Should I wait till marriage?

DamianWarS said:

I'm glad Christ isn't so picky

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Zoii said:

whoa how draconian and patriarchal!

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Brightmoon said:

you forgot misogynistic

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Doctor.Sphinx said:

the fair maiden you rescue from dragons

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Zoii said:

pfft...seriously? hahahaha

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Doctor.Sphinx said:

... And likely as not, she'll find misogynistic kinda sexy (just be sure that you are rescuing a fair maiden, and not one of the dragons!!!) So please don't mind the naysayers.

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Tetra said:

I'd argue any woman that finds misogyny sexy shouldn't be a woman Christian's entertain.

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Doctor.Sphinx said:

Actually, He is - but moreso. He died for us, remember? We're only perfect by the blood of the Lamb, not because God has low standards. You'd do well to remember this, and it may change your perspective with respect to subjects like this. To the OP - don't lower your standards just 'cause some misguided folk here seem to think that having low standards is some sort of virtue akin to virginity, purity or faithfulness.

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DamianWarS said:

Marriage is a Covent relationship and so is our relationship with Father. We enter into relationship with the Father through the atonement and sacrifice of the Son so that we may be acceptable to the Father. That same atonement covers the sins of the women yet to be married and are made pure to the Father even though they are guilty. If we use the same standard the Father uses then it is their heart we should be looking at not their guilt, probably something you'd do well to remember but so often planks in our eyes blind us.

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DamianWarS said:

If there was such a thing to test authentic purity we'd all be single.

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Notmyname said:

So I stumbled on an article online about the statistics on young Christians waiting till marriage I was hoping to find someone that has upheld gods word and well let’s just say my hope is pretty much gone.

http://www.exministries.com/christi...tians-singles-are-willing-to-have-casual-sex/

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Doctor.Sphinx said:

But the murderer still has to be executed, the thief still has to pay back tenfold of what was stolen, and the unvirtuous still has to live with the consequences of her unfaithfulness (e.g. undesirability for marriage).

We all still die, don't we? But we live in hope that we will be raised again imperishable, through Christ.

I disagree with this. If it were true, why would the OP have posed the question in the first place?

If you argue that lust is the same (physically) as adultery, then you might as well be advising that women go ahead and marry convicted murderers (as murder is the same spiritually as unrighteous anger). There's a difference between the physical and spiritual. Yes, sometimes unfaithfulness can be overlooked, as can murder, when choosing a partner. But to make this the rule rather than the exception is, in my opinion, setting people up for disaster marriages.

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DamianWarS said:

the gospel transcends culture but we are called to be a light amongst the culture which is our mission. If the gospel is a culture it takes on the culture around it and makes it christ-like through cultural forms, values and expressions that are reconcilable to following Christ.

Paul tells us we should identify our mission then become a part of that culture so that they may receive the gospel, concluding "I have become all things to all people, that by all means I might save some. I do it all for the sake of the gospel, that I may share with them in its blessings." For most our home culture is our mission and should be slaves to our mission. "...all for the sake of the gospel".

If we are too counter-cultural people think we are weird and keep away and the gospel suffers because they don't hear the gospel all they hear the hippy family that do weird things. So we need to be intentional when we reject cultural values in favour for another knowing that it may negatively affect our influences with others. High value for education and career can be reconcilable cultural values, but low value for marriage and relationships are not. The line we was balance on is the "becoming all things" part while rejecting cultural values that reject the design and nature of God.

For the OP it is a laudable to wait while seeking education/career if we do so to glorify God and spread his gospel. the problem is most don't, they seek education/career for selfish ambitions which is counter-gospel and doesn't help the goals after career which continue to be selfishly motivated. this is probably the greater problem which is what our ambitions are which then can lead to other immoral behaviour. Our youth are very different in terms of responsibility and maturity based on a historical measure of the same ages going 50, 100, 200 years back. This is the cultural trend and having never-grown up adults is not wrong but we as Christians need to understand how to response to this while raising our own family while not at the same time estranging ourselves from our own mission, otherwise we might as well create a christian colony in the middle of nowhere and purge ourselves of the world around us.

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