety of activities. There's an older group that has their own events. I go to both of the younger groups

Because I have to work every other weekend I have been going to this church's Sat. night contemporary service right after work. I was seriously thinking about switching membership, but my son did not want to change. I have relationships with a lot more people at this other church.

 

[country woman]

At the church where I am a member there are only 7 or 8 singles 3 of which have never been married. I am one of those 3.not much to choose from.

 

[woman.at.the.well]

no there isn't a singles fellowship at my church for singles folks.

we need to get one going and I've talked about it in the past as well as got one running for a bit but it fizzled -- didn't have much help.

 

[SFBUK]

no there isn't a singles fellowship at my church for singles folks.

we need to get one going and I've talked about it in the past as well as got one running for a bit but it fizzled -- didn't have much help.

There isn't one at our church either. I've mentioned it to a few people, inlcuding the minister. I wonder, how do you go about starting a singles group? I think it would just be nice to go to something that isn't just couples and families

SFB

 

[Stanfi]

Not one at my church, but there really isn't enough people to have one anyway. In fact I had never heard of such a thing until I started haning out on CF.

I think such a thing would be good, it there was enough people, but if you only have 2 or 3 singles, then not much point.

However, like I mentioned the principle is good. I mean where else are you going to meet a single Christian? The worlds meeting places seems to be the bars, and your not going to find one there.

 

[Jenster]

There isn't one at our church either. I've mentioned it to a few people, inlcuding the minister. I wonder, how do you go about starting a singles group? I think it would just be nice to go to something that isn't just couples and families

I think it takes at least a few people - maybe three or four -- to start a singles group. At the church where I grew up, we developed a small singles group for 20somethings. Basically, a few people helped organize it. We went to play mini golf the first time. Oddly enough, a guy and gal met that very first event and later married.

Other times, we had dinner together or went to see a movie. It's just an excuse to do something and talk to people. I don't see as it has to be a big formal deal, but there do have to be a few people willing to host each event, or else it'll fall all to one person. Then that person will burn out quickly and the group will disband.

The singles fellowship I occasionally go to is much more structured and they have speakers come in and lead Bible study, etc. It's a lot of work, and I give the organizers credit. But not all fellowships have to be that way.

Mostly what you need is some reason to get together and a way to let singles in your church or other nearby churches know that it's happening.