Should We get Married or Wait?

[lovesbrightpink]

Me and my fiance have been engaged since november. We would already be married by now if we had the money. My mom will pay but probably in another 2 years or so. Should we wait for her to pay for it or just go to the court house and do it ourself. I want my big wedding and do not want to regret it. But the thing is that we live together and I know that is wrong. But this was the situation before we knew god.

Is getting married right now the thing that I need to do, or should I wait and get the big wedding knowing that I am sinning.

 

[AutumnDreamer]

Me and my fiance have been engaged since november. We would already be married by now if we had the money. My mom will pay but probably in another 2 years or so. Should we wait for her to pay for it or just go to the court house and do it ourself. I want my big wedding and do not want to regret it. But the thing is that we live together and I know that is wrong. But this was the situation before we knew god.

Is getting married right now the thing that I need to do, or should I wait and get the big wedding knowing that I am sinning.

If you are living together I would either get married now or move out. It is not a big wedding or court house option. Many people think if you can't afford the big wedding that you only other option is the courthouse, it isn't. Have a small ceremony, intimate, maybe candlelit and have the reception at a nice restaurant. Invite only those closest to you. Then in a few years renew your vows and have the big wedding you want to have.

 

[septemberskies]

If you are living together I would either get married now or move out. It is not a big wedding or court house option. Many people think if you can't afford the big wedding that you only other option is the courthouse, it isn't. Have a small ceremony, intimate, maybe candlelit and have the reception at a nice restaurant. Invite only those closest to you. Then in a few years renew your vows and have the big wedding you want to have.

I agree....

You could have a very small intimate wedding and then have the big blowout wedding at a later date. It is better to marry now especially if you have no intentions of separating and want to continue to live together. It's time to do what is right.

 

[plum]

I agree....

You could have a very small intimate wedding and then have the big blowout wedding at a later date. It is better to marry now especially if you have no intentions of separating and want to continue to live together. It's time to do what is right.

i agree with the above

 

[WhiteWolf76]

Yes. If you are living together you should get married but not in a court house. Have a religous leader perform the ceromony. I believe that a "marrige" performed by the state is no more than a civil union. A marrige is between you, your spouse, and God.

 

[Blank123]

You could get married now and have a small intimate wedding with those closest to you like has already been said or if the big wedding is really that important to you I would seriously suggest moving in with your mom or a friend until you are married.

 

[lovesbrightpink]

You could get married now and have a small intimate wedding with those closest to you like has already been said or if the big wedding is really that important to you I would seriously suggest moving in with your mom or a friend until you are married.

We thought about that. But I have no friends in the city that I live in and my mom just moved into a 1 bedroom tiny apartment. If we could have something small we would. But we have literally no money to spend on it. We could probably only afford a marriage license. My mom wont even pay for something small. Even though she can. She isnt christian and doesnt understand, that to me the wedding is probably the most important part in our lifes together so far.

 

[WhiteWolf76]

We thought about that. But I have no friends in the city that I live in and my mom just moved into a 1 bedroom tiny apartment. If we could have something small we would. But we have literally no money to spend on it. We could probably only afford a marriage license. My mom wont even pay for something small. Even though she can. She isnt christian and doesnt understand, that to me the wedding is probably the most important part in our lifes together so far.

That's sweet and everything but the marrige should be more important than the wedding. Have you talked to a religious leader about your situation? You may be able to have a pastor perform the ceromony for no more than the cost of a marrige licsence. Christians tend to be very caring people. I suppose if there was no other option a marrige performed by a judge might be suitable. Just as long as both of you understand that your marrige is not only a commitment to one another but a promise to God.

 

[AceHero]

Yes. If you are living together you should get married but not in a court house. Have a religous leader perform the ceromony. I believe that a "marrige" performed by the state is no more than a civil union. A marrige is between you, your spouse, and God.

Right. A civil ceremony is an acknowledgment of marriage before the state, but not necessarily before God. That's what a marriage is for—so everyone you know and love can partake in your celebration. I know there may be circumstances that provide for exceptions, but not in this case.

 

[Blank123]

um... I don't think it really matters if a marriage is done before a priest/pastor or a judge. There's no Biblical reason to say that only marriages performed by pastors/priests are considered binding in the eyes of God.

We are told to conform to the laws of the land concerning all things as long as they don't violate the laws of God and the laws of the land require a marriage licence to be married if she and her fiance can get that by going before a judge then I see no reason Biblically why God would not recognize their marriage.

 

[AceHero]

um... I don't think it really matters if a marriage is done before a priest/pastor or a judge. There's no Biblical reason to say that only marriages performed by pastors/priests are considered binding in the eyes of God.

We are told to conform to the laws of the land concerning all things as long as they don't violate the laws of God and the laws of the land require a marriage licence to be married if she and her fiance can get that by going before a judge then I see no reason Biblically why God would not recognize their marriage.

I'm just saying that a public ceremony makes it a lot more special than having a judge marry the two of you.

 

[Blank123]

I'm just saying that a public ceremony makes it a lot more special than having a judge marry the two of you.

okay I'm sorry if I misunderstood what you were saying

it might make it more special for some people but I have a friend who got married by the justice of the peace and she keeps talking about what a beautiful day she had. She was still able to include her family in that and then had a small wedding reception with her family afterwards by going to some restaurant.

not getting married in church doesn't mean you can't still have an amazing wedding day

 

[AceHero]

I'm just saying that a public ceremony makes it a lot more special than having a judge marry the two of you.

okay I'm sorry if I misunderstood what you were saying

it might make it more special for some people but I have a friend who got married by the justice of the peace and she keeps talking about what a beautiful day she had. She was still able to include her family in that and then had a small wedding reception with her family afterwards by going to some restaurant.

not getting married in church doesn't mean you can't still have an amazing wedding day

Well, see, that's different. When I think of a marriage by a justice of the peace I think of an elopement, not a full-blown wedding with family and friends.