Shallow

[Gimpy]

I guess I am kind of shallow. I dont always make my bed, wash the dishes or keep the house very clean. I do take out the trash regurlarly though. *bowing*

 

[joyouspirit]

I guess I am kind of shallow. I dont always make my bed, wash the dishes or keep the house very clean. I do take out the trash regurlarly though. *bowing*

Wow, I am impressed. I think I'm gonna cry....

 

[Gimpy]

Wow, I am impressed. I think I'm gonna cry....

Yes, this sort of truth is difficult to find, except when slicing an onion with an unsharpened knife.

 

[Luther073082]

I can find something physically attractive about most women under the age of 40. (Some beyond that)

The only women I am not attracted to what so ever (under 40) are women who are most likely not making an effort to take care of themselves, women striken with horrible injuries and diseases, and relatives.

All I need is a minimum amount of physical attractivness to me. I have dated an overweight woman in the past and this does not bother me as long as they are not overweight to excess. She was also working on losing weight before I met her and was continuing which I was glad to see. I do prefer someone who is at least somewhat physically active.

So yes I am shallow a little bit and I feel guilty about not feeling guilty about that. However I really belive that everyone is a little bit shallow, the question is to what extent does one let it control them?

 

[NoHoldingBack]

So yes I am shallow a little bit and I feel guilty about not feeling guilty about that.

There is nothing shallow about having standards and from what you have said it sounds like you are more open minded than most.

That's nothing to feel guilty about.

 

[Luther073082]

There is nothing shallow about having standards and from what you have said it sounds like you are more open minded than most.

That's nothing to feel guilty about.

Actually I'm just buying my time until Carrie Underwood asks me out.

 

[Stratiotes]

Actually I'm just buying my time until Carrie Underwood asks me out.

Haha aren't we all.

 

[Luther073082]

Haha aren't we all.

Too late this lady (Miss Underwood) is already spoken for. I've already claimed her; she's mine.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I can find something physically attractive about most women under the age of 40. (Some beyond that)

So the 40 caught my attention.

 

[Luther073082]

So the 40 caught my attention.

Being that I am 24 I don't think that I should be expected to find women above the age of 40 attractive because they are so far above me in age. I am certain that I will find them attractive when I advance in years. At one point I wasn't attracted to women over the age of 30 very often. . . That changed.

Don't worry though your still one hot momma.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I do not think not dating a heavier person is shallow, it is a preference and a health issue. I am not talking about a few extra pounds either.


When I was heavier I did not date much and felt gross all the time.. taking off the pounds gave me , a me I was proud of...

 

[Luther073082]

I do not think not dating a heavier person is shallow, it is a preference and a health issue. I am not talking about a few extra pounds either.


When I was heavier I did not date much and felt gross all the time.. taking off the pounds gave me , a me I was proud of...

Yeah, I don't think I could get along with someone who wasn't at least a little bit physically active. My mother was like that. Ate whatever she felt like, didn't ever excersize. And when we would convince her to excersize she would always do it for a few months and find an excuse to quit. For example the last time she was going to a gym and was doing very well, losing weight. Well she came down with seizures during this time so she quit cause she said "She didn't want to have a seizure while excersizing" The thing is though is that she would drive herself everywhere without even thinking about it. So it was too dangerous to excersize but not too dangerous to drive.

Well at the beginning of March she had a heart attack and came very close to dying. She had to have 5 bypasses and spent a month in the hospital.

I don't want to deal with that again. If a woman never has any urge to do any kind of excersize then forget it.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I think I've posted in this thread more than the OP.

I just updated my pictures on eharmony after losing some weight and reopened my account to matches now that I'm done with school. I didn't think twice about it since I'm hoping the ex-bf sees them and cries. He hasn't seen me for 5 weeks.

I'm considering posting some pics now on relationships.com and I was just wondering if I'm going to be getting contacted by guys that wouldn't have considered me 3 months ago. Do I want them to consider me? I'm kind of torn. I know there are strong Christian men (I think) in my age range that won't consider a relationship with overweight women, but I'm actually kind of concerned that I might be getting some shallow interest that I'm going to have to be on the look out for. I know for some I'm probably still not acceptable and that's fine. I just keep thinking if they wouldn't have been interested in me when I weighed 25 pounds more, I'm not sure I'm interested in them and I'll always be wondering about that.

Ideally the "friend" that I've been seeing on and off for the last six months will turn into something more and I won't have to have that nagging thought in the back of my head. He was interested in getting to know me when I was at least 20 pounds heavier.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

And I wouldn't expect someone in their 20's to be interested in me. It's just that you had my age written there, lol.

I don't even know about someone in their late 30's. Even the guys pushing 50 still want to have kids. I'm wanting to close up that shop soon.

 

[NoHoldingBack]

I have seen many women 40+ that I thought were just breathtaking!

 

[Luther073082]

I think I've posted in this thread more than the OP.

I just updated my pictures on eharmony after losing some weight and reopened my account to matches now that I'm done with school. I didn't think twice about it since I'm hoping the ex-bf sees them and cries. He hasn't seen me for 5 weeks.

I'm considering posting some pics now on relationships.com and I was just wondering if I'm going to be getting contacted by guys that wouldn't have considered me 3 months ago. Do I want them to consider me? I'm kind of torn. I know there are strong Christian men (I think) in my age range that won't consider a relationship with overweight women, but I'm actually kind of concerned that I might be getting some shallow interest that I'm going to have to be on the look out for. I know for some I'm probably still not acceptable and that's fine. I just keep thinking if they wouldn't have been interested in me when I weighed 25 pounds more, I'm not sure I'm interested in them and I'll always be wondering about that.

Ideally the "friend" that I've been seeing on and off for the last six months will turn into something more and I won't have to have that nagging thought in the back of my head. He was interested in getting to know me when I was at least 20 pounds heavier.

I wouldn't mess with them. 20 pounds is not that much that it should make a difference IMO. I mean if you where talking about 100 to 150 pounds, that makes a difference, but 20 pounds is not that much that it should change a man's mind.

I would look at dating someone who already has children if you don't want to have anymore. If you are looking at guys who don't have kids then naturally they are going to want at least one of their own. (For example I want at least a couple of my own) But a guy who already has his own kids is less likely to be interested in making more.

I think your friend is probably a good place to start. I keep hoping that one of my friendships will develop into something more and they never do.

 

[Im_A]

My other thread got me thinking about being shallow. I use to weight 285 lbs and a man would never get past looking at me. I don't think I was unattractive, I was just fat, which I guess is not very attractive now is it?

Even when I was fat I would not seriously date a guy I didn't think was attractive and I didn't want a fat guy like me. I met and went out with for a while this guy who was wonderful to me, he treated me like a princess but I wasn't physically attracted to him. That and he was a nice guy and I didn't know how to handle that.

Finally I have realized that there is more to a person than looks. I finally just want someone who loves the Lord, that will work (bad experiences with the ex-husband), who loves me, loves my daughter and will be good to us.

It took me 36 years to get over being shallow, but I think I am finally there.

i'm shallow and i'm not ashamed of it.

i will only date people that i find attractive. looks and personalities and matters of the heart are of equal importance to me. if the relationship works out, intimacy will be a given and i'm sorry but i cannot be intimate and give the woman i want to spend the rest of my life with her needs in this area if i think she is ugly. even Paul says that a married couple should not keep themselves away from one another with their bodies, but if only for a time of prayer.

so yes. i'm very shallow. i will not date women that i think are ugly. thing is, what i am attracted to still keeps me in the "good guy" wannabe category i've dated overweight, underweight, blondes, brown, black haired women, large breasted, small breasted, tall, short types of physical attributes on women. so i'm not shallow in the physical attributes, but i'm very shallow when it comes to i will only date a person i'm attracted to. and then the next issue will come, if i'm attracted to them, what about our personalities, her personality, how she views me, how she treats me, how she treats herself, how she lives her life comes next. i get the easy stuff done with first...the complicated stuff takes time.

plus it'd be sinful for me to be with someone that i'm not attracted to. i couldn't give her, her needs if we'd end up marrying. i couldn't be completely honest with her when i compliment/praise the women i love. inevitably, i wouldn't be loving her as i would love myself.

 

[Laurie919]

I think I've posted in this thread more than the OP.

I just updated my pictures on eharmony after losing some weight and reopened my account to matches now that I'm done with school. I didn't think twice about it since I'm hoping the ex-bf sees them and cries. He hasn't seen me for 5 weeks.

I'm considering posting some pics now on relationships.com and I was just wondering if I'm going to be getting contacted by guys that wouldn't have considered me 3 months ago. Do I want them to consider me? I'm kind of torn. I know there are strong Christian men (I think) in my age range that won't consider a relationship with overweight women, but I'm actually kind of concerned that I might be getting some shallow interest that I'm going to have to be on the look out for. I know for some I'm probably still not acceptable and that's fine. I just keep thinking if they wouldn't have been interested in me when I weighed 25 pounds more, I'm not sure I'm interested in them and I'll always be wondering about that.

Ideally the "friend" that I've been seeing on and off for the last six months will turn into something more and I won't have to have that nagging thought in the back of my head. He was interested in getting to know me when I was at least 20 pounds heavier.

i just like to read what everyone has to say, lol.

 

[Laurie919]

plus i think that some of my thoughts on this might get me into a lot of trouble.....

 

[Luther073082]

plus i think that some of my thoughts on this might get me into a lot of trouble.....

You can PM them to me if they will get you in that much trouble. I can handle it I'm a big boy.