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Should I start dating?
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Do what you feel is the best thing for you. I don't see how someone on the internet will be able to give you an answer to your Predicament. I don't think dating is a bad thing necessarily. But I believe that you should be ready to make a commiment before you start dating. You could just cause way more problems for yourself if you aren't ready (I'm living proof of this... heh). Continue working on your relationship with Christ. HE is much more important than your "dating life". Spend Daily Time in the Word, and pray, pray, and don't forget to pray. Just some food for thought.
Capt. Matt
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hischildsindik
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Keep praying for her, that is the single best thing you can do, for her and yourself. Also before you start dating again, have you felt you've grieved for the loss of this close relationship? If you haven't it could be something you carry into the next relationship, whether you like it or not. I fully agree with Capt. Matt, work on your relationsip with Christ before you work on a dating relationship.
God bless.
Cindy
God bless.
Cindy
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I think you should move on. If God has it in his will for the two of you to be together then nothing can stop that- you dont really know how much growing she has to do- she probably doesnt even know- dont guesstimate for her and realize that even if you feel God telling you something- God has to or will tell her something too. Go on with your life for now. You have to try or you will become obsessed. Im sure it is not in God's plan for you to become obsessed.
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I agree with AD. don't feel as if you'd miss out on God's master plan for a spouse just because you were looking to Him rather than looking to marriage.
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I agree with everything that's been said so far. Also, don't discount the possibility that God DID want you to pursue a relationship with her - just not for the purpose of eventual marriage. Maybe He had things to teach you that you could only learn through pursuing a relationship with this woman.
I don't think there's any harm in using CASUAL dates (going out for coffee, etc.) to remind yourself there are other fish in the sea. But please keep it casual until you're good and ready! Until you're able to put your heart into it, you won't be able to have a successful relationship anyway, and you'll end up hurting someone the way you've been hurt. Would you want to get involved with a woman who was still secretly hoping for her former boyfriend to change his mind? No one wants to be a backup plan!
I don't think there's any harm in using CASUAL dates (going out for coffee, etc.) to remind yourself there are other fish in the sea. But please keep it casual until you're good and ready! Until you're able to put your heart into it, you won't be able to have a successful relationship anyway, and you'll end up hurting someone the way you've been hurt. Would you want to get involved with a woman who was still secretly hoping for her former boyfriend to change his mind? No one wants to be a backup plan!
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songz777
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I've been waiting for my ex-girlfriend to "change her mind" I guess. She broke up with me because she's not ready for a serious relationship and she's not sure how she feels about me.
Brov is it worth the risk??? Will she let you down again, and hurt you?? once bitten twice shy?? You will really need to be sure about the matter)
Brov is it worth the risk??? Will she let you down again, and hurt you?? once bitten twice shy?? You will really need to be sure about the matter
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If I may, having been through something similar -
Our feelings often lead us where we want to go, but that is often not the way we should go.
It is time to commit her to the Lord and let your emotional ties go for now. Note: this does .not. mean actively destroying all your feelings for her, that is destructive. Rather, let her go and move on. If God wants it to work, He'll work out everything and the feelings will be there, but you cannot push on a rope and make things work.
I have a friend that married a few years ago. Things with his now-wife came to an end because she couldn't commit, and they let things go. Three or four months later she could and they are now married. Things like this can happen, but don't rely on them. You truly need to give it to the Lord, trust in Him, move on, and see what He brings.
In Him,
Keil C
Our feelings often lead us where we want to go, but that is often not the way we should go.
It is time to commit her to the Lord and let your emotional ties go for now. Note: this does .not. mean actively destroying all your feelings for her, that is destructive. Rather, let her go and move on. If God wants it to work, He'll work out everything and the feelings will be there, but you cannot push on a rope and make things work.
I have a friend that married a few years ago. Things with his now-wife came to an end because she couldn't commit, and they let things go. Three or four months later she could and they are now married. Things like this can happen, but don't rely on them. You truly need to give it to the Lord, trust in Him, move on, and see what He brings.
In Him,
Keil C
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