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And yet again,the complete purpose of the thread is set aside for people to continue In their "well I think I am right and that's that" attitudes.
And this my fellow forum users was exactly my point!
Oh I understand and appreciate your comment.
My issue is that it's always the same names popping up be it defending or opposing a healthy/unhealthy sex life when the topic was directed at something entirely different. Which would be ok and fine if people could use a forum respectfully enough to allow other posters to have an opinion and maybe not agree with it but also not try to "make" that person see how "wrong" they are.
Again, my issue is only that Christians should behave in a Christ-like manner, especially when being watched by non-believers. Thts not saying I am perfect or claiming to be, but there's a lot to be said for treating people respectfully.
Actually the sex threads that inevitably lead to fighting and the seemingly fighting about gender roles are why I've been avoiding this section of the forums. I think that there are some really interesting people here and people who have a lot of insight but it's fatiguing to read the fighting.
Jane, I've never seen you do it, but there are a few posters who use the forums to vent their unhappiness and to place the blame for their marriages on their spouses and members of the opposite sex.
I'd like to spend time here but I just can't take it. Marriage is a messy, complicated and difficult journey that is so vastly difficult even in the best of times. There's a lot of judgement and hatred and close mindedness that gets spewed. I think that there is sometimes some over sensitivity. It's off putting.
It'd end up getting closed.
I think it is considered titillating, and to be honest, for people in a sexless marriage it probably would be titillating. I think it's probably better that they don't allow threads like that.
LOL. Exactly!I'm in a sexless marriage, and I think it would be a silly reason not to have a pro-sex thread. Believe me, a thread like that would not push me over the top. Living in a sexless marriage is. Not allowing pro-sex threads is not going to make my situation worse.
That's really been my question all along. Can someone PLEASE explain that to me? I sincerely do NOT get it.I really don't understand why it's so depressing that just a few of us insist that healthy relationships and emotional intimacy need to be present in order to have a healthy and fulfilling sex life. Is that so discouraging? Lol.
I really don't understand why it's so depressing that just a few of us insist that healthy relationships and emotional intimacy need to be present in order to have a healthy and fulfilling sex life. Is that so discouraging? Lol.
I really don't understand why it's so depressing that just a few of us insist that healthy relationships and emotional intimacy need to be present in order to have a healthy and fulfilling sex life. Is that so discouraging? Lol.
I don't think that these things shouldn't be discussed. It's just that the infighting is too much for me. I have a non-marital topic that I want to discuss. I need some people to discuss it with. I don't feel like I can without people being jerks to each other and further more, being a jerk to me.Also, to address the OP specifically, sure, I get what everybody is saying about all the arguing & stuff, and "lack of civility," and why can't us Christians do better. And sometimes I get very uncomfortable with all the acrimony that arises.
Having said that: where else are we gonna go to discuss this stuff? There are some people here that are in great pain because of bad marriages/ relationships/situations, for one. And there are people who are misunderstood & get frustrated by that. Most people can't take the time and/or money to go find some counselor or maybe their spouse won't go even if they could.
And I'll tell you something else, acrimony or not, when one of us has an urgent need & comes back here for prayer & support, we all gather together with no questions, and we support one another like you've never seen.
And a misconception people have about Christians is that we're these perfect little people. We're not any better than anybody else. We're just FORGIVEN and we know it & thank Him for it.
I am wondering if anyone cares to discuss anything other than sex or the male vs female aspects of marriage.
I really don't understand why when people talk about enjoying/needing sex, that its assumed to be shallow or that their marriage is based only on sex, or that they don't have a healthy relationship already with great emotional intimacy. "LOL"
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