Sharing Hobbies

[f U z ! o N]

i was thinking about this today about sharing hobbies with a boyfriend/girlfriend. where do you draw the line with sharing hobbies? should you look for someone you can share a majority or all your hobbies with?
i really enjoy snowboarding, going to the lake, mountain biking, computer gaming, drawing, arts and crafts and such. do i need to look for someone who has those same hobbies?

is it important to share similar hobbies and not share some? would it be wrong to share the same exact hobbies with someone?

 

[Briseis]

At least some would be good. Enough to enjoy time together doing more than talking. But beyond that I dont think it matters. Sharing all hobbies would be great, but probably difficult to find.

 

[peanutbutter12]

I agree, it's good to be with someone who shares some of the same hobbies as you, but not a nessessity to share all of them. More specifically, the ones that mean the most to you and are the most important should be something they are into as well. Otherwise it can lead to problems after a while if you spend more time doing it than they like.

CJ

 

[princessellie]

i was thinking about this today about sharing hobbies with a boyfriend/girlfriend. where do you draw the line with sharing hobbies? should you look for someone you can share a majority or all your hobbies with?
i really enjoy snowboarding, going to the lake, mountain biking, computer gaming, drawing, arts and crafts and such. do i need to look for someone who has those same hobbies?

is it important to share similar hobbies and not share some? would it be wrong to share the same exact hobbies with someone?

i think if you date someone who has the exact same hobbies as you do it can end up being too much of a good thing, it is important to have someone with similar interests so that you have things that you can share doing but is also important to have things that you do on your own so that you dont become attached at the hip, private or alone time is vital in any healthy relationship

 

[Briseis]

private or alone time is vital in any healthy relationship

Who says?

 

[peanutbutter12]

Who says?

Most successful married couples.

CJ

 

[Briseis]

I am so quiet that my bf is my only friend. But although I am quiet i am not the type that likes being alone. I like friends, I just cant make them, so I rely on my bf. He has never complained or shown any signs that this is too much. Are you saying that you think this will become a problem?

 

[KellyLeigh]

common interests are a great thing to have, but it's also good to have some that are just your own too.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I am so quiet that my bf is my only friend. But although I am quiet i am not the type that likes being alone. I like friends, I just cant make them, so I rely on my bf. He has never complained or shown any signs that this is too much. Are you saying that you think this will become a problem?

Some say yes. Boundaries in Dating by Townsend and McCloud? address this very issue. The outgoing one may come to resent having to be the only support and it doesn't allow you to develop your social skills.

 

[Briseis]

Some say yes. Boundaries in Dating by Townsend and McCloud? address this very issue. The outgoing one may come to resent having to be the only support and it doesn't allow you to develop your social skills.

Off topic, but it doesnt matter what anyone may do, I will never develope social skills.

 

[f U z ! o N]

Off topic, but it doesnt matter what anyone may do, I will never develope social skills.

never say you can't do something, it just takes initiative

 

[KellyLeigh]

I can understand what the other girl said about being shy and reserved. I am very shy and do not make friends very easily, not because I'm not a nice or fun person, just plain and simply because I am too quiet and don't end up talking to as many people. My fiance on the other hand is very friendly and out going and can make friends at the drop of a hat. It's not simply as easy to become friendly and social for us as it is for others

As long as you aren't hounding on him to be with you 24/7 and never let him go out with his friends for some guy time or whatever, then it wont matter. We all need alone time, even if it is just sitting by yourself reading a book, or talking to people online

 

[Briseis]

Well, we are lucky if we see each other twice a week, so he has plenty of time away from me. But I would love being with him all the time. Stayed with his family for 3 weeks over Christmas we both commented how great it was to be together all the time. We were together like 16/7, not quiet 24/7.

 

[KellyLeigh]

I'm the same way. If I could be with my fiance 24/7 I would be the happiest person alive. But he needs some space and time to himself and his friends from time to time so I respect him. We don't get to see each other very often because he got a job in wisconsin and I'm still in Alabama finishing up school. We over my breaks from school when we get to spend weeks on end together almost 24/7 (obviously we need to sleep and what not so it isn't 24/7) we both love it!

 

[Callipygian]

We start new hobbies together now..