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Single, Depressed, and in Despair

Discussion in 'Mature Singles' started by Lybrah, May 21, 2017.

  1. pdudgeon

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    and thank you for your support. It comes at a good time for he has come up against a wall in his business that is not falling down. There is one more meeting to go through, so we could use some prayer support now.
    I am confident and I know what is happening here, I've got my battle armor on and I know that all things happen in God's time. So I am waiting in confidence for God to act, but he could use prayers to bolster his faith against this latest check in our plans.
     
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  2. pdudgeon

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    prayers have helped. thank you very much. I feel much more confident and at peace in my heart tonight about that meeting; that God has this one in the bucket--no net-- and that all we have to do is to wait on Him to act. :oldthumbsup::crossrc:
     
  3. David segun blessing

    David segun blessing New Member

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    God gives speed in life,nothing is too hard for him to do,but dont get it wrong,God said in his word,he who find a wife,so now its you to find your husband,dont be too hard on yourself,telling a man you like for a date,i see nothing wrong with that,the answer is always there,but you need action.CHEERS.
     
  4. pdudgeon

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    in God's timing the answer will be there.
    Rushing things or getting out ahead of God is not the way to go here.

    God always has a good reason for doing things when He does. We can't always see why sometimes we think that He delays, but in every action there is always more than one person involved, so getting everyone involved to be on the same page at the same time is often something that only God can accomplish. When we rush things to fit our own schedule, we run the risk of not having the full advantages that we would have had if we had waited on God.
     
  5. David segun blessing

    David segun blessing New Member

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    Thats true anyway,but work without faith,is no faith at all,and faith without work is also dead,Elijah prayed,let there be rain now,and God did it,maybe God have answered the question,but mostly we want it our way,but please note,God will give to you what you need not what you want,he created you and knows whats best for you.is there any way to send a PM on here?i like to knwo also.THANKS.
     
  6. bèlla

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    I think patterns are warning signs we should pay heed to if the results are unpleasant. If you consistently attract men who desire sex, I would look for common denominators in their behavior, introduction, and profile (if appropriate) to find the smoking gun.

    I would also seek input from trusted male friends or Christian men. I’d ask them what I projected and if my behavior, speech or body language gave off sexual vibes unintentionally. If you’re interacting online, have someone review your pictures and profile. A second set of eyes is helpful in pinpointing things we miss.

    ~Bella
     
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  7. Lybrah

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    One big problem is that men don’t want a never-married woman in her forties. They think that by now she should have had at least been married once. A woman having never had a serious relationship is a deal breaker because they assume they have to teach her everything. One guy told me I wasn’t normal and started giving statistics on the low percentage of over-forties who get married.
     
  8. dayhiker

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    Well, I'm way past 40 so I'm not looking for a 40 y/o. But I can relate to what the guys are telling you Lybrah. I've had several GFs since my divorce 13 yrs ago. The woman who was the hardest to get along with was the woman who had had one BF/husband.
     
  9. Lybrah

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    Why was she the hardest?
     
  10. dayhiker

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    So we had a very intense connection and we both learned a lot from each other that I'll for ever be thankful for.
    She hadn't learned yet that you can't change a man into who she wanted me to be. I told her when we met who I was and that I couldn't be who she wanted me to be. I repeated that quite a few times to her, but she kept say I should be this other way. Ya, I'm being a bit vague on purpose. But that is the essence of why I said what I said and I don't want to write a novel.
     
  11. Tony B

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    There are ignorant and immature people on both sides of the fence, sounds like you may have run into more than your fair share of the male side.

    I'm personally extra cautious around ladies that have been divorced. All that I have met seem to be carrying baggage that is not wholesome for a Christian marriage. It seemed they didn't bother to take the time to look inwardly to see what character attributes they have that would put stress on any relationship, particularly a marriage. They seemed to be quick to criticise and blame their ex, but chose to be ignorant of their own shortcomings.

    Hang in there, there are males out there that would make a good husband, they're just few and far between. May God bring the ideal male into contact with you. Shalom.
     
  12. Tony B

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    (Sorry, posted in error). TB
     
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  13. StillGods

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    yep being over 40 and single isnt that great.
    My friends kids are getting engaged and it's kinda depressing that they're able to find partners and I'm not.
    where is God in it all? no idea.
     
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