Single mom

[sparkydave]

More updates:

We've been seeing a lot of each other, and talking nearly every day. We've both figured out that we feel safe with each other and that our intentions are genuine. We've shared our sad stories, got our skeletons out of the closet, talked about what we like, what we don't like, and what we're looking for. We've agreed that we still have a good feeling about each other and we're committed to seeing this to some conclusion.

She invited me to spend Thanksgiving with her mom, dad, aunt, uncle, and grandmother, and it seems I have met with their approval. She's been talking to her sister, whom I haven't seen since college, and while her sister was a little surprised, remembering me as the geeky, quiet, shy guy, she's happy things seem to be going well.

Her kids have counseling, and she talked to the counselor about how to approach dating after divorce with her kids. The counselor talked with her kids, and word is that they are OK with the idea of mom finding a new boyfriend. No mention of me yet, she's agreed we'll take it slow and hold off a while before introducing them. The counselor also had some good info she shared with me.

 

[dayhiker]

Thanks for the update, dave ... sounds like things are going very well.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

that's awesome sparkydave!

 

[OGM]

Great!

 

[sparkydave]

Long time, but some more updates:

We're spending weekends together, and her folks have been including me in family get-togethers. We've talked lots about the future, and we still have a good feeling that we were supposed to meet.

We have had to keep our relationship somewhat discreet; until last week she was still in the divorce process. It was a long, drawn-out business marred with her ex arguing over some things, changing his mind on other things, his attorney died, but they finally got it resolved 2 years after they filed for divorce. Her family and our close friends knew, but we figured it safer that we kept it under wraps in case her ex wanted to make an issue out of it.

Kind of excited though, her two boys have heard my name before, and they know their mom has a friend named Dave who was able to fix one of their toys at Christmas. Now that the divorce is finalized, her attorney and the boys' counselor gave the OK to finally meet, so we're going to the zoo this Saturday and I'm meeting the boys for the first time. She says when she suggested going to the zoo, the boys were excited. Then they were excited when she told them her friend Dave, who has never been the zoo might be joining them.

 

[pittsflyer]

If you can manage to set up a regular FWB situation then waiting 3 years to "heal" is plausable but if not then you kind of dont have a choice unless you want to be celibate which most men dont.

Yes. She's going through a divorce. People sometimes rebound, watch out with that. I met someone else in no time but I thought I was over the first one and it turned out I wasn't. It took 3 or 4 years before I was over him.