Single or Single again and thirty

[GeekWriter]

I broke off an engagement in my mid-20s right before the wedding, because my ex-fiance basically had a nervous breakdown and decided he wanted a doormat instead of a spouse.

In many ways, I've chosen to be single. I still want for someone, but compared to most of my single friends, I'm fairly content. I find plenty of things to do. Now, I have issues with my health and I care for an aging father who is very difficult to live with.

Life hasn't been easy. My career choice is riddled by layoffs (I'm a teacher), and now I work at home to keep an eye on my dad. I dunno what I want, but I'm tired of being a caregiver, and I really don't want a relationship where I end up being the same. Happy to share equally, but I don't want to be the one who's always trying to get us to church and be responsible. Most of the guys who ask me out aren't concerned with their spiritual health, and I don't want to be the spiritual leader.

 

[Ezeretane]

I broke off an engagement in my mid-20s right before the wedding, because my ex-fiance basically had a nervous breakdown and decided he wanted a doormat instead of a spouse.

In many ways, I've chosen to be single. I still want for someone, but compared to most of my single friends, I'm fairly content. I find plenty of things to do. Now, I have issues with my health and I care for an aging father who is very difficult to live with.

Life hasn't been easy. My career choice is riddled by layoffs (I'm a teacher), and now I work at home to keep an eye on my dad. I dunno what I want, but I'm tired of being a caregiver, and I really don't want a relationship where I end up being the same. Happy to share equally, but I don't want to be the one who's always trying to get us to church and be responsible. Most of the guys who ask me out aren't concerned with their spiritual health, and I don't want to be the spiritual leader.

you are very courageous doing what you do

i hope you will find the right guy

how is it, it is so difficult to find the right person when there are so many amazing people around (ok most of them are already taken : is that the reason , women are not patient enough? )

 

[Timyone]

I just realised I can now post in here!!! funny that I moved right into the singles thread considering I am normally in the singles forum! I don't know if I am worried about being single or not. But yeah I have been at churches with a heap of single people who are over every thing being aimed at couples, families and young people! so I guess it is good for us all to think about.

(lol I never thought about the term never married for me before, as you don't really use it on young people as much! are we still young? I was planning on being young until 40 or so, then I don't know what title I will go for after that! depending on if I am old and married by then!)

 

[sampa]

My last post in this thread. May the Lord be with you all, I turn 40 on Jan 26th!

 

[Purge187]

Praying for Geek to be blessed for being a good daughter and a teacher.

 

[sampa]

Yes, I missed Geeks post, sorry. Will be pray!

 

[Evie1980]

My last post in this thread. May the Lord be with you all, I turn 40 on Jan 26th!

Happy "Australia Day" Birthday Sampa! Have a good one and may the Lord bless you in the year to come.

 

[sampa]

Happy "Australia Day" Birthday Sampa! Have a good one and may the Lord bless you in the year to come.

Thanks Evie Your awesome. Miss being on here with you

 

[ibelongtothelord]

I can't help but be curious about single men in their 30's. I'm a single woman in my 30's and God just hasn't introduced me to my future husband, if He wants me to marry at all. Do you ever feel like it's almost impossible to find a worthwhile woman to marry? Do you find yourselves rejecting a woman because she's had another marriage and/or children? I can't help but want a man with a clean slate myself. I've never been married or had children. My friends say I should abandon that idea completely. I'm not sure.......I am very curious about the male point of view on this topic!

 

[Purge187]

I can't help but be curious about single men in their 30's. I'm a single woman in my 30's and God just hasn't introduced me to my future husband, if He wants me to marry at all. Do you ever feel like it's almost impossible to find a worthwhile woman to marry? Do you find yourselves rejecting a woman because she's had another marriage and/or children? I can't help but want a man with a clean slate myself. I've never been married or had children. My friends say I should abandon that idea completely. I'm not sure.......I am very curious about the male point of view on this topic!

I'm Christian and childfree, so my options are limited. Only God knows what my future holds, and He knows what yours holds, so don't pay too much to what your friends tell you.

 

[ibelongtothelord]

I'm Christian and childfree, so my options are limited. Only God knows what my future holds, and He knows what yours holds, so don't pay too much to what your friends tell you.

You're soo right! I couldn't have said it better myself!
In what way do you feel that your options are limited?

 

[Purge187]

In what way do you feel that your options are limited?

Most people want kids; I don't.

 

[ibelongtothelord]

Most people want kids; I don't.

Yeah, that would limit you quite a bit huh? LOL!! Hey, at least you're honest about it!

 

[Smeds]

I'm 33 and single and have been for 4 years but it doesn't bother me. If I meet someone good, if not I'll just carry on enjoying the single life with all the freedoms that come with it.

 

[SilverBlade]

I'm 31, single, and I absolutely hate it. I hate it with a passion. I see couples everywhere and I go from 0 to rage in a second. I feel like it's the world mocking me for not having a girlfriend, and taunting me.

 

[ibelongtothelord]

silverblade,
what do you feel a girlfriend would provide in your life emotionally and mentally that Jesus cannot provide? The physical is obvious but I'm always curious why people cannot be content or feel complete while being single......

 

[Purge187]

silverblade,
what do you feel a girlfriend would provide in your life emotionally and mentally that Jesus cannot provide? The physical is obvious but I'm always curious why people cannot be content or feel complete while being single......

You answered your own question. It's not blasphemy to say that God cannot meet our desires to pray, walk hand-in-hand, and be physically intimate with another human being.

 

[covered4god]

I am single never married never had sex and 30 years old. why do guys see this as a problem and run the other way. Even christian guys seem to not like this.

 

[SilverBlade]

I am single never married never had sex and 30 years old. why do guys see this as a problem and run the other way. Even christian guys seem to not like this.

I think it's the same reason why girls seem to think it's a problem. They see a 30 yr old virgin and think "gee, since no one wanted them enough to have sex with them, that makes me to not want them."

That's the exact problem I'm facing as a 31 yr old virgin (though I have had some medical issues that needed to be dealt with, so it's not entirely by choice..)

 

[covered4god]

I chose the virgin part but not the never dating part. i was diginosed with MS 7 years ago and it seems now as soon as a guy finds out its over the hills and away. but i figure god knew this would happen and he wants me to use it and learn from it i just have not figured out what i am soposta do with this other than get turned into a human pin cushion by the doctors I am taking to a doctor who is new to the christian faith so mabye this is a good thing. I can use this is a way to minister to people at the hospital ya think.
I would love to meet a virgin guy that lives his life by gods standards but so far