Single for Life

[Bluerose31]

I wanted to know if anyone else has chosen a path of singleness? I have chosen a path of singleness after being hurt very badly. I feel I am married to my soulmate in spirit but in the physical I have chosen to remain single. Is there anyone else who has chosen singleness for life? What are some ways that you encourage your heart to find peace and to not be sad about it?
With love,
Blue

 

[Khalliqa]

I wanted to know if anyone else has chosen a path of singleness? I have chosen a path of singleness after being hurt very badly. I feel I am married to my soulmate in spirit but in the physical I have chosen to remain single. Is there anyone else who has chosen singleness for life? What are some ways that you encourage your heart to find peace and to not be sad about it?
With love,
Blue

Can you explain further? I don't understand. Are you married already? Or are you saying if you do get married it would be in "spirit" only?

 

[Bluerose31]

Can you explain further? I don't understand. Are you married already? Or are you saying if you do get married it would be in "spirit" only?

I'm not married, I am single. I just feel I am married to my soulmate in spirit. I dont know him in the physical-I just know God made a soulmate for everyone. Its because of my past traumas that I dont want to get married in actuality.

 

[Servant68]

I just know God made a soulmate for everyone. Its because of my past traumas that I dont want to get married in actuality.

I'm curious as to what scripture led you to believe that God intended every single person to be married and created a soulmate for every single person.

Off-hand, I can think of a few examples of single people in the Bible who remained so their entire lives...

 

[Bluerose31]

I'm curious as to what scripture led you to believe that God intended every single person to be married and created a soulmate for every single person.

Off-hand, I can think of a few examples of single people in the Bible who remained so their entire lives...

I am content to remain single my entire life. I feel that is the path God has for me. I feel everyone has a soulmate that desires one because I do have a desire to be connected with my soulmate but also I desire to remain single.

 

[blackribbon]

What is a soulmate? I don't think those really exist. People become soulmates through having a relationship...they don't start out that way. JMO

 

[Bluerose31]

What is a soulmate? I don't think those really exist. People become soulmates through having a relationship...they don't start out that way. JMO

I believe soulmates are just people you are compatible with romantically. Your right that someone can become a soulmate.

 

[blackribbon]

I believe soulmates are just people you are compatible with romantically. Your right that someone can become a soulmate.

There are plenty of people that I have felt a strong romantic connection who I later realize would have been a poor life partner. I think soulmates are made over years of investing in each other and not people that you marry. There are plenty of people who are divorce who swore they were marrying "their soulmate".

I have a friend who married her husband after knowing him less than two weeks. They owned a restaurant. She claims they screamed at each other and threw lots of pots & pans around on their way to becoming soulmates. To me, my husband was my soulmate and the evidence was that at the end of his life, we could talk without ever opening our mouths....but by then, I was spending 24 hr/7 days a week at his side.

 

[Khalliqa]

I'm not married, I am single. I just feel I am married to my soulmate in spirit. I dont know him in the physical-I just know God made a soulmate for everyone. Its because of my past traumas that I dont want to get married in actuality.

Since you mention it, what trauma has influenced your marriage decision, if you don't mind answering.

I'm trying to follow your posts and thinking: If you believe god made a soulmate for everyone and you choose to remain single wouldn't that mean that god made someone for you and you are choosing not to mate with them?

 

[Bluerose31]

There are plenty of people that I have felt a strong romantic connection who I later realize would have been a poor life partner. I think soulmates are made over years of investing in each other and not people that you marry. There are plenty of people who are divorce who swore they were marrying "their soulmate".

I have a friend who married her husband after knowing him less than two weeks. They owned a restaurant. She claims they screamed at each other and threw lots of pots & pans around on their way to becoming soulmates. To me, my husband was my soulmate and the evidence was that at the end of his life, we could talk without ever opening our mouths....but by then, I was spending 24 hr/7 days a week at his side.

Thats beautiful that your husband is your soulmate

 

[Bluerose31]

Since you mention it, what trauma has influenced your marriage decision, if you don't mind answering.

I'm trying to follow your posts and thinking: If you believe god made a soulmate for everyone and you choose to remain single wouldn't that mean that god made someone for you and you are choosing not to mate with them?

I think I have a fear of meeting my soulmate in real life because of the things I have been through. I have experienced being kidnapped and raped and it would be hard for me to be close to someone emotionally. I prefer staying single and serving God.

 

[Khalliqa]

I think I have a fear of meeting my soulmate in real life because of the things I have been through. I have experienced being kidnapped and raped and it would be hard for me to be close to someone emotionally. I prefer staying single and serving God.

If you believe god provides soulmates for everyone do you fear that god would provide you with a soulmate who would not be good for someone who has suffered as you have?

If you want to serve god and believe that god provides you with a soulmate then to reject pursuit of soulmate would be rejecting and not serving god wouldn't it?

Or do you think god does not want people who have been through trauma to have soulmates ?

 

[Bluerose31]

If you believe god provides soulmates for everyone do you fear that god would provide you with a soulmate who would not be good for someone who has suffered as you have?

If you want to serve god and believe that god provides you with a soulmate then to reject pursuit of soulmate would be rejecting and not serving god wouldn't it?

Or do you think god does not want people who have been through trauma to have soulmates ?

Those are good questions Khalliqa. I think that God does want people who are traumatized to be with their soulmate. I think for me I just prefer to stay single because my heart is too broken about what happened to me. I think that God would want me to find a soulmate and be with him in this life but I dont think I can handle it.

 

[blackribbon]

There is nothing wrong with deciding to stay single for any reason. However, God can heal your heart. There is no trauma too large for God to handle. I think that you should simply spend your time now on learning to trust people and God again. If a relationship grows out of it, wonderful. If not, then you are simply a healthier person in spite of your history.

 

[Bluerose31]

There is nothing wrong with deciding to stay single for any reason. However, God can heal your heart. There is no trauma too large for God to handle. I think that you should simply spend your time now on learning to trust people and God again. If a relationship grows out of it, wonderful. If not, then you are simply a healthier person in spite of your history.

Thank you for saying this

 

[blackribbon]

You talk about having a soulmate....is this a reference to living male friend?

 

[Bluerose31]

You talk about having a soulmate....is this a reference to living male friend?

I just mean that I feel connected to my soulmate in spirit. I dont know him and have never met him, but im my heart I feel he loves me.

 

[blackribbon]

I just mean that I feel connected to my soulmate in spirit. I dont know him and have never met him, but im my heart I feel he loves me.

I suspect that you are feeling the love of the Holy Spirit and that is an incredible love. The Bible says in many places that it is better to be single because then we are free to serve God with all our energy, time, and heart. No distractions of having people we are obligated to care for. It can be very good to be single.

 

[Khalliqa]

Those are good questions Khalliqa. I think that God does want people who are traumatized to be with their soulmate. I think for me I just prefer to stay single because my heart is too broken about what happened to me. I think that God would want me to find a soulmate and be with him in this life but I dont think I can handle it.

Are you satisfied with your choice? If I understand you correctly, you have mentioned being comfortable going against god's wishes because you are certain of your limitations.

Did you start the thread to find solace in your decision? Are you seeking a community of like minded beings? Why did you mention seeking ways not to be sad?

 

[Bluerose31]

Are you satisfied with your choice? If I understand you correctly, you have mentioned being comfortable going against god's wishes because you are certain of your limitations.

Did you start the thread to find solace in your decision? Are you seeking a community of like minded beings? Why did you mention seeking ways not to be sad?

I think I am comfortable with singleness but sometimes I get sad about it.