Single and Loving it

[Deliberatetourist]

Sexual urges are always there. I certainly could address the medical aspect of this, but it would be a bore. With that being said, in my original post I highlighted the fact that the relationship would be a, "Chrisitan" one. Assuming we agree that scripture says premarital sex is in fact wrong, marriage would need to be accomplished during a much younger age then this current generation is. Similar to earlier creation, where male and female was joined shortly after adulthood. This is truly the only way to avoid all sexual urges. If you study sexual peeks in males and females you will see the graph and realize this scientifically is just not realistic.

Thanks for illuminating this. I have been castigated on this forum for suggesting this in the past. In fact I hold fully to the observation that the divorce rates have risen proportionatley equal with the average age that people are marrying. I beleive that feminism and economic motivators have persuaded people to believe that it is best to wait to get married. For example pornography "addiction". I have a problem with the addiction aspect because there are no demostratable withdrawl symptoms. But I dont beleive that the availability of pornography is the problem rather I believe the problem is the demend. Everywhere in biology we look the indicators are there that we should be marrying and having children earlier.

1. Womens reproductive systems begin degeneration at the mean age of 25.

2. The peak reproductive phase or "hyperfertility" for females lasts from the age of 15 - 21".

3. For a woman who has a baby before the age of 25 her chances of her body returning to pre pregnancy proportions is over 80%. For a post 25 YO oman the cance is only 25%.

4. After the age of 25 the cances that a baby born will suffer prenatal illness increasses exponentially with every passing year.

5. It has been demonstrated that mens' and women's sexual drives suffer depletion in their 30's due to waning testosterone and estrogen levels respectively.

6 For a post 25 YO woman the chances are much greater that the baby will have to be delivered by C section. Currently C-section births are at an all time high and increasing.

Of course I'm sure you know all this but still you'll get violent differeing responses from the other patrons here because it inherently suggests that with age a person becomes less attractive mate material with less of a chance of viably managing a relationship considering the vaiables involved. I think that implications in the biological realm definately carry over into the social realm and we are wittnessing a meltdown of that in society now. I thkink the whole crux of the problem rests on this. Those of us who struggle as such have people telling us constantly that "all you need is God'. Well thats fine and dandy but as you pointed out we still have these urges to deal with. Fact - if I am needy and sex becomes available I am going to grasp he opportunity. Either its going to be in a framework of holiness or it's going to be done in sin. I would rather have it in the former. It's vexing when someone comes along who (face value) appears to not be dealing with these issues and throws a guilt trip on you. I never had a problem with sexual urges so long as I had an avenue in which to disseminate them (and no its not a 2 hour stint at the local gym pumping iron). It's when I DONT have an avenue and they are still there regardless often growing stronger. Abstinence leads to more intensity as I have observed.

 

[Weasel7711]

Alright guys and gals, I have stumbled across something recently that I have just realized...


About me..

Currently 25, have a wonderful family and church group and things are just going wonderful. I was blessed to play sports throughout college, but opted to only have very minimal girlfriends, despite a great deal of opportunities.

My concern..

I am completely happy being single and enjoy the many freedoms associated with it. I can honestly say that unless God dropped the perfect women in my life tomorrow I have no problems with staying single with my current line of work for as long as my mindset remains like this. However, family is constantly pressuring me to find someone and making references almost on a daily basis.

Question..

Maybe the past relationships were the wrong ones, and have left my view skewed, but I just don't see what the point is to get married unless it were to have children... Am I completely crazy, as I know so many people worry and struggle about being single their entire life. What are some of the strong points, assuming its a Christian relationship, to commit to someone this day and age?

The past..

Past girlfriends became completely jealous over even a conversation with the opposite sex, even it were a hospital visitation. Complaints of not spending enough time, which forced me to be that much stronger in my devotions etc. Completely limiting my outgoing personality and hindering any chance of an outreach etc.

Comments... would love to hear from others!

If God has blessed you with a low sex drive (or cursed the rest of us with a higher one) and has given you the ability to withstand feelings of loneliness and wanting a partner, I say go for it brother. Use your free time to serve God more, its not weird at all, just not common. It can be a very noble calling, just dont let it go to your head.

 

[JPPT1974]

I try to use all of my free time
To let the Lord lead and teach me
Because there is more to life than just
Finding a spouse only
IMHO, that would be a waste of time
As well as a waste of life if
We did that all the time.