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What is this thread about? Singles bar? Bar of what? soap?

Oh, well a bar is a place where one obtains alcoholic beverages. However as this is a Christian forum, I suspect the OP intended the topic to be about single Christians meeting and talking.

Oh yes, do you remember that girl I made that video for? Well she rejected me after 91 days of stringing me along ^_^

Anyway, God has healed me so much in the last two days that I might just shake her hand next time I see her. It's been a long time since I've cried about anything.

In the same day God showed me that I've been living a lie. For most of my teenage years i've been presenting faces to people because i'm afraid of them hurting me for me. So that's why I do weird things, so that when people insult me, that I figure it is because of the thing i'm doing and not me.

Anyway, God fixed me, and for the first time in my life I feel free.
 
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In the same day God showed me that I've been living a lie. For most of my teenage years i've been presenting faces to people because i'm afraid of them hurting me for me. So that's why I do weird things, so that when people insult me, that I figure it is because of the thing i'm doing and not me.

Anyway, God fixed me, and for the first time in my life I feel free.

It's so easy to put on those masks eh! But if you want people to love you for you, then you have to be you. It's a hard lesson to learn, but it looks like you made it.
 
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It's so easy to put on those masks eh! But if you want people to love you for you, then you have to be you. It's a hard lesson to learn, but it looks like you made it.

I have been doing it for so long that I didn't know how it felt to be me, I was a lie to my parents, a lie to God, a lie to my friends.

For the first time in my life I've felt loved, and at peace because the Holy spirit moved in me last Saturday, after I was rejected, and for the first time in a long time I cried, and I feel healed.

I know it is real because usually the feelings fades for me after 10 minutes, but I've felt free for a couple of days now, and I love Jesus so much it hurts. I don't have to defend him any-more, or be afraid because God is bigger than me, and he doesn't need my help. All I need to do is love him with whatever I am, and then he will simply use me.

I've been fighting all my life and finally I am free.

That girl I was with for 91 days doesn't even know me because I was never myself to anyone, not even God. But now I am myself.

In the last year i've been cured of self-loathing, and being a lie. I used to hurt myself because I hated myself. When I was younger I couldn't handle the pain people put me through so I made faces so that when I was hurt that my inner self was never in sight, but the love of Jesus is so thick and tangible, and he loves me even though I've done so much wrong.

The reason I guess I hurt myself is because when I was alone I knew who I was and what I was, and I hated myself. I used to take sharp things and just cut myself, and when I didn't have anything sharp I would use my nails.

I've been hurt so much by people and my parents and my friends that I hid myself, I had miniature break-downs at times, protecting my inner-self from people.

But Jesus has healed me, I feel free, i'm no longer scared because Jesus loves me for me, and if everyone in this world hated me, Jesus would still love me, and that's all that matters to me now.

That was a bit long, sorry about that.

In my picture, i'm hiding, that's not me - i'm showing a confident face, that I used to put on when I knew people would hurt me.
 
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Hello everyone. I'm single, hence my presense. I would've asked out about 3 girls at my college, but none of them are Christians, and the Christian girls I've met haven't interested me at all. Prior to college, the two serious infatuations I had had were a friend's girlfriend and a girl who I was too shy to admit my feelings for at the time. Other than that, there was just a silly puppy love thing in Middle School, and a friend who I had a crush on for a couple weeks out of the blue What rotten luck.:confused: I think I'll be eligible to post here for some time.;)
 
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I have been doing it for so long that I didn't know how it felt to be me, I was a lie to my parents, a lie to God, a lie to my friends.

For the first time in my life I've felt loved, and at peace because the Holy spirit moved in me last Saturday, after I was rejected, and for the first time in a long time I cried, and I feel healed.

I know it is real because usually the feelings fades for me after 10 minutes, but I've felt free for a couple of days now, and I love Jesus so much it hurts. I don't have to defend him any-more, or be afraid because God is bigger than me, and he doesn't need my help. All I need to do is love him with whatever I am, and then he will simply use me.

I've been fighting all my life and finally I am free.

That girl I was with for 91 days doesn't even know me because I was never myself to anyone, not even God. But now I am myself.

In the last year i've been cured of self-loathing, and being a lie. I used to hurt myself because I hated myself. When I was younger I couldn't handle the pain people put me through so I made faces so that when I was hurt that my inner self was never in sight, but the love of Jesus is so thick and tangible, and he loves me even though I've done so much wrong.

The reason I guess I hurt myself is because when I was alone I knew who I was and what I was, and I hated myself. I used to take sharp things and just cut myself, and when I didn't have anything sharp I would use my nails.

I've been hurt so much by people and my parents and my friends that I hid myself, I had miniature break-downs at times, protecting my inner-self from people.

But Jesus has healed me, I feel free, i'm no longer scared because Jesus loves me for me, and if everyone in this world hated me, Jesus would still love me, and that's all that matters to me now.

That was a bit long, sorry about that.

In my picture, i'm hiding, that's not me - i'm showing a confident face, that I used to put on when I knew people would hurt me.

This guy knows what's up!

props man, I give you props :) just keep on that track ^^
unfortunately so many people can relate to you (myself included) yet they never realize it's so wrong.
 
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This guy knows what's up!

props man, I give you props :) just keep on that track ^^
unfortunately so many people can relate to you (myself included) yet they never realize it's so wrong.

Thank you. My favourite scripture

Philippians 1:6 (King James Version)

6Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:

It's nice to know there are people who can relate, at times I feel so completely unlike other people that I don't know where I stand.
 
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Thank you. My favourite scripture

Philippians 1:6 (King James Version)

6Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:

It's nice to know there are people who can relate, at times I feel so completely unlike other people that I don't know where I stand.


you'd be surprised! a lot of people don't have the bravery to admit it, instead they are afraid of their image, of what other people think of them, being rejected and the such. a part of being human is wanting to be accepted, I think everyone has masks of some form they wear.
 
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Well, I was just teasing. Hopefully your, uh, complicated situation goes fine.
Yea, friendly teasing is great, we could use more lively jokes around here! ^_^

And the complicated part is that he's 6 years older...so we're just waiting. =)
 
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Yea, friendly teasing is great, we could use more lively jokes around here! ^_^

And the complicated part is that he's 6 years older...so we're just waiting. =)

Is he out of college? Is the age difference awkward, or are you just very old for your age?
 
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you'd be surprised! a lot of people don't have the bravery to admit it, instead they are afraid of their image, of what other people think of them, being rejected and the such. a part of being human is wanting to be accepted, I think everyone has masks of some form they wear.

Yeah I agree with you. But I didn't realise this was a case of being brave or not, I just know I've sinned and I'm glad i've stopped because I hate sinning and doing things that God doesn't like.

It's too complicated to keep doing it, i'd rather just be me and learn to live with me.
 
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Is he out of college? Is the age difference awkward, or are you just very old for your age?

He went to collage for a few years and is now planning to go to a Bible college to become a pastor! He's goofy and quarky, yet really mature. =)
And I don't know, but people sometimes tell me that I seem older than I really am...that I'm like a mother to my little sisters.(In some ways I don't like that I am) But, I guess it's a mixture of both.
 
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He went to collage for a few years and is now planning to go to a Bible college to become a pastor! He's goofy and quarky, yet really mature. =)
And I don't know, but people sometimes tell me that I seem older than I really am...that I'm like a mother to my little sisters.(In some ways I don't like that I am) But, I guess it's a mixture of both.

I've been interesting in dating an older girl(21-25), but they always seem so picky about dating anyone younger than them.
 
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I've been interesting in dating an older girl(21-25), but they always seem so picky about dating anyone younger than them.
I don't have a problem with this, but in most cases women, I guess, feel like they'd need a stronger, wiser, more mature man to be with...I feels more natural to eventually submit to an older man. I guess right now you're just too mature for girls younger than you.
 
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