Singles Fellowship Thread

[wvmtnkid]

I am going to try something here just to see how it goes over.    It seems there are have been quite a few threads started lately about and by single people just really needing some support and a place to vent and ask for advice.  So I thought, why not start a thread for that purpose?  My hope is that this thread will be used by singles to just get support from other singles during particularly hard times or rough situations.  I think it always helps to know you are not alone.

What do you all think?    Any takers?

 

 

[Patty]

What about hermits who like to be away from the world?

 

[Gerry]

What about hermit crabs?

Maried folks not allowed? Even to observe?

 

[Patty]

Hey Gerry,
Don't you mean crabby hermits? That's the married kind.

 

[Gerry]

You are a very wise Gorilla

 

[AnnMercy2]

I'll join up. Let's see what to say... Okay, I've been single all my life, and it do get pretty lonely but I do believe with the Lord's help I'm finally happy about being single. Just me and God. I've always thought to be truly happy I had to have someone, thank God I was to scared to do anything about it. Lord knows I might have made some serious mistakes if I did start dating. But finally after seeking God about it I've finally come to realize that it is okay to wait on God to bring me my lifemate. I mean I've always known that but when you got people trying to tell you that you need someone or always trying to fix you up it's hard to focus on what is right. But I've finally got what God has been telling me all along. That there is nothing wrong with being single all my life and waiting on him to bring the right one my way. After all I'm perfectly normal . Anyways, it feels so good to finally realize that all I got to do is wait upon God and he will send somebody to me in his time Not my time. It's taken me a very long time to realize this. I mean I always want God's timeing for every little thing in my life, but in the back of my head I was trying to rush everthing up and hoping God would change his mind and give me someone sooner than later, but let me tell ya'll something Don't try to rush God Believe me it don't work, all ya do is succed to make yourself miserable, and constantly feel unworthy. That is not a fun feeling to go around with 24 hours a day 7 days a week for a very long time. I've finally come out of the storm and am focusing much more on listening to God to see what he wants me to do with my life. I feel so free and happy that I hardly know what to do with myself. I am sooooo happy to finally be focusing on God and not on when am I going to meet my lifemate. That do get to be a drag after a while. Okay, I feel so much better getting that off my chest.

Done ranting now

Anna

 

[Blessed-one]

venting? um..... i'm usually shy..... (ha, what am i doing here?) so i haven't worked up the nerve to join uni fellowship yet, well bad thing coz it's on friday and i'm free on that day.

oh yes..... i'm waiting for the Lord to help me get through my fellowship at church. It's that... everyone's nice and all, but i hardly know them. I've been in the fellowship longer than anybody yet after so many years i still felt left out. It's so awkward on sunday after the service, coz we tend to get together and talk and i don't know what to talk about, except uni work.... and we hardly communicate outside church..... so anything that happens, whether it be good things or bad things, i don't get involved. Now i'm glad that i wasn't involved in one of those inside stuff.. u know.... how this person is having problem with another.... but i feel so.... apart from them, yet i help out wherever i can, i even lead bible studies.... but that's about it. Duty's duty, RAR!

 

[wvmtnkid]

Sure married folkes can observe and offer up advice. I just sorta wanted it to be a place where those of us that might be struggling with this (maybe struggling isn't the correct word?) could come and vent and receive encourgement. Much like what Anna posted. Some days being single is hard to cope with in a "couples" world, so it is nice to have someone to talk to who knows what you are going through.

 

[valerie]

Ok, so here's my singles rant

It seems like every time I resolve that I'm happy being single, a nice (well he seems nice at the time) man comes along and sparks my interest. The trouble is, these "nice" men have always turned out to be very bad for me, and most of them have even been very crushing to my self esteem. (Maybe I should stop being attracted to unbalanced people )

It's gotten to the point now that I feel like I don't truely deserve a good Christian man that will treat me well...yes it seems silly but after the experiences I've had, even the most stubborn people will crumble. I feel like they're all taken and there are none left for me...at least none that would want me.

So now I'm back to not wanting to be romantically involved with anyone, and PRAYING that I won't get destracted again by a rude and/or abusive man.

And thats my $0.35

Thanks for listening

 

[wvmtnkid]

Valerie-
I kinda went through this. I finally decided that I needed to change the type of person I was attracted too. It wasn't easy but I have been able to. There is a fellow that, because of work, I come into contact with quite a bit. We show up at the same events and meetings. If I allowed myself, I could be very atttracted to him. But he falls in the category of "Heartbreaker" for me, so just remembering that fact has helped me just keep things on a "friends only" basis.

But I had to do a lot of praying and ask God to show me the "right" type of person. I know they are out there! But it doesn't help that they always seem to be already married, does it? lol! Just know Valerie, I know how you feel!

 

[fieldmouse3]

We've had a singles thread going on the LBMB for over a year....I tried to start one here once upon a time, but I guess there weren't enough single people to keep it going.

Okay, here's where I stand on the issue: for a long time, I just haven't cared about relationships. Seriously, I've had very little desire to be in one. Unless, of course, it involved a certain someone I've been known to post about in the past. I suppose it would be more accurate to say that I had no desire to go out and meet anyone new and date a lot. Seeing couples together didn't really bother me. Hearing about my friends' relationships was MUCH more interesting and fun than trying to have one of my own. That's basically still my attitude, but now that I'm moving out of state to a big university, I have to admit that I'm a little curious about all the new boys there. Even so, I'm determined not to focus on that until God says it's time.

 

[littleman]

being single sucks

 

[oncewaslost]

it's not that bad. things could be worse....

 

[paulewog]

Yeah, it sure could be - you could be married!

 

[oncewaslost]

hey! that's not what i meant!

 

[paulewog]

So?

 

[Teresa11]

I am a single now for 4 years. Not by chose. My husband died after 20 years of marriage. I have a son who is 19 and not at home much. My job doesn't allow me to meet people. I live in a small retirement community, so singles aren't that availiable. I depend a lot on God to get me through. I have dated a few people. There are a lot of "unbalanced" people out there. It's just that I get so lonely sometimes and I just feel like I don't belong in the single world or the married world.

Thanks for listening,

Teresa

 

[Lbiagm]

being single is ok.

 

[Blessed-one]

i'm sorry Teresa, May God give you strength.

being single sucks

owl's right, wouldn't you rather have no relationship than have a relationship only to have it broken? seeing my friend who broke up with her b/f made me feel so fortunate. I don't think i'd be in a position to deal with this kind of emotions now..

 

[thrive]

hmm, a place to vent? alrighty.

I can relate to the broken relationship thing (seeing friends or loved ones going through bad relationship after bad relationship). It does make me want to never ever get into a relationship. But, I can also relate to feeling left out whether it be in a college group (which I'm feeling very heavily right now), or just being surrounded by couples & married people. And yes, it does stink being single sometimes more than others. I mean, just yesterday I had a relative slap herself on the knee, look at me, & say "Well, we're all ready for another wedding." I never thought I'd hear anything worse than "Where's your boyfriend?" but I think it's safe to say that beat it.

But, on top of all that, I have the gift of being an emotional woman & that rollercoaster isn't fun. I'm glad I have a place to vent now because I'm really feeling tonight ... well, not sad, but maybe melancholy about not having a "significant other". I do want to meet someone, but I don't want to rush God either. It's strange, because a lot of the time I want to ask Him if He doesn't want me to be single forever, then why am I single for so long? And if He DOES, then why the desire to not be? (You get me? lol)

I've just had so many different forms of advice, so many people trying to fix me up, so many people wondering why I'm single, & so few "social opportunities" that I'm left throwing my hands up in surrender & screaming WHAT DO YOU WANT, GOD!?.

*breathes*

I trust the Lord, I always have, He's kept me for a reason, I've always known that, but I'm wondering if I should feel guilty about questioning Him. I know I shouldn't have any reason to, but it's getting more difficult to find that place of peace where I'm happy w/ just being who He created me to be. Guess I'm just looking for a balance. If nothing else, I just want to get off this crazy rollercoaster!