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She's baaaackk!!!!! .. I think?

Burdman

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So if you don't remember my incredibly long post about my love for this one girl, then go look it up! Mind you this girl has a boyfriend now and they have been dating for 2 months, though he is not Christian. Anyways, yesterday at church, most of our church youth was away so I invited her to sit with me and my fam and friends, so she did. She was stuck to me the whole service and we were cracking jokes back and forth to each other (don't worry we were still listening to the service!!).

I can see she likes me again, but the thing is I don't know how to approach this situation... I still love her (and just because I'm young doesn't mean anything!) and I always will. Church family were telling me to "call her! Call her!" lol. But she has a bf already! I don't know what to do.. I mean if I call her what if it ends up badly... But then again what if it ends up good? I am just so confused! We had a great convo at church to, and she was hitting (playfully me and doing all this flirty stuff. What do you guys think? I am quite positive this is the one God has shown me and wants me to marry!

Anyways guys I'm out! I'll be back soon to check response, god bless! And keep me and her in your prayers please!

PS - she also wants me to come to senior music camp, I told her I will think of it as I was planning to go to national music camp.
 

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So if you don't remember my incredibly long post about my love for this one girl, then go look it up! Mind you this girl has a boyfriend now and they have been dating for 2 months, though he is not Christian. Anyways, yesterday at church, most of our church youth was away so I invited her to sit with me and my fam and friends, so she did. She was stuck to me the whole service and we were cracking jokes back and forth to each other (don't worry we were still listening to the service!!).

I can see she likes me again, but the thing is I don't know how to approach this situation... I still love her (and just because I'm young doesn't mean anything!) and I always will. Church family were telling me to "call her! Call her!" lol. But she has a bf already! I don't know what to do.. I mean if I call her what if it ends up badly... But then again what if it ends up good? I am just so confused! We had a great convo at church to, and she was hitting (playfully me and doing all this flirty stuff. What do you guys think? I am quite positive this is the one God has shown me and wants me to marry!

Anyways guys I'm out! I'll be back soon to check response, god bless! And keep me and her in your prayers please!

PS - she also wants me to come to senior music camp, I told her I will think of it as I was planning to go to national music camp.

Don't move on anything until she breaks up with her boyfriend. Do not cause them to break up, do not cause her to stray away from her current relationship... That's just wrong. Wait until it ends (assuming it will.) then go from there. Do not assume too much though, what if she's just flirty but doesn't like you? You know? Just make sure you don't jump into anything with both feet before you know what's really going on.
 
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Can I be honest? If she is flirting with you while she has a boyfriend, how do you know she won't do it with other guys if she starts going out with you? Examine yourself carefully. Are you sure God is telling you to marry her - if so how do you know. Are you sure it's not just your feelings talking?
 
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HarborOrange

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Can I be honest? If she is flirting with you while she has a boyfriend, how do you know she won't do it with other guys if she starts going out with you? Examine yourself carefully. Are you sure God is telling you to marry her - if so how do you know. Are you sure it's not just your feelings talking?

I'm seconding this... I hope I don't seem like I'm being overly judgmental, but to me I feel that you are head over heels for this girl and somehow you are determined you're going to marry her.
I was thinking about spending the rest of my life with a girl who I was totally infatuated with once. Turns out, she cheated on me 3 times but I was too darn oblivious and blinded by my feelings to notice. Be careful, very, very careful.
 
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Congrats, you are letting emotion interfere with your better judgement, and are leaping from one absurd assumption to the next.

Okay that may have been a bit harsh but hear me out I have a point to make.

Most girls talk to guys "playfully". It's usually them just being friendly. Just from one friend to another. I have plenty of friends who are girls who do the same. Not to say she isn't actually hitting on you, but don't go making the assumption that she is extemely into you based on a few conversations. That will lead to misunderstandings, and then to awkardness and uncomfort, and possibly even a beating from her bf.

Second, don't assume that she's the love of your life just because circumstance had you coincide. Maybe God has plans for her and her BF to marry? Don't assume every women you fall head over heels for is your soulmate.
 
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xygtfalcon

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To be totally honest, I think a lot of people once they are in a relationship do open up a little bit to other people on the whole flirting thing. Mainly because I think they don't really see it as flirting as such any more because they are already in a relationship but more just like having a bit of fun. I know at times I myself have even fallen into this category. I would just make sure you are careful with what you assume.
 
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