Should I do it?

[Leapling]

My son is almost 11 and his mother and I haven't been together since he was a baby. Her and I get along wonderfully, though, and even though she is remarried with another child I go over for holidays and such. They recently cooked me a birthday dinner and desert, which some people find odd.

The thing is, she wants me to move in with them. They have always rented out two of the rooms in their house and recently one of their roommates had to move. She wants someone she can trust with her children and I would be able to be even closer to my son. Currently, I still see him almost every day, but it would be very convenient to live under the same roof all of teh time instead of half of it. I get along with her husband well and there has never been any jealousy issues between us.

Being under the same roof might complicate things, right? I'm pretty sure most of you in the single parents forum are single mothers and I've noticed that more often than not there are negative emotions between the fathers.

Imagine this, though. You get remarried and are happy with the new spouse. You get along wonderfully with the ex and so does your new spouse. You need someone to move in and it's either have the ex move in or find a stranger. I don't know if I'd want a stranger moving in with my son and his 4 year-old sister, even if she is not my daughter.

So... that's the situation. Any advice?

 

[Mayzoo]

So long as everyone has pure motives and sticks to them, I think it would be admirable if you all could work this out to everyone's benefit.

Make sure you evaluate your plans for future relationships too. You want to have a good plan of action for dating and possible marriage in your future as well, if that is your ultimate intention. Make sure your ex and her hubby are on board with whatever plans you have for your dating future in other words.

 

[dayhiker]

So did you move into the room?

Yes, convenient to see your child. But how does it fit in with your personal life? Dating, meeting your friends.

 

[OnwardChristianSoldier]

I see this holding you from finding love/ moving on

You really think you could be in the house while they make love??? It just seems so strange to me and I think it would be bad in the long term. I would try to find a young woman preferably a student of some kind to take the room.

 

[tbeliever]

My son is almost 11 and his mother and I haven't been together since he was a baby. Her and I get along wonderfully, though, and even though she is remarried with another child I go over for holidays and such. They recently cooked me a birthday dinner and desert, which some people find odd.

The thing is, she wants me to move in with them. They have always rented out two of the rooms in their house and recently one of their roommates had to move. She wants someone she can trust with her children and I would be able to be even closer to my son. Currently, I still see him almost every day, but it would be very convenient to live under the same roof all of teh time instead of half of it. I get along with her husband well and there has never been any jealousy issues between us.

Being under the same roof might complicate things, right? I'm pretty sure most of you in the single parents forum are single mothers and I've noticed that more often than not there are negative emotions between the fathers.

Imagine this, though. You get remarried and are happy with the new spouse. You get along wonderfully with the ex and so does your new spouse. You need someone to move in and it's either have the ex move in or find a stranger. I don't know if I'd want a stranger moving in with my son and his 4 year-old sister, even if she is not my daughter.

So... that's the situation. Any advice?

I think you can safely live their. I believe you motives for wanting to keep them safe. It sounds good to me I pray that you and your family will be in good spirits and health, through Christ Jesus Our Lord amen.