Sexuality

[coalfarm]

Okay...i didn't really know where to post this so here goes:

I've been thinking recently about seuality, how God made us sexual beings and all that. But it seems like until we get married that's a whole part of life that we're supposed to just ignore. What's up with that? Am i getting it right?

 

[fishstix]

I once read a very interesting article entitled Sexuality and Singleness. It might give you some food for thought on this topic.

 

[Johnnz]

There is a huge silence on sex and the single person within Christian circles. Singles are not asexual. There is a real need for some open discussion and sharing on this issue.

John
NZ

 

[D'Ann]

You may talk about this issue in the Ethics & Morality forums located on this link:

http://www.christianforums.com/f40-ethics-morality.html

Or

http://www.christianforums.com/f119-liberal-theology.html

The forum of these sections link is:

http://www.christianforums.com/f9-discussion-debate.html

I'm closing this thread and I pray that as you discuss this issue... that you will find the support that you are seeking.

 

[D'Ann]

Sharing links where this subject can be discussed.

 

[D'Ann]

moving thread to the proper forum

 

[ChristianCenturion]

Okay...i didn't really know where to post this so here goes:

I've been thinking recently about se{x}uality, how God made us sexual beings and all that. But it seems like until we get married that's a whole part of life that we're supposed to just ignore. What's up with that? Am i getting it right?

Ignore it?
Exactly when do you think a person should begin developing self-control, after it is too late?

2 Timothy 3:1-5 1But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.

 

[shinbits]

I've been thinking recently about seuality, how God made us sexual beings and all that. But it seems like until we get married that's a whole part of life that we're supposed to just ignore. What's up with that? Am i getting it right?

Not ignore, but control. Until marriage.

 

[Electric Sceptic]

Okay...i didn't really know where to post this so here goes:

I've been thinking recently about seuality, how God made us sexual beings and all that. But it seems like until we get married that's a whole part of life that we're supposed to just ignore. What's up with that? Am i getting it right?

Yup. Rather silly, isn't it?

 

[spinto]

Ignore it?
Exactly when do you think a person should begin developing self-control, after it is too late?

2 Timothy 3:1-5 1But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.

Oh goodness, if there was ever anything human, there would be a Bible verse to give some misguided reason to supress it (aka, control it). All you get is a bunch of wound up, sexually frustrated people praying very hard not to be.

 

[shinbits]

Yup. Rather silly, isn't it?

tell that to your young daughter as she becomes sexuality active.

 

[indigo tree]

To limit sexuality to the act of intercourse is misguided. What about kissing? Holding hands? When done intimately, I think these things can be seen as an expression of sexuality as well. I don't think anyone should have to 'ignore' their own sexuality until marriage, as there are other ways to express it.

 

[Electric Sceptic]

tell that to your young daughter as she becomes sexuality active.

I'll have no hesitation in telling it to my young daughter. I certainly won't be filling her head with any of that 'you must wait until marriage!' nonsense.

 

[shinbits]

To limit sexuality to the act of intercourse is misguided. What about kissing? Holding hands? When done intimately, I think these things can be seen as an expression of sexuality as well. I don't think anyone should have to 'ignore' their own sexuality until marriage, as there are other ways to express it.

I see what you're saying.

But all forms sexuality are reserved for marriage. A married man should not express forms of sexuality with other women that are not intercourse. It's still wrong to kiss or hold hands in a sexual way, with someone not his wife.

And the reason for that, is because the wife would get jeolous. Why? Because that's supposed to be with her only.

That's different of course, form showing affection. Affection does not have to be sexual. You can kiss or hold hands with a child. There's nothing wrong with non-sexual affection if you're not married, or outside of your own marriage.

 

[indigo tree]

And I see what you are saying, but I cannot see how kissing someone you love in an intimate way is not sexual at all. Theres a difference in the way you feel when you kiss a baby, as opposed to when you kiss somone of the opposite sex you are attracted too.

 

[ApocryphaNow]

I've never had sex with somebody that was jealous about the fact that I wasn't a virgin. Haha, I mean, some people really get excited about that, but I don't think it is a big deal in the long run.

The biggest problem I have with the no sex until marriage argument is not that "I can't wait" (although obviously I have not... then again I'm an atheist). Some people just do not get it on very well. Bodies are shaped differently, people are too enthusiastic or too apathetic, etc. It would be horrible to get married to have sex and then find out that the sex you are having isn't good because you are not compatible in bed.

Sex in a deep and fullfilling relationship is spectacular and gratifying. Two people don't have to be married to be in love. If you ever end up dating somebody and they are upset that you didn't "save yourself" for them, you really have to start to wonder if that person is worth it anyway. Jealousy is not an attractive feature.

 

[indigo tree]

Sex in a deep and fullfilling relationship is spectacular and gratifying. Two people don't have to be married to be in love. If you ever end up dating somebody and they are upset that you didn't "save yourself" for them, you really have to start to wonder if that person is worth it anyway. Jealousy is not an attractive feature.

Nicely said.

 

[shinbits]

And I see what you are saying, but I cannot see how kissing someone you love in an intimate way is not sexual at all. Theres a difference in the way you feel when you kiss a baby, as opposed to when you kiss somone of the opposite sex you are attracted too.

I guess that's true.

Really, it isn't wrong to kiss someone you're attracted to. BUT,

My roomate is a Christian and before he proposed to his fiancee, he did kiss her a few times.

But his mindset was, that he dates a person with the specific intention of "will this lead to marriage." (He didn't always feel like that, we used to argue about all the time)

See, I think we shouldn't date anyone just to have a person to hug and kiss.

If you see a future with this person brewing, then with much prayer and wisdome guiding you, I guess it's not wrong to kiss.

 

[TeabagJive]

Okay...i didn't really know where to post this so here goes:

I've been thinking recently about seuality, how God made us sexual beings and all that. But it seems like until we get married that's a whole part of life that we're supposed to just ignore. What's up with that? Am i getting it right?

It's an excellent question.

Infact, in Jewish tradition, the first command God ever gives humanity, is to be sexual ( Geneseis 1:28 ) and multiply.

If people wanna supress their sexuality becuase they believe it pleases God, so be it. I'm quite happy with mine

 

[Jacob4Jesus]

It's an excellent question.

Infact, in Jewish tradition, the first command God ever gives humanity, is to be sexual ( Geneseis 1:28 ) and multiply.

If people wanna supress their sexuality becuase they believe it pleases God, so be it. I'm quite happy with mine

I have to second you on that. I don't believe God is out to make anyone miserable by making them get all these sexual urges and doing nothing at all with them.