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Well, things get better as I continue to make healthy choices. Some days this doesn't seem to be a struggle at all and then whammo I'm hit with a feeling of shame and need to deal with it. It gets better but every now and then it reappears. I guess it's a reminder of my humanity and need for God.
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I like a christian radio show for women from Moody Broadcasting called Midday Connection and have been listening to a series on co-dependancy. The last half of this show touches on shame and boundaries. Thought it was worth posting the link. The whole series is good. It's good to have boundaries / limits so that we can take care of ourselves and be healthy and it's good to be able to do this and not feel shame.
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The following link is to the next part of the co-dependancy radio talk. This show is really good and insightful. Take care.
Moody Radio Player
Moody Radio Player
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rainbowgirl2011
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Hi there. I know shame is a very big issue in manys lives. I grew up in an abusive household and as a result carried the shame from it. It took a long time to work through that and no longer hold the shame. One book that really helped me was "Healing the shame that binds you" the author at one time I believe was a preacher but he has many books out on self help. After working through everything I have been able to reconnect and rebuild a relationship with God. Hope this helps
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I'm glad you've found your healing. I read a book called "Deceived By Shame Desired By God" by Cynthia Spell Humbert and it was like having a friend with me as I thought about certain things. Every now and then when lots of junk gets thrown our way by other people including shame, shame can try to rear it's ugly head. I think the trick is to pause and think and make a decision to live healthy. Things do get better over time and healing comes. Glad you've found this. Take care.
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Well, it's amazing how some of us who have been abused have a rather intense drive to succeed. When we end up feeling like we've failed, it can bring on the shame. This has happened to me over the past week. It's a real wake up call to just how much we need God.
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Well, I've got a question to ask. Has anybody ever felt shame over relationship problems? Amazing how many different aspects of our lives can be affected by shame.
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I'm listening to this music this morning and thought I'd share.
Take care; you're valuable.
God loves us. God bless!
Healing Begins by Tenth Avenue North (with lyrics) - YouTube
You Are More ~ Tenth Avenue North - YouTube
Take care; you're valuable.
God loves us. God bless!
Healing Begins by Tenth Avenue North (with lyrics) - YouTube
You Are More ~ Tenth Avenue North - YouTube
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cweinstein
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I have. Shame and guilt, they seem to go together. And fear of being yelled at again.
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I understand. It isn't easy. Very difficult. Feels like we're walking on eggshells when we're around aggressive people. Not sure how safe things are. Never easy when we don't feel safe. When I'm in that type of situation it feels chaotic. Not sure who yelled at you but one thing I've found helpful is to have a plan. So if the situation is starting to feel unsafe in whatever way, e.g. emotionally, then I may go for a walk and notice a park bench down the road I can rest on or I may bring a friend or music etc. When I have a plan in place I feel better able to protect myself and things feel less chaotic. So unfortunate those of us who have been abused can take on unnecessary shame and have it dumped on us by other people. Take care.
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cweinstein
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Yes it is very difficult. I've had to learn to feel again, almost to speak again. By the time I left my abuser I was barely talking, having constant anxiety, and daily panic attacks. With time and effort, and meds for a year, that has improved a lot, but there are times when I still feel unsafe, and I still feel anxiety, and I try to get it under control before it turns into panic. And it wears me out.
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LovedSparrow
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Yes and yes. You're not alone, I fear in being yelled at, too. I'm glad I'm not the only one. I put myself down because of this. I work in a public setting as a cashier, and if I don't pray for God to be with me, I am scared and apprehensive that a customer will get mad at me. I've only experienced it where a customer got really really upset, but my manager was right there.
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Oh I feel for you. It must be very difficult and I'm glad that you are managing better. It takes time and effort but it does get better each healthy step we take. You are so very right, experiencing issues like this is exhausting. So important we take care of ourselves not just emotionally but physically. I am chronically ill and the two issues can affect one another. My health issues can be discouraging and vice versa, healing from abuse etc. can take it's toll on my body. Today is a very heavy day for me for both areas so I know that I will need to pay attention to 'me' today and take it easy.
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I empathize with you greatly. When we face this day after day it takes it's toll on our self-esteem and the way we view the world around us ...and the way we think the world may view us. We are valuable. God loves us so much and we are so very worthwhile and valuable. I hope we all can find practical things around us that can remind us of this whether it be professionals, friends, church, other survivors of abuse, music, etc. Take care.
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cweinstein
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That is probably the hardest part of my job. Dealing with customers who are frustrated, yelling and not directly at me, but I just happen to be in the line of fire, and I've had a hard time dealing with that because it feels I am the one being yelled at
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I've also been a cashier before and it's not easy. I empathize with you both. Unfortunately, people in that position usually get the brunt of peoples upset. Take care.
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