Single sucks...

[Oddish]

I am not a part of any dating sites, mainly because I think that internet dating could be a whole lot trickier than it is offline. Maybe this time of singleness if for you to grow as a person, it sounds like you might need it if you struggle to hold a conversation. I am not knocking you, I myself have some self esteem problems which I am trying to work on. I would like to be in a relationship right now, because I think singleness can encourage selfishness, and I want to be a part of a team with someone. But I guess God has other plans for me right now.

 

[Oddish]

it's okay, you can overcome that reluctance. You just have to go out there and do it, and fail a few times. Personality is big for me too, since I am attracted to different types of women.

Some good advice. Practice makes perfect. Don't worry about rejection, you can learn from it, and move on.

 

[Oddish]

Ways to continue a conversation or make it last:

- Ask open questions, that don't require just a simple yes or no.
- Use the answer to talk about something.
- Crack a joke.

 

[127.0.0.1]

keep in mind men outnumber women on those sites by a huge margin.

Oh believe me, I know. Every other journal entry from women is a plea for men to stop asking for casual sex, reminding the men that clear isn't list in their, Looking for, section.

As a result, women only look at the super catchy message titles that they think won't be boob requests.

So you'd think I'd be in the clear since I don't do that crap...but no...sad thing is...via the forums...it sounds like guys messaging boob requests get more responses than I do. Kinda sad. And the more misogynistic members seem to be more popular with the ladies than I am. Kinda double frustratingly sad...and confusing.

So I asked if it was true that women prefer jerks, and the overwhelming from response (from men) was yes. lol. Sigh.

But I comfort myself by telling myself that the women are just as shallow as the men. And you know what? OKCupid did a journal that said hot male abs pics get more attention than face pics (provided the abs are muscular).

So it's all even. Guys ask for casual sex from women's profiles which they didn't read or they'd know she wasn't look for that. And women prefer muscular abs to face pics. Thus...guys like me...

I'm sure I'll have better luck in the real world. If I could just find a woman...

 

[Blank123]

ugh. honestly if i see a guy posting pictures of himself sans shirt i've crossed him off my list of consideration. to me that just screams desperate.

 

[Rhye]

ugh. honestly if i see a guy posting pictures of himself sans shirt i've crossed him off my list of consideration. to me that just screams desperate.

Ditto!

 

[Hisbygrace]

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[anewday]

I'm pretty discouraged about dating too. I just read some things on the marriage thread. Yeah, alot was discouraging. You guys gotta remember that not all marriages are nightmares. I'm sure they are hard though (although I'm sure they are a stronger word than hard, just can't find one). Anywho, this is all probably not new to you all. I just thought I would put my two cents in...

Focus on the friendships that you have and doing things that you love. I wish I had a significant other to share life with right now, but I'm trying to enjoy the things I can while single. I've also heard it said that people have met their future spouses when they weren't looking. Again, I'm sure you've heard all this before...gonna go back to lurking....

 

[anewday]

I just realized you didn't mention marriage in your first thread, but you know what I mean, you may find someone when you aren't looking .

 

[127.0.0.1]

Wouldn't it be hilarious if I met someone on CF? It won't happen though, I'm way too liberal, and most here are far more conservative. But still, if it did happen...lol!

 

[Blank123]

there are very liberal people here too, you just have to know where to look

 

[Aino]

there are very liberal people here too, you just have to know where to look

LOL that's right... What about starting with the Liberal forum for example?

 

[K9_Trainer]

Hey, you'll find somebody. Not all women like guys who are assertive and cocky and super confident. The best thing about generalizations that you have to remember, is that there are always exceptions. You just gotta wait and eventually you will find the one woman that is the exception, and likes you for who you are. One that can compensate in the areas you're lacking, and you'll compensate in the areas she's lacking.

 

[Wren]

Wouldn't it be hilarious if I met someone on CF? It won't happen though, I'm way too liberal, and most here are far more conservative. But still, if it did happen...lol!

That's what I thought and it turned out that my being a liberal (well I consider myself a progressive now, since learning the true definitions of progressive and liberal) was a good thing. Granted our relationship ended recently, but it started here on CF.

 

[K9_Trainer]

I think a liberal-conservative relationship CAN work, it just depends on the people. I know a lot of people who are actually very conservative, but they have absolutely no issues fellowshipping and maintaining relationships with people who are liberal and hold different beliefs. We all have our different beliefs, its just a matter of not taking opposing opinions personally, and not shoving our own beliefs down others throats because we're "right" and they are "wrong". This goes for both, very conservative types and very liberal types.

 

[citizenthom]

"Liberal" and "conservative" are pointless labels. The real critical qualities in a relationship are 1.) honesty/openness, and 2.) structure. "Conservative" girls can make terrible partners if they are unwilling to open up and be forthright because it's "not proper." "Liberal" girls can make terrible partners if they want to argue over everything to show their "independence" instead of recognizing the Biblical structure for relationships. But I've dated girls of both stripes who have gotten over those vices.

 

[Wren]

I don't think they are necessarily pointless labels. Maybe to some here, but to others it is a key indicator of values and interests. Those things matter in a mate. I do agree that conservative and liberal people can make it work, but I think it's also certainly understandable to want to be with somone who shares the same worldview (for lack of a better word) as you do...which for some is indicated by those labels.

 

[127.0.0.1]

Thankfully, I don't see myself as being super-political. Also, I think I may be more of a liberal minority anyway.

 

[havana16]

Command, do you have a male best friend, if so then there is another form of love that is also satisfying

YouTube - scrubs - guy love

 

[127.0.0.1]

Command, do you have a male best friend, if so then there is another form of love that is also satisfying

A) Have you ever ready Plato's Symposium?

B) TV is not reality.