So maybe you are all familiar with obsessing over small, unimportant things. I have a terrible time making decisions. I recently was trying to decide between two winter coats. I liked the one I bought, then started wishing I had bought the other one. I went to go see the other one again and, instead of buying it, wanted to keep the coat I originally bought. But, you guessed it, I am now wishing I did get the other one. I get so fearful of making a 'wrong' decision but my mind seems to play tricks on me in that any decision I do make I tell myself was the wrong one. And so I tend to obsess over even small things like this. Then I feel distant from God and even shame because I am letting something so small and insignificant take up my time and my thoughts. But I really do make myself sick about the smallest things because I beat myself up with so much regret. I don't know...it's like I have to have something to worry about... Can anyone relate? Or has anyone found a helpful way to get yourself 'out of the spin cycle' once you find yourself there? Ugggh...I think it may be time to switch meds...
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Silly question...am I crazy?
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no you're not crazy. you just want to make sure you're making the right decision. I am like that too sometimes, like after I got saved and was filled with so much knowledge about a lot of areas and then I was scared to get out of the boat because I didnt want to make a mistake. It still takes me a while to get involved into simple stuff because I'm so careful but sometimes the only way to learn is by falling and it's going to make us sad when we feel like we disappoint God but He is going to be right there to pick us up and dust us off and send His Holy Spirit to teach us all things. So yes, we will mess up sometimes, but find peace in knowing that we serve a God who will work on us and help us when we fall. He is a righteous and merciful God. His mercy endures forever and it doesn't run out. What a mighty God we serve! I'm praying for you!
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No I don't think you're crazy I think you have OCD. Second guessing decisions, trying to check if we did the right thing, or did something good enough, examining and re-examining our actions, motives, speech etc., I think are common experiences for people with OCD.
Learning to live with feelings of uncertainty about these things without engaging in the checking and scrutinizing behaviors is key to managing our OCD. Try to let these little things go or the OCD will make them into big things. Keep in mind that it's that misfiring in your brain that is making you feel like something is always amiss and so it will latch onto anything in order to keep you in the obsessing, checking cycle.
Praying for you.
Mitzi
Learning to live with feelings of uncertainty about these things without engaging in the checking and scrutinizing behaviors is key to managing our OCD. Try to let these little things go or the OCD will make them into big things. Keep in mind that it's that misfiring in your brain that is making you feel like something is always amiss and so it will latch onto anything in order to keep you in the obsessing, checking cycle.
Praying for you.
Mitzi
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Thanks for the encouragement and especially the prayers!
Mitzi, you said "Keep in mind that it's that misfiring in your brain that is making you feel like something is always amiss and so it will latch onto anything in order to keep you in the obsessing, checking cycle." That is so true. I know the pattern. As soon as I'm 'done' obsessing about one thing, I just move right on to the next (usually having to do with salvation or my relationship with God), like my brain truly needs something to obsess or worry about. It's so annoying. I pray that I get to know myself well enough to recognize the OCD and strong enough to resist its urges. Not to 'fight it' or 'try to make it go away.' And that I continue to get to know God so much that His character eclipses my fears.
Mitzi, you said "Keep in mind that it's that misfiring in your brain that is making you feel like something is always amiss and so it will latch onto anything in order to keep you in the obsessing, checking cycle." That is so true. I know the pattern. As soon as I'm 'done' obsessing about one thing, I just move right on to the next (usually having to do with salvation or my relationship with God), like my brain truly needs something to obsess or worry about. It's so annoying. I pray that I get to know myself well enough to recognize the OCD and strong enough to resist its urges. Not to 'fight it' or 'try to make it go away.' And that I continue to get to know God so much that His character eclipses my fears.
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Hi Seymour,
It sounds like you are over one major hurdle, the hurdle of attributing this struggle to the disorder of OCD. With practice you'll soon learn to categorize and respond to your OCD episodes like this:
A. Obsession
B. Anxiety Response. (Acknowledge the misfiring)
Here's where you "put on the brakes" - before you begin to:
C. Engage in any compulsive reassurance seeking behaviors.
I try very hard to do this with my OCD episodes. It seems to help.
Praying for you.
Mitzi
PS. I agree that we need to remember that our OCD does not change or define the character of our Lord or His mercy and compassion toward us which is everlasting.
It sounds like you are over one major hurdle, the hurdle of attributing this struggle to the disorder of OCD. With practice you'll soon learn to categorize and respond to your OCD episodes like this:
A. Obsession
B. Anxiety Response. (Acknowledge the misfiring)
Here's where you "put on the brakes" - before you begin to:
C. Engage in any compulsive reassurance seeking behaviors.
I try very hard to do this with my OCD episodes. It seems to help.
Praying for you.
Mitzi
PS. I agree that we need to remember that our OCD does not change or define the character of our Lord or His mercy and compassion toward us which is everlasting.
Thanks for the encouragement and especially the prayers!
Mitzi, you said "Keep in mind that it's that misfiring in your brain that is making you feel like something is always amiss and so it will latch onto anything in order to keep you in the obsessing, checking cycle." That is so true. I know the pattern. As soon as I'm 'done' obsessing about one thing, I just move right on to the next (usually having to do with salvation or my relationship with God), like my brain truly needs something to obsess or worry about. It's so annoying. I pray that I get to know myself well enough to recognize the OCD and strong enough to resist its urges. Not to 'fight it' or 'try to make it go away.' And that I continue to get to know God so much that His character eclipses my fears.
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