Luke 14:25Large crowds were traveling with Jesus, and turning to them he said: 26“If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple. 27And whoever does not carry their cross and follow me cannot be my disciple.
28“Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? 29For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, 30saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish.’
31“Or suppose a king is about to go to war against another king. Won’t he first sit down and consider whether he is able with ten thousand men to oppose the one coming against him with twenty thousand? 32If he is not able, he will send a delegation while the other is still a long way off and will ask for terms of peace. 33In the same way, those of you who do not give up everything you have cannot be my disciples.
This is where it is good to consider the whole text, not just take one verse in isolation.
And whoever does not carry their cross cannot be my disciple
Does every Christian get exactly the same cross to bear? I doubt any would think so. Is every Christian called to be a minister in a church for example? If so, there would be no one to preach to!
There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them.
5 There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord.
6 There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work.
7 Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good.
8 To one there is given through the Spirit a message of wisdom, to another a message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit,
9 to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by that one Spirit,
10 to another miraculous powers, to another prophecy, to another distinguishing between spirits, to another speaking in different kinds of tongues,a]'>[
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11 All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he distributes them to each one, just as he determines. 1Cor12:4-11
So everyone is given their own particular cross to carry, their own particular service they are asked to do. . And, you must give everything up needed to carry it. If you do not, you cannot be Christ’s disciple. Does that mean you cannot be in a saved state if you do not give up everything you need to, to carry your own particular cross, or does it mean you cannot be Christ’s disciple, is there a difference between the two?
I wonder how many believers have resolutely lived their lives carrying the particular cross given to them, and given up everything they need to give up in order to do so.