Singles Anonymous??

[Teufelhund]

Heh. I always just used this board to cure boredom, and I ended up meeting the love of my life on singles forum, but not cuz either of us were looking to hook up, actually. Now? I still use it to cure boredom

If you cured your boredom, why are you still here?

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Oh, trust me, I'm ADD. It's NEVER cured.

 

[overit]

Well though it's a cute thread I have nothing to add...I don't feel being single is a "condition" we must be cured from

Given the state of the institution of marriage and all ..... LOL

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I'll just do my part in fixing the institution

 

[ido]

Well though it's a cute thread I have nothing to add...I don't feel being single is a "condition" we must be cured from

Given the state of the institution of marriage and all ..... LOL

Well, if you think it's cute then it's serving it's purpose, b/c it's only supposed to be for fun.

Although, I don't think anyone said they needed to "cure" singleness ...it's certainly not a disease.

As for marriage - it's the people that are a mess, not the insitution.

 

[Teufelhund]

Oh, trust me, I'm ADD. It's NEVER cured.

I don't think all young people today have ADD...oh wait, did you see the new Iron Man trailer, it is awesome. Actually I think that ADD is overdiagnosed, especially because I know somebody who is genuinly ADD, like a kid with Fetal Alcohol Affect, and this modern overdiagnoses takes so much away from him.

 

[overit]

Well, if you think it's cute then it's serving it's purpose, b/c it's only supposed to be for fun.

Although, I don't think anyone said they needed to "cure" singleness ...it's certainly not a disease.

As for marriage - it's the people that are a mess, not the insitution.

Oh I know, I just had to make my point lol.

And people make up the institution...messy people, messy institution....solution: Stay SINGLE! LOL

That is step 12 (realization that you were where you needed to be to begin with).

1. Admit you are sad and you have a problem being alone
2. Your friends are enlisted to support you in your search
3. The search turns out several candidates
4. You go through several years or dating, broken hearts and trying to find the one that works best with you
5. You find him (or so you think)
6. You guys get engaged
7. You get married
8. You have kids (and some pets)
9. Everyone gets messy and things go sour
10. It gets nastier and the divorce is a done deal
11. You heal from your divorce
12. You realize being single was the best stage to begin with, and best left unMESSED with

LOL-ummm, yeah that's meant to be cute also btw guys

 

[Luther073082]

Overit you are such an uplifting person for us single and nevermarrieds and divorced and looking to re-marry.

Guy that I work with, has been married for 30 years though and he once gave me some advice though.

He said "Kirk, don't get married, just get a dog. They don't have a monthly cycle, they are 100% loyal, and they are always happy to see you when you get home."

 

[ido]

Oh I know, I just had to make my point lol.

And people make up the institution...messy people, messy institution....solution: Stay SINGLE! LOL

That is step 12 (realization that you were where you needed to be to begin with).

1. Admit you are sad and you have a problem being alone
2. Your friends are enlisted to support you in your search
3. The search turns out several candidates
4. You go through several years or dating, broken hearts and trying to find the one that works best with you
5. You find him (or so you think)
6. You guys get engaged
7. You get married
8. You have kids (and some pets)
9. Everyone gets messy and things go sour
10. It gets nastier and the divorce is a done deal
11. You heal from your divorce
12. You realize being single was the best stage to begin with, and best left unMESSED with

LOL-ummm, yeah that's meant to be cute also btw guys

I'm sorry that you feel that way, even if it's meant to be "cute"

 

[overit]

Overit you are such an uplifting person for us single and nevermarrieds and divorced and looking to re-marry.

Guy that I work with, has been married for 30 years though and he once gave me some advice though.

He said "Kirk, don't get married, just get a dog. They don't have a monthly cycle, they are 100% loyal, and they are always happy to see you when you get home."

Oh I know, aren't I? LOL Maybe I'm trying to be the other side of the coin-swing the pendulum the other side so between the moaning and crying of singles that are desperate to be married-and the reality of those that got bit in the rear-the singles will then come to a happy medium content stage where they can take it or leave it LOL-AND btw, that is personally, exactly where I'm at. I just have to be devils advocate

And you co-worker was a wise man-except instead of the monthly cycle I'd replace that with: They don't create a ton of work we need to clean up after....a dog will at least lick up the crumbs on the floor hehehe.

And if you neuter them, they won't stray

 

[ido]

Anyway - back to the regularly scheduled programming...what step did we leave off on???

 

[sweetlambofgod]

Well I have done 1-4, not gunna relocate for just anyone

 

[ido]

LOL sweet. I don't blame ya - unless it was a really cool location.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

LOL sweet. I don't blame ya - unless it was a really cool location.

haha he would have to be pretty special!

 

[ido]

Yeah - I hear ya. There was a guy I met through a mutual friend that lives in California. We talked for several months after his visit here to Florida and he kept asking me to come visit him, but I couldn't imagine relocating if things went well between us, so I resisted. That would have been a long way to move for someone!

 

[dluvs2trvl]

And for me, relocating isn't a problem. so I'm open to a long distance relationship...they have their own set of challenges but if it's the right man and he's the man that God has chosen for me then I can move anywhere...

 

[overit]

Yeah - I hear ya. There was a guy I met through a mutual friend that lives in California. We talked for several months after his visit here to Florida and he kept asking me to come visit him, but I couldn't imagine relocating if things went well between us, so I resisted. That would have been a long way to move for someone!

I agree with you here, and one of the reasons I broke off the relationship I had that was long distance.

I really prayed over it and thought about it a lot, and simply could not think of rellocating the kids and I, and that's a reason I will never date long distance again.

 

[ido]

Yeah - I hear ya. There was a guy I met through a mutual friend that lives in California. We talked for several months after his visit here to Florida and he kept asking me to come visit him, but I couldn't imagine relocating if things went well between us, so I resisted. That would have been a long way to move for someone!

And for me, relocating isn't a problem. so I'm open to a long distance relationship...they have their own set of challenges but if it's the right man and he's the man that God has chosen for me then I can move anywhere...

I agree with you here, and one of the reasons I broke off the relationship I had that was long distance.

I really prayed over it and thought about it a lot, and simply could not think of rellocating the kids and I, and that's a reason I will never date long distance again.

That was before I was married. I don't know why, but I was really hesitant about moving. He was a great guy, so I could have totally passed up a wonderful relationship - guess I'll never know. I haven't had the nerve to ask our mutual friend about him since my divorce. Like overit said, now, with kids, it's definitely not an option anyway, so it may just be best to leave sleeping dogs lie.