Should you date a divorcee who was not divorced for biblical reasons?

[AmericanSamurai]

Would you be committing a sin by dating a divorcee who was not divorced on biblical grounds, ie. sexual infidelity/abandonment?

 

[Sophrosyne]

I think it depends on why there was a divorce as I believe that there are other good reasons for divorce than adultery.

 

[AmericanSamurai]

I know that adultery isn't the only one, but according to scripture, abandonment by one spouse is another.

 

[AmericanSamurai]

According to scripture, the one who marries a divorced person who was not divorced biblically is committing adultery.

 

[Nickybobby]

I think this article makes a pretty good explanation.

 

[Sophrosyne]

According to scripture, the one who marries a divorced person who was not divorced biblically is committing adultery.

If you even lust after a divorcee you are considered an adulterer by scripture so marrying a divorcee isn't going to change the sinful nature in your heart any. Christians are to be spiritual such that sin is equated even by thoughts NOT just by actions like in the Mosaic Law.

 

[AmericanSamurai]

So then according to that article, if a divorcee didn't have a divorce endorsed by scripture, and remarries someone new, then she is just committing another sin, although it isn't an unforgiveable sin.

 

[iambren]

No,I wouldn't feel at peace dating that person. Now if their ex got married to someone else yes that would be ok.

 

[Sophrosyne]

So then according to that article, if a divorcee didn't have a divorce endorsed by scripture, and remarries someone new, then she is just committing another sin, although it isn't an unforgiveable sin.

If she is lusting after someone that she is marrying then she can't commit double adultery with the same person.

 

[Sophrosyne]

No,I wouldn't feel at peace dating that person. Now if their ex got married to someone else yes that would be ok.

I think it comes down to the real reason for the divorce. I don't think God would not consider a marriage with a violent or very abusive spouse as one that should continue as it would be better to end the marriage to reduce the amount of sin in it. I think Jesus message about adultery was more related to people getting divorced for no good reason other than just wanting to marry someone else.

 

[AmericanSamurai]

^Yes, the Pharisees divorced to marry and married to divorce.

 

[akmom]

I know that adultery isn't the only one, but according to scripture, abandonment by one spouse is another.

Can you remember the verses that say this? I guess I always took the scriptures at face value, that once you're married, you're married, and any relationship after that (divorce or not, remarriage or not) is adultery. I guess it sounds harsh in the context of our culture, but I'm not sure there is actually scripture supporting an alternative.

 

[AmericanSamurai]

It is in 1 Corinthians chapter 7

 

[AmericanSamurai]

No, I know there are those churches that believe that once you're married, you're married, and there are no valid reasons for divorce. God through Scripture, says otherwise.

I would leave if I were a member of one of those crazy churches that preach that.

 

[Rudolph Hucker]

Would you be committing a sin by dating a divorcee who was not divorced on biblical grounds, ie. sexual infidelity/abandonment?

Changes Kingdoms ....

 

[Sophrosyne]

No, I know there are those churches that believe that once you're married, you're married, and there are no valid reasons for divorce. God through Scripture, says otherwise.

I would leave if I were a member of one of those crazy churches that preach that.

I would hate to be a battered wife in one of those churches or have a overly promiscuous wife in that church and end up with a surprise kid that looks nothing like me.. then another one.. and another.

 

[akmom]

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 says a woman shouldn't divorce, and that is she does, she should remain unmarried. The only exceptions I see in that chapter are for widows, and new believers whose unbelieving spouses left them (not vice versa). In Mark 10:11-12, Jesus says that a person who divorces their husband or wife and remarries is committing adultery. Matthew 19:9 seems to be the same sermon but makes an exception for a spouse's fornication. Luke 16:18 says a man who marries a divorcee commits adultery too.

What other verses are there, supporting other circumstances?

 

[AmericanSamurai]

I would hate to be a battered wife in one of those churches or have a overly promiscuous wife in that church and end up with a surprise kid that looks nothing like me.. then another one.. and another.

lol, no doubt.

 

[AmericanSamurai]

If a church forbids remarrying, then they are endorsing fornication.

 

[Rudolph Hucker]

I have this mental image of a 'slightly-less-than"overly promiscuous wife"' ......