should I give up?

[christdriven]

About a year and a half ago. A relationship that I was in ended. It wasnt a very God glorifying relationship at all. It was full of lust and selfishness. This I obviously see now, but not at the time, which I accept.
Unfortuently when him and I broke up, my really good and trusted friend decided that she liked him. They ended up dating about a month after him and I broke up. My heart was broken, and the timing couldnt be worse. Since my grandparents (oma and opa) passed away during that time. I felt so alone and so betrayed. She even lied several times when I demanded to know the truth about them.
Well, I left that church, and those friends behind. I asked her not to speak with me and I didnt allow him to come up with explainations. Faithfully God guided me to a different life and helped me through a horrible ordeal. I am not even close to the same person I was than.
Ive forgiven her and him. I am so over it and I am looking forward to attending their wedding. Im so happy that God brought them eachother, even in the midst of the pain I had to endure because of it.

However, she doesnt believe that Im over it. Ive tried so many times to call her, talk to her, get together with her and tell her face to face. I forgive you! You are my sister in Christ and I am sooo happy for you! I am sorry for whatever pain I may have caused you in that time. I am so ready to hang out with her again, talk to her about my struggles and share with her my new found joys and blessings in my life. But its like she wont respond at all. He wont even look me in the eye when I visit the church. And how badly I want to tell him how much I forgive him, how happy I am for him and how sorry I am for any pain I may have caused him in the past.
I dont know if I should just give it up. If I should wait for her to return my calls. If I should just sit back and see if she will even respond to me trying to reach out and make things right. Thats all I want to do, is fix this.

Please say a small prayer for my situation if your reading this.
Please if you've been in my situation what have you done?
Im praying about this, and I know that Gods timing is the best timing. Maybe it'll just take another year and a half for this to finally be resolved. For them to finally believe that Im alright, that God has changed my life and that what happened was the biggest blessing I could have asked for.

 

[bliz]

My guess is that they do not feel that they are in need of your forgivness. What did they do to you that was wrong? Yes, your girlfriend lied to you, but you were pesteering her for information that simply was not your business. You had broken up with the guy - who he dates is no longer your business.

Focus on your request for their forgivness of your actions. You may get a better reception and the reconciliation you desire. That is, of course, if you are sincere.

If they will not talk with you, write them a letter. But don't wait for an invitation to the wedding.

 

[Lyle]

I can say I have been there, and after months of turmoil and heartbreak I came to this point, I had to walk away. It could be solved with a simple awnser to you question, being of the title thread. When you have done everything you can on your part, and they still turn you away, there's nothing you can do. To continue with this may only be as pouring acid in the wounds that your friend still might have.. The thing to do now is step back and allow time to run it's course, to allow time to work. The perosn that I was in this place with still will NOT listen to me and it's been a yer since we've seen eachother. You've let go, don't let this slow you down at all.. You need to move on in Christ and trust the Lord with the rest. As they say, don't beat a dead horse...

 

[RU4Heaven]

Hi - I think I can relate to what you are going through. I'm afraid the answer is give them space and time. They will eventually settle down in their attitudes and they then may be more open to communicating again. If not, then you will have to move on and find new friends and subjects of interest. I'm going through the loss of a someone whom I thought was a close friend, but now will not even speak to me. She betrayed me and has gotten me into a lot of trouble. However, like you, I forgave her some time ago but she refuses to speak with me and there is nothing I can do. I am trying to learn whatever lesson I can from this situation that God has presented to me and move from there. Who knows, maybe someday my friend will open her heart to the Lord and speak with me again. May God bless you.

 

[christdriven]

thank you very much for the encouragment from Lyle and RU4Heaven. I really appreciate your responses. And your testimonies. You are very right Lyle, I need to move on in Christ and trust the Lord with the rest.
thanks for the help!
God BLess!