Singles' Corner of Personal Topics

[Robinsegg]

I could be wrong, but I *think* the idea is to be able to clear up misconceptions about expectations and perceptions. There may be a perception among single women that single men think x. In this area, a single woman can *ask* single men if they think x . . . and maybe find out they think q.

R

 

[GreenMunchkin]

Thanks, Robinsegg

I suppose, the thing is, when I first joined, I was very active in the Singles section for the first 3 or 4 months but quickly left as it was full of threads, for example, where women would fairly graphically discuss their thoughts on masturbation, etc, and how often they did it... whether to entice the men or whatever, I don't know. It may be a very different place now, though, so if it is, please please ignore me completely. It's just, in a sub-forum primarily about sex (although, I understand its remit would be somewhat wider than that) it could very easily turn into what I described, and while it's helpful to get support in this area, for many people (including people who are struggling with porn addictions, for example) it could be a real stumbling block, and CF should be a bit of a haven for them.

But maybe there's a way around that, I don't know.

 

[Robinsegg]

Well, the other rules (say, the rule against explicit text/images) would still be in force. We're already talking about fairly closely monitoring such an area.

This area would be much like the "For Women Who Struggle" subforum in WD. I think it could be tried . . . at least on a trial basis?
R

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Hi GM

I would suggest that you visit the singles area again because it is nothing as you described

We have lots of fun fellowship threads....we discuss personal problems we are experiencing in relationships with parents or friendships or dating relationships....we discuss spiritual questions....we pray for each other....it is a very well rounded community

I do understand your concern however, I would have to disagree with the idea that it would become a "haven" for inappropriate discussion. I think the misconception you have is that you think we'll be discussing HOW to have sex and getting graphic - that is not the case at all.

I've stated previously an example of a discussion that I wish would've been allowed to continue in the singles forum. A female had posted about having a history of sleeping with men and she has now chosen NOT to do that any more until she is married. She was worried though that no "good Christian man" would want her based on her past history. While only a few men had posted in the thread there were also some posts by women who were encouraging her and supporting her. Given time it could've really helped this person towards healing her heart. However, the thread was shut down because of "discussing" premarital sex.

I can't explain it in any other ways than I already have so I won't even try all I will say is that I think as a community of believers we need to respect ALL people and understand that while something may not be an issues for us, or we may see something as an inappropriate topic for discussion, others may not and may have a real need for counsel and input from other believers.

It has also been suggested that the sub-forum (which would NOT be a place to just discuss sex) be heavily modded and I have agreed to be very active in the forum. Perhaps you would want to as well

 

[timbo81]

there needs to be a sub-forum for singles looking for a partner or something.


this board is probably the largest congreation of christians on the web and there is nothing for singles looking for a partner. It just seems like a missed opportunity since christians already have a hard time finding a partner. There is sub-forums for everything else but not for something as basic as finding a partner, which is one of the most basic desires of an adult


the "singles" forum as it's described is not designed for people meeting but for those who are celibate and want support but alot of people posting there aren't celibate but are posting there anyway cause there is nothing else.

 

[Robinsegg]

Ok, I'm "bumping" this thread, as it hasn't been posted in for nearly a month
R