Single Mom Fellowship

[Cassie76]

Hi Rebecca, it's nice to know that I'm not alone

 

[RebeccatheGreat]

How are you Ladies?

 

[Lambkins]

Hello Ladies

I am new to this this single mom stuff...my husband left me after 25 years of marriage and now I am left to raise my 16 year old daughter alone!

We went through a terrible night and I need some ladies that undrstand what I am going through and hopefully to lend some help and support!

I am looking forward to meeting you all!!

Love and HUGGIES from Lamby!!

 

[RebeccatheGreat]

Hello Ladies

I am new to this this single mom stuff...my husband left me after 25 years of marriage and now I am left to raise my 16 year old daughter alone!

We went through a terrible night and I need some ladies that undrstand what I am going through and hopefully to lend some help and support!

I am looking forward to meeting you all!!

Love and HUGGIES from Lamby!!

I am so sorry I have not been here and was not here when you posted this and needed support!

welcome,and I'm really sorry about your husband.I'm a good listener,feel free to pm me any time.
I'm praying for you to be blessed with all God has for you!

 

[InHisCare]

I just read your post and I felt like I needed to share this with you....This is my first time on the "single mom" site. I was having a very hard time with my oldest this evening and was looking for some insight. I too was married to an alcoholic. We had three children together and were married for almost twenty years. Some good times and a lot of bad times. We were separated for awhile and when his drinking was at its worst, I got a Leagal separation. When he was better, I took him back. I never believed in divorce and was told that marriage was forever. Long story short....he died of liver failure at the age of 43. I was at his side, and felt him take his last breath. Our two oldest children were also there. The baby was only 1 1/2. The reason I'm am sharing this with you is because of my oldest son. He is almost eighteen and we were talking this evening about his dad. He said that because his dad took so much out of our lives, he didn't even feel like I loved him. He said it would have been better for me to have left his dad and been done with it a long time ago. My son had so much hurt, and I feel terrible to have been part of the cause of it all. I couldn't control my husband's drinking but I could control my decisions. My husband was also verbally and sometimes physically abusive. The point of this, for whatever it was worth it that you cannot deal rationally with an irrational person. You have to do whatever you can to keep you and your children safe. Pray for your husband but don't allow him to do harm to your family. If that means a separation or divorce, so be it. If I had it to do all over again I would have gotton me and my kids as far away from him as possible. I'm sorry if I said too much. You have to do what you feel is best. Tonight I will be praying for you and your children.

 

[InHisCare]

Sorry ladies, this is still new to me. My post #65 was in reply to post #47 by sreno7

 

[country woman]

I am also a single mom. I have raised my daughter alone for the past 22 years. I left my ex boyfriend cause he was abusive and I almost died

 

[RebeccatheGreat]

I just read your post and I felt like I needed to share this with you....This is my first time on the "single mom" site. I was having a very hard time with my oldest this evening and was looking for some insight. I too was married to an alcoholic. We had three children together and were married for almost twenty years. Some good times and a lot of bad times. We were separated for awhile and when his drinking was at its worst, I got a Leagal separation. When he was better, I took him back. I never believed in divorce and was told that marriage was forever. Long story short....he died of liver failure at the age of 43. I was at his side, and felt him take his last breath. Our two oldest children were also there. The baby was only 1 1/2. The reason I'm am sharing this with you is because of my oldest son. He is almost eighteen and we were talking this evening about his dad. He said that because his dad took so much out of our lives, he didn't even feel like I loved him. He said it would have been better for me to have left his dad and been done with it a long time ago. My son had so much hurt, and I feel terrible to have been part of the cause of it all. I couldn't control my husband's drinking but I could control my decisions. My husband was also verbally and sometimes physically abusive. The point of this, for whatever it was worth it that you cannot deal rationally with an irrational person. You have to do whatever you can to keep you and your children safe. Pray for your husband but don't allow him to do harm to your family. If that means a separation or divorce, so be it. If I had it to do all over again I would have gotton me and my kids as far away from him as possible. I'm sorry if I said too much. You have to do what you feel is best. Tonight I will be praying for you and your children.

Thank you so much for sharing that and welcome to our thread.
I agree we all have to do what we feel is right.
my husband was and is the worst alcoholic I've ever seen,and I was with him 15 years.he was so verbally and mentally abusive to us, and especially my (not his) oldest son (he was 10 months old when we met) that he would have these talks with me late at night from the time he was maybe 6 until 11 or so,and say "mom, you've gotta get him out of here."
my little boy would tell me that.and I would say I know son, but I'm afraid.and I stayed until he turned 13.
I ruined the person my son would have been by being a coward and to stupid to understand how profoundly he was being hurt emotionally. I was more afraid of my husband going crazy and killing us if I kicked him out,or of us being homeless than what he was actually doing to us.
I always prayed and trusted God to fix him.
God was waiting for me to leave....He doesn't want us to be abused.
I entered in to that marriage being a new Christian,and knowing he was far from it,so it was doomed from the start.

sorry, I'm probably saying to much.:o
but anyway,I'm glad you're here and I hope we all can support and care for one another.

 

[RebeccatheGreat]

I am also a single mom. I have raised my daughter alone for the past 22 years. I left my ex boyfriend cause he was abusive and I almost died

Hi Country Woman,I'm glad you're here!
and I'm glad you got out of that situation.being a single mom is the hardest thing in the world I believe,but it's the best and only choice sometimes.

 

[JC'S~GIRL]

I am a single mom by choice. I would love to talk to you if you have any questions. I don't think I'll find many others around here, but who knows!

-Beth Mae

WOW! I APPLAUD U =] YOU'RE A STRONG WOMAN BY EXAMPLE.

 

[HKAngel]

Hi there, I'm Tonia and I'm a single mom to a beautiful 6 month old girl. I'm currently dating a single dad of 2. Kayla's father is not in her life, my bf's mother left his kids when they were in diapers. It's nice to date someone who understands my struggles.

I am so grateful to God because he has always provided for me. When I needed affordable daycare (going rate in Southern Cal is $800-$1200 a month), he worked it out. I have not had to buy my daughter one stitch of clothing. There is a mom at my church whose daughter is 11 months old. Every month or so she gives me bags and bags of clothes. Kayla's biological father is not in her life but her heavenly father is always there for her.

It's nice to "cyber meet" all of you.

 

[Princess Buttercup]

Hiya,

I just wanted to say hi

I'm Princess Buttercup, or Poppy in real life! I've got a 4 year old girl, 5 in a couple of weeks, called Evie. Her dad is very involved in her life and we;ve got fantastic from both sides of the family, so I'm far from doing it alone.

Nice to 'meet' you all.