what are some unique ways i can show my husband how much i love him?
(his love languages are "acts of service" and "words of affirmation")
(his love languages are "acts of service" and "words of affirmation")
what are some unique ways i can show my husband how much i love him?
(his love languages are "acts of service" and "words of affirmation")
oh my goodness i do this too. but normally i say i'll do it and then i never do. which is why i owe him 2...
If he thinks that cooking/cleaning are "acts of service" and expressions of love, then I'm afraid he's missed it entirely.
My husband's primary love language is also acts of service. That means that according to him, his expression of love for me and our family is to go to work every day. Bull. That's responsibility as a provider. If he lived alone, he'd still have to go to work, it wouldn't mean "love" to someone. To him, this also means that I, as a confessed Messie, apparently "don't love him" when the house is left messy sometimes, or the dishes don't get done. Does that mean then that if I hired a maid service to do it, that he'd feel the maid loved him instead? Those are responsibilities of having a family and a home.
Acts of service are the things that we do for others that are OVER AND ABOVE the necessary things. Things that are not required for life and safety.
I'm sorry, but that really chafes my hide when men (believe me, it really is mostly men who do this) use this as a cop-out for spending actual thoughtful attention to showing love to their wives/girlfriends.