Should I attend my prom? Who here attended?

[Chica4Christ]

Greetings my brothers and sisters!

I am a 16 year old female who is a junior in high school and I have an important question:

Should I attend my senior prom? I went to Homecoming this year (first time ever) and was shocked at the way people were dancing. I think you all know what type of dancing I am talking about, where girls um....rub themselves all over the guy in places that aren't exactly..appropriate.

I know that the dancing isn't godly, nor is the music being played. I dont want to put myself in a dangerous situation where I might fall into sin or temptation, because to be honest, I almost did at homecoming.

The question is: should I carry my cross and sacrifice prom to please God? We as christians are called to be different from the world, a royal priesthood.

But its PROM!! A once in a lifetime opportunity. I just love dressing up, getting your hair done, and taking pictures with your friends. My mom is also looking forward to it.

What should I do? How many people here attended their high school prom?
My mom would freak out if I told her I wasn't going to my senior prom. She would think I was going "overboard" if I told her the true reason.

Thanks you so much guys, I love ya!
God bless from your sis in Christ,
Haley

 

[Ceccia]

I went, and had the most boring time of my life! Seriously! But I'm sure I'm in the minority there.

This might be a stupid question but have you prayed about it? ASk the Lord to set it on your heart whether to go or not, and in my humble experience usually He will give you what many people call a "gut feeling", an instinct that is usually very clear and obvious, as to which choice to make. I will pray for you too, that he will lead you to make a choice and to be sure of it.

AS far as my own opionion, I really have no idea! But if you decide that you don't want to go, don't let your mother or friends make you feel bad for it. It's YOUR choice, whichever decision you make.

I'm not entirely sure that God would lay it on your heart to not go, because sometimes witnessing is done in teh most unlikely situations, and if He knows that someone will be there and that you'll have opportunity to share Jesus with them, maybe He'll give you a feeling of peace and ease about going.
But maybe you would fall into temptation, and would be better off not going.

It's not for me or anyone else to say; try to talk to God and let His spirit guide you.

 

[Arikereba]

Is there any way you could get dressed up, get your hair done, and go bowling with a couple of your friends? Doesn't have to be bowling, but I'm sure you could think of something fun to do... eat breakfast in prom dresses at Denny's at midnight.
Is there anyone you know who you could convince to have an "alternative prom" with you?

I don't like dance music, so I went to my prom, but I mostly hung out in the school lobby with my boyfriend. Getting dressed up was fun, but I don't think the experience was really worth it. Prom's not all that. But I'm kind of a freak--I don't like dance music, didn't have very many friends, and I'm really not into parties and social stuff.

Do you really want to be watching girls rub themselves all over their dance partners? Personally, that part is really not fun for me to watch. Plus, it'll take away from your own enjoyment if you're worrying about it not pleasing God.

But I also don't think you should deny yourself a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that you'll enjoy, just because of what other people are doing, if you can manage to ignore it and just do your own thing.

 

[Chica4Christ]

Arikereba,

That is such a great idea! Dressing up and just going bowling or something. I love to bowl. It would have to be on the day of prom though, maybe a couple of days before because I wouldn't want people to think we are crazy, dressing up in prom dresses in like, the middle of January. ha ha!



But I doubt that any of my friends would want to sacrifice prom. I'll have to talk to them about it, maybe we can all pray about it.

And no, I haven't talked to God about it. Thats a weakness of mine, but I dont like to admit it. See, I told think God has ever spoken to me, i mean what do I listen for? i know that the heavens wont open up and Jesus wont desend on a white horse telling me the answer face to face. hee, hee. But wouldn't that be nice?
I know God speaks to people when they aren't expecting it, and He says things that we dont want to hear.
People I have spoken to say that they cant quite explain it, but I wish i knew!
I hope I dont sound silly....:-(

God bless,
Haley

P.S. Going there and being a witness is also great thinking.

 

[jaimegerise]

I went to both my Jr and Sr prom....both were YUCKY, mostly because of who I went with! If I had to do it all over again, would have gone by myself and just had a ball!

I'm not sure what to tell you...times are a changing....my proms were like 10 years ago....and well to be honest with you, it doesn't matter much to me now a days that I went....I could have done without it.

Now, unless you have someone super special to go with, or maybe go with a group of friends...that might make it memorable and fun.

 

[john14v6]

I went my junior year with my bf but we ended up leaving early because of the music and ended up meeting up with his family and a couple from church and went to steak N shake...I didn't go my senior year...wasn't worth my money or time.

 

[drumbum]

i went to my prom as a senior. i had an OK time. at the time i wasn't saved so i was one of those guys being "rubbed on" by the girls. i personally don't think there is anything wrong with dancing to secular music as long as it's tasteful. with that said, it's up to you. i can tell you that prom is not exactly what it's hyped up to be. at least not nowadays. if you really wanna go, then go, but just expect something similar to homecoming. it's really not that big of a deal. you'll look back and ask yourself why you made such a big deal out of it. i say, plan something FUN that you'll really enjoy, then that's what you'll remember when you're telling your kids stories about high school...

 

[Milla]

There's no rule stating that you have to act all skanky at your prom. If you want to go, you should go, and behave in a way that sets a good example to others and does not lead you down a negative path.

I always had a good time at school functions, and I do not believe I did anything particularly offensive to god or demeaning to myself.

 

[Friendship]

I agree the best thing to do is Pray about it, as far as dancing there is nothing wrong with dancing but I do know the type you speak of as I use to be a party girl in my teenage days and quit school didnt go to prom ofcourse but I always wished I had of, but if you feel like you cant go without giving to the things alot of teens do then maybe you shouldnt but once again pray about it, another thing is you can always make an apearance and then leave if you start to feel uncomfortable, and believe it or not there is hip hop dance thats not dirty dancing, but I also know it easy to get caught up in I still like to dance but have tried to tone it down. One other option is if you have Christian friends who feel the same way you could have your own little prom,
get dressed up play Christian music or whatever you feel is ok to listen to and have a camera and food and punch and decorations maybe you could have it at your church, I mean there are just so many options but the most important one is seeking God because I know its the prom but I missed it and I lived actually I got to see a tape of it and it wasnt all that impressive but I also know the feeling of maybe I should have went but after thinking about it what did I really miss watching all the people I went to school with act like idiots one last time before we out into the real world to be even bigger idiots, follow the Lord and you will never go wrong.

 

[Sketcher]

If you think your friends would be a bad influence on you there, then you might not want to go. I agree that you don't have to act all skanky at the prom or any other dance - there are many ways to dance besides bumping and grinding. But this all depends on the company. If your friends or your date would be pressuring you to outright sin, then you may want to avoid it. You know what your friends are like, and you know your own strengths, weaknesses, and convictions. If there is a good chance that you will be in good company, I'd say attend and rather than worry about it, pray for the best date God can give you. If you're in good company, you can have fun and not be pressured to sin.

PS - Don't fight God on whatever He'll have you do. You will lose, and I'd say no prom is better than a bad prom. Prom is overrated anyway.

 

[Manda_24]

I went to my senior prom with a friend of mine, (not a boyfriend) because he wanted to go but didn't want to go alone. It really wasn't that much fun, a girl that was in one of his classes that liked him hung around (and on him pretty much) the whole time. I talked to some friends there and danced once. I really don't know what to tell you, it is all up to you, if you think the temptation is too high and you are going to do something you shouldn't maybe you shouldn't go.

 

[joyousliving]

I didn't go and never regretted that decision.

It was a lot of money that I could not afford to spend - I needed it for college. It was a bad environment even then.

I agree that you should commit it to pray and let God guide you in this.

 

[eviltangerine]

Yea, I went to my prom, don't regret it at all, admittedly at the time I wasn't as concerned about what God thought of me as I do now, but even my christian friends went. They of course just went in attire they felt more comfortable in and danced the way they felt most comfortable.

People are going to dance the way they want to dance, similarly in life, people are going to think what they want to think.

Go, dress up, have fun, and if you're THAT uncomfortable, go dance with other folks or simply leave (ours was on a boat, so leaving wasn't an option, but there was seating upstairs on the deck where we could just rest and chill, and there wasn't any music up there, but it was gorgeous seeing downtown Seattle at night )

 

[Subordinationist]

Prom is short for Promenade, meaning the following:

A leisurely walk, especially one taken in a public place as a social activity.

A public place for such walking.

A formal dance; a ball.

A march of all the guests at the opening of a ball.


In essence, a prom is an ancient, elitist ritual for the entertainment and social order of the rich. I recommend avoiding them like the plague. Also, modern school proms have become increasingly weird and sensual. If you do go, be wary.



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[Milla]

In essence, a prom is an ancient, elitist ritual for the entertainment and social order of the rich.

(bolding mine)

Yes, the tradition was started by King Tut.

 

[Subordinationist]

Main Entry: an·cient
Function: adjective
: existing from a long past date; of great age; very old; specifically : having had an uninterrupted existence of 20 to 30 or more years


Technically, ancient is a proper word for this instance. Considering they most likely did have promenades in ancient Egypt. They had balls and dances with the nobles and finely dressed ladies even in Pharaoh's day.




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[Milla]

I apologize. It just sounded very melodramatic. Your point is taken, however.

 

[Kasanita]

I think its ultimately your decision in the end and if your faith is strong enough then like it says in the bible: "you can move mountains". But ultimately the decision is yours. When I went to my prom I had a great time...and im sure you will too. But just remember...its all up to you.
But NEwayz, if you do go I hope you have a great time, and stay safe
And if you don't go...then i still wish you all the best

 

[Ave Maria]

I didn't go to my Junior Prom but I did go to my Senior Prom. I went single. All I can tell you is that if you really feel that you will be tempted too much then don't go. But you really should pray to God about it.

 

[drumbum]

what'd you decide, chica?