Single and Looking?

[72_Chev_Truck]

Hey all, just wondering how everyones doin tonight, also wondering how many of you get discouraged sometimes being single and waiting for that one Special person that God has for you?

 

[plum]

I am...

and I'm also worried that I'm settling for the wrong person.

 

[Blessed-one]

moved to a more appropriate forum.

 

[Misnomer]

Yeah I get frustrated every now and then. Mostly just not knowing if I'll ever not be single. One of my problems is that I want to be pursued (a lot of that has to do with me being traditonal, shy and having low self esteem) and then there's the whole not having any guy friends (I don't know if I relate to them) never having had a guy be legitimately interested in me and then there this whole other issue that I won't mention because I KNOW most people wouldn't/couldn't understand

 

[lilouisianagal]

Hey all, just wondering how everyones doin tonight, also wondering how many of you get discouraged sometimes being single and waiting for that one Special person that God has for you?

simple answer: YES

 

[lilouisianagal]

btw misnomer i've seen this on another of your posts and i love it:If the opposite of Pro is Con ... then what's the opposite of progess?

 

[Warrior Poet]

I am...

and I'm also worried that I'm settling for the wrong person.

If you are worrying about it then you probably are.

The thing I have found about being single is this..I always have plans to go out and people to go out with but they alwasy fall through....I dont mind it, lonely sure, but better alone enjoying MY time doing what I want then being unhappy out with a starnger/s, being uncomfortable....he/she will come along all in good time....all in good time.



Warrior Poet

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

Wow, Im glad im not the only one! I read the book wild at heart by john eldridge a while back and lately Ive found myself seeking exactly what the book says. I want to be a hero for a girl, the protector of that girl, incredible friends with that girl, someone that i can love and take care of. its pretty wierd how that book applied to my life. Also about being single, im still looking for a girl to date but I always tell people that i cant afford to date because of a recent purchase. So i would say that it keeps me out of trouble and away from what i did before i was a christian

 

[mina]

I get very discouraged. And when I get discouraged I allow the fear to beat me up. Lately I've been learning that God is the only one that will rescue me from my fears. They are too big for me and will overtake me if i try to battle them on my own. I'm learning to place myself in trust with God that He will fight for me on this issue. So i'm single but not looking right now, just trusting that God knows what is best at this point in my life.

 

[wgjones3]

I see a lot of Christians spend their lives praying for the perfect person for them, but never see what's out there. I've been guilty of it myself. I think back now to all the girls who have flirted with me, tried to spark romantic interest, etc... and I was completely oblivious of it, languishing in this depressive mindset that I wasn't good enough for girls to like (Christian girls, not anything sleezy). Just keep in mind that there is no perfect person except Jesus (even though we all expect our soulmate to be perfect). Courtship and marriage is about finding somebody to help you grow as a person while you help them grow, and growth is painful. There'll be fights. There will be bad haircuts and pounds gained, money wasted and wrong choices made, but being with that "special someone" is about dealing with all the bad and enjoying all the good.

Johsua Harris's books on the subject, I Kissed Dating Goodbye and Boy Meets Girl are both good reads on the subject of dating, courtship, and marriage.

 

[msjones21]

I dunno. I live so close to my family so I'm with them alot. I have my own apartment so I have moments sometimes late at night. When I wasn't walking in the light, I would be at the clubs until 4am. Now I get up and make a snack, get on my laptop, clean house, or read.

I love being single. God is able to use my time and talents to the fullest plus it gives me time to cultivate the skills to be a godly wife.

 

[Sleepyd]

I've definiately given up, I'm not responsible for myself, let alone anyone else's problems or concerns.

 

[ps34_18]

resounding yes. The worst is when I can see that I don't even have anyone in my life that I could see potentially turning into someone I could spend the rest of my life with...or maybe it's seeing someone that I could spend the rest of my life with and his sister who happens to be my roommate absolutely hates the idea, and since you were friends with her first, you've got to put the breaks on with him...

 

[plum]

God's irony seems to be that as soon as we stop looking for love and purpose elsewhere, and start falling in love with God and only God, He gives us the other loves we longed for before

And at this rate, I wonder if God will ever give me that desire

 

[Knarf188]

Hey everyone,
Who kares if you don't find the right one... what if you die tomorrow... God should be sufficient enough for us... no I'm not dogging everyone... I would love a wife... but if it is not God's will then so be it... Let us learn to be content with God as Paul says... for when we are complete with him... is when God will provide so as to not find someone and our eyes be diverted(like mine have been)
But if no one ever comes be happy for yours is the kingdom of heaven =)....
but if any gurls are single a nd want to hook up with me send me a message (HAHAHAHA j/t)... take kare and God Bless
Your Brother in Christ,
Frank

 

[msjones21]

I would love a wife... but if it is not God's will then so be it

Actually I read a very good article that said if you desire to have a spouse God has not called you to lifelong singleness because God grants you the desires of your heart and if you were called to be single forever, you would have no desire to get married.

 

[mina]

Actually I read a very good article that said if you desire to have a spouse God has not called you to lifelong singleness because God grants you the desires of your heart and if you were called to be single forever, you would have no desire to get married.

God is not santa claus. There are lots of older single people who have never married but greatly desired to do so. I think we all have a desire for that special companionship. Corrie Ten Boom still desired it her whole life and yet that was not given to her, and she was one of the most Godly women that ever lived! I think God chooses to grant you with what will best fit His plan. If you never get married, it's because God knows you can serve Him better single. It's possible to still desire it, but never get it. And God's grace will become sufficent and you will be able to deal with it even though that desire may not go away. Frankly I become very wary when people say they are called to get married or called to stay single. Most of that is based on feeling and emotion, which is deceptive. I don't know what God has for me, but I know I can trust Him no matter what it is.

 

[jenptcfan]

I'm really good at being single, but yes, there are times when I wish I had a special someone to spend time with. Like sometimes I wish I had someone I could just rent a movie with. Is that silly? Most of my close friends live in other towns, so I think I just miss being around people who "get me" as much as anything.

I know that God will bring that special someone to me in His own time, but occasionally I do find myself trying to tell God to hurry up!

 

[backpeddler]

God has someone in mind for you, but the bible also teaches you to be active in your actions as a Christian. So I so say to you, if you're seemingly so keen for a Christian girlfriend or wife, don't just "wait" for that girl. How about you take a walk by her window!

I'm still trying to work how I can add a cool Aussie flag and well yeah, why not one of those really funky smiley faces with a wave!

ahh, notch my first post up.

smile, it's amazing how the girls like a smile
peace

 

[Onwardclimb]

God is not santa claus. There are lots of older single people who have never married but greatly desired to do so. I think we all have a desire for that special companionship. Corrie Ten Boom still desired it her whole life and yet that was not given to her, and she was one of the most Godly women that ever lived! I think God chooses to grant you with what will best fit His plan. If you never get married, it's because God knows you can serve Him better single. It's possible to still desire it, but never get it. And God's grace will become sufficent and you will be able to deal with it even though that desire may not go away. Frankly I become very wary when people say they are called to get married or called to stay single. Most of that is based on feeling and emotion, which is deceptive. I don't know what God has for me, but I know I can trust Him no matter what it is.

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!

YSIC,
Onwardclimb