Should I break up or stay with my atheist boyfriend?

[Archy]

I started the relationship in May 2018, and later on accepted Christ in December 2018.
He seldom talked about religion, and after accepting Christ, I learnt that it was because he hates God.
I've been trying to show him the real God whom I love, but it's hard cause I've only just began my spiritual journey, while he's actually more familiar with the Bible than I do.
At first, I tried persuading him calmly, only to end up hurt cause of his stubbornness.
It was later that I learnt only God can move his heart. The past few months I've been praying every day that God will touch him, and I'm also starting to understand why dating non-Christians is a bad idea.

This Spring, both of us are on exchange but in different countries. I'm not sure if it's God, but I have a feeling that God will handle my boyfriend's atheism and that I should focus on my own spiritual growth.
I know that I'll grow closer to God during our separation. I'm worried that, if we break up when we return to our home country, my boyfriend will hate God even more. What should I do?

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

Brutal truth? Find someone else. Every christian hopes they can change their non-believing bf/gf. But about 95% of the time it doesn't work. And they end up splitting anyways.

He may hate God if you leave him, but he will hate God just as much if you stay because he will always argue with you about God. Which will just make him more spiteful and hard to deal with.

It's tough to leave but later in life you will be thankful since you found someone else who fits you much better.

 

[Norbert L]

It's hard to predict the future from a single outcome like breaking up. On the one hand it's like you say "will hate God even more" and on the other hand breaking up could be the first in a string of events for him that will lead him to God years down the road. Who knows?

Perhaps since the outcome is unsure, base your decision on the rest of the relationship and what kind of person he is. Marriage is unpredictable, you have Christians that divorce and those who are married to an unbeliever last till death do them part.

 

[Jonathan Walkerin]

He seldom talked about religion, and after accepting Christ, I learnt that it was because he hates God.

You know that if he is atheist he does not hate God , he just does not believe in Him.

 

[ABCthings]

Fleeeeeeeee!! Run far far away.

 

[Mountainmanbob]

I was unequally yoked once to a nonbeliever.
A most terrible experience.

Very important to be able to share our faith
with someone we love.

MB

 

[ABCthings]

You know that if he is atheist he does not hate God , he just does not believe in Him.

.....doesn't want to.........

Recently, I took my time to discuss with one(atheist), after making sure she has no reason not to believe in God she still chose not to.

If She marries him and he end up not changing she will really have a tough time.

 

[Brian Mcnamee]

I started the relationship in May 2018, and later on accepted Christ in December 2018.
He seldom talked about religion, and after accepting Christ, I learnt that it was because he hates God.
I've been trying to show him the real God whom I love, but it's hard cause I've only just began my spiritual journey, while he's actually more familiar with the Bible than I do.
At first, I tried persuading him calmly, only to end up hurt cause of his stubbornness.
It was later that I learnt only God can move his heart. The past few months I've been praying every day that God will touch him, and I'm also starting to understand why dating non-Christians is a bad idea.

This Spring, both of us are on exchange but in different countries. I'm not sure if it's God, but I have a feeling that God will handle my boyfriend's atheism and that I should focus on my own spiritual growth.
I know that I'll grow closer to God during our separation. I'm worried that, if we break up when we return to our home country, my boyfriend will hate God even more. What should I do?

Hi there is a term called missionary dating and that is where you are hoping the one you are involved with gets saved. You know that this man is not a suitable life partner unless he becomes a believer. Dating is courtship and as he is now he is disqualified from being godly father or husband. The place he is holding is a weight on your own walk and your relationship cannot or should not stay the same. It would be better to take a stand now while you are going to be apart and he can be mostly over it by the time you get back. You should be specific as to why you want to break up and it will be hard for both of you. I have seen many many couples who were not equally yolked and the majority of times it has not gone well for those who continued dating non believers.

 

[splish- splash]

I started the relationship in May 2018, and later on accepted Christ in December 2018.
He seldom talked about religion, and after accepting Christ, I learnt that it was because he hates God.
I've been trying to show him the real God whom I love, but it's hard cause I've only just began my spiritual journey, while he's actually more familiar with the Bible than I do.
At first, I tried persuading him calmly, only to end up hurt cause of his stubbornness.
It was later that I learnt only God can move his heart. The past few months I've been praying every day that God will touch him, and I'm also starting to understand why dating non-Christians is a bad idea.

This Spring, both of us are on exchange but in different countries. I'm not sure if it's God, but I have a feeling that God will handle my boyfriend's atheism and that I should focus on my own spiritual growth.
I know that I'll grow closer to God during our separation. I'm worried that, if we break up when we return to our home country, my boyfriend will hate God even more. What should I do?

To be honest, it's very difficult to grow in the things of God when you're with someone who's a non-believer. Worse still when you're seeing someone who's stubborn.

 

[Albion]

Archy, it seems to me that you are asking about his chances of coming to the Lord rather than for advice on a long term relationship or marriage between you two.

If this is the case, prayers would be the way to go--which apparently is what you were thinking already.

If you did have a possible marriage in mind as well, you need to face the reality that such unions most often do not go well. If the atheist is a person who doesn't care much about theism and just doesn't feel a personal need for God, there is some chance; but if that person is actively hostile, which appears to be the situation here, the prospects are not at all good.

 

[Sketcher]

I started the relationship in May 2018, and later on accepted Christ in December 2018.
He seldom talked about religion, and after accepting Christ, I learnt that it was because he hates God.
I've been trying to show him the real God whom I love, but it's hard cause I've only just began my spiritual journey, while he's actually more familiar with the Bible than I do.
At first, I tried persuading him calmly, only to end up hurt cause of his stubbornness.
It was later that I learnt only God can move his heart. The past few months I've been praying every day that God will touch him, and I'm also starting to understand why dating non-Christians is a bad idea.

This Spring, both of us are on exchange but in different countries. I'm not sure if it's God, but I have a feeling that God will handle my boyfriend's atheism and that I should focus on my own spiritual growth.
I know that I'll grow closer to God during our separation. I'm worried that, if we break up when we return to our home country, my boyfriend will hate God even more. What should I do?

If he hates God, that's his problem. All you can do for someone like that is pray for him, and destroy the assumptions he has in place that fuel his hatred for God.

Know that you should not make permanent plans to be with him unless he really, truly converts. Beware that it is common for unsaved partners to pretend to convert, or half-heartedly give the faith a try without really converting, to try and keep the relationship together. If he does not or cannot truly come to faith, that will mean breaking up because you two will have different key values, and that's a respectable reason for breaking up.

You should study the Scriptures more, with mature Christians who are familiar with the counter-arguments that he uses against the faith. If you get an answer that convinces him, great, but the primary objective is to solidify your own faith against the things he says. Perhaps some of us here can help with that, but forums are not a substitute for actual fellowship in a church and small group.

 

[Tolworth John]

I'm worried that, if we break up when we return to our home country, my boyfriend will hate God even more. What should I do

Talk to him and leave it up to him.
Explain that you area Christian and that church is an important part of your life. That you want him to be part of your life, but that it involves him attending church with you.
What would be useful would be to know why he hates God.
Is it an intellectual gathered or a hatred because of what Christians have done?

 

[eleos1954]

I started the relationship in May 2018, and later on accepted Christ in December 2018.
He seldom talked about religion, and after accepting Christ, I learnt that it was because he hates God.
I've been trying to show him the real God whom I love, but it's hard cause I've only just began my spiritual journey, while he's actually more familiar with the Bible than I do.
At first, I tried persuading him calmly, only to end up hurt cause of his stubbornness.
It was later that I learnt only God can move his heart. The past few months I've been praying every day that God will touch him, and I'm also starting to understand why dating non-Christians is a bad idea.

This Spring, both of us are on exchange but in different countries. I'm not sure if it's God, but I have a feeling that God will handle my boyfriend's atheism and that I should focus on my own spiritual growth.
I know that I'll grow closer to God during our separation. I'm worried that, if we break up when we return to our home country, my boyfriend will hate God even more. What should I do?

You answered your own question ...

and I'm also starting to understand why dating non-Christians is a bad idea.

 

[Mountainmanbob]

it involves him attending church with you.
What would be useful would be to know why he hates God.

Just can't see (unless it changes)
someone who hates God
to truly keep up with Church attendance?

Maybe long enough to snag you.
Some are known to take hostages.

M-Bob

 

[Tolworth John]

Just can't see (unless it changes)
someone who hates God
to truly keep up with Church attendance?

Maybe long enough to snag you.
Some are known to take hostages.

M-Bob

Very simple, if he starts attending a church where he can hear the word of God lovingly proclaimed, mix with caring Christians who are willing to answer his questions his objections to Christianity, his hatred of God will change.

Only problem is whether he is wiling to change.

 

[BNR32FAN]

Brutal truth? Find someone else. Every christian hopes they can change their non-believing bf/gf. But about 95% of the time it doesn't work. And they end up splitting anyways.

He may hate God if you leave him, but he will hate God just as much if you stay because he will always argue with you about God. Which will just make him more spiteful and hard to deal with.

It's tough to leave but later in life you will be thankful since you found someone else who fits you much better.

Bless you sister, I would suggest that you make it clear to him how important God is to you and to the family you one day wish to raise. He needs to know that God will ALWAYS come before him and God will ALWAYS be most important in your life above him and anyone else. I think your going to have to stand your ground on this matter and give him an ultimatum. Either he embraces God or you simply cannot have a future with him. Ultimately this makes the decision his and he is in control of his own consequencess.

 

[Rebecca4Christ]

2 Corinthians 6:14-18 New King James Version (NKJV)
14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what [a]fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? 16 And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you[c] are the temple of the living God. As God has said:

“I will dwell in them
And walk among them.
I will be their God,
And they shall be My people.”

17 Therefore

“Come out from among them
And be separate, says the Lord.
Do not touch what is unclean,
And I will receive you.”
18 “I will be a Father to you,
And you shall be My sons and daughters,
Says the Lord Almighty.”

Pray for his salvation,but we are instructed (for very good reason)to not be bound to them.

 

[witness12]

The person above me gave you the scriptures. God’s word is final, as you know. Don’t worry about trying to be the Savior. God alone can save. Just obey what God puts on your heart and know His way is the best way.

 

[Kolleen]

Don’t listen to those who’s telling you to break up with him now. I know that the Bible says that you should not be with someone who is unequally yoked with you. If you love your boyfriend, and he love you too. I urge you to pray to God about this concern and also speak to your boyfriend that your faith is something important. Do not force your boyfriend but just tell him how you feel and suggest him to come church with you in times. Atheist are people who doesn’t believe in any God but it does not mean they are against God. All they need is support and exposure.

Let me tell you a little story: I was a atheist and my boyfriend was a Christian since birth. My boyfriends father would always say give it time and pray for it, do not rush or force her. If it’s Gods will she may come to God herself. From my point, I’ve never believe in God because I grew up an environment where I don’t go to church or have any interaction. However, after having some few problems in our relationship, having exposure christianity and attended to church with him in the past temporary. I am safe to tell you I’m a Christian now, not because of him forcing me but my own choice. I’m happy to tell you that I’m a Christian .

So at the end of the day, people will change.

 

[Kolleen]

Moreover, from what I see eve

You answered your own question ...

Dating non Christian isn’t a bad idea! It’s dating people who is against God or with another religious belief is the hard part. Please read my comment above.