Sex Question

[koban4max]

THat's real talk!

 

[fungku]

My biggest weakness, and worst fear is Sexual Immorality.

My best friend is a female and it just so happens she is in the same boat. On top of that, we both are physically attracted to eachother, so we have to be careful!

(On the bright side- We both encourage eachother and share our weak moments and thoughts with eachother, and it has definitely helped me a lot.)

One moment of weakness could lead to some pretty bad situations. I have a lot of female friends (compared to male friends), some non-christian. The non-christian ones want me to go out to bars or parties with them, but obviously that's not a good idea.

Even though I don't drink I'm afraid I'd do something stupid anyway. I'd like to be a strong witness for these people...
God can give me strength to resist and will provide a way out, I know. I've had to rely on God more than once when it comes to this!

Anyway, enough of my rant. Just know that there are many, many people who struggle with the same "urges".
If you really struggle with this, share your thoughts with God and a good friend and always have someone who can hold you accountable!

We can all sympathize, here is a prayer for you!

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I dont see why you dont have a gf you seem like a pretty cool guy

 

[koban4max]

I just get bored of sexual feelings..hahah...i turn it off....tell you the truth..it's not very hard to resist..you just got to do something else. I resisted because I get too lazy.

 

[winglovesall]

Yeah -- try to be away from temptation!

 

[Highland Watchman]

Is it wrong to have desire before marriage?

If there was no desire, why get married in the first place?

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

I just get bored of sexual feelings..hahah...i turn it off....tell you the truth..it's not very hard to resist..you just got to do something else. I resisted because I get too lazy.

its not so easy for all of us but thats great that it is for you

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I do other things to get my mind off it too!

 

[koban4max]

its not so easy for all of us but thats great that it is for you

I know it's not that easy..but you know i worked on it...but i understand what your saying...because not everyone is same.

 

[JPPT1974]

If there was no desire, why get married in the first place?

Get married because you love each other and that you really want to commit to one another as well as get an commitment out of each other.

 

[winglovesall]

You love each other -- you care for each other -- you understand about each other -- you accept each other -- that's the reason why people should be getting married

 

[B®ent]

I have dealt with the feelings brought up by the OP. However, reflecting on those thoughts usually makes me very depressed and empty inside. I want to save every bit of intimacy for my wife. To imagine wasting it away, is very depressing indeed.

 

[lunalinda]

Ohhh yes, I have the urges. They don't really control me, though, to be honest. I more often think "Gosh I wish I could just make love right now" than "Gahhh I need to have sex NOWWWW!" So it's more a strong desire than an obsessive crave, if that makes any sense. I think that has a lot to do with my virginity. Since I haven't had sex yet, I don't really obsess over it because I don't even know what it's like anyway. But yes, those urges still come. My hormones still exist. My body still has a "mind" of it's own. That's why it's definitely important to be in control, because chances are, you're body isn't gonna know how to control itself if you're mind drops the reigns.

 

[choceo]

beetle queen diva.. i feel you and on the real alot of those urges are hormonal..peep this article that sheds some light on this topic

http://www.urbanweblink.com/articles_view.asp?articleid=6074&columnid=1804

 

[JPPT1974]

You love each other -- you care for each other -- you understand about each other -- you accept each other -- that's the reason why people should be getting married

You said it my friend! God bless you!

 

[fungku]

I dont see why you dont have a gf you seem like a pretty cool guy

I am way too shy around people I don't know. combine that with the fact that I don't get out much, other than to go to work, play in soccer games, or go to church and you can see that I have a pretty slim chance of meeting anyone.

At work they are mostly all married/attached and non-christian, I play soccer with guys, and I don't really know or get the chance to get to know many people my age at church (I'm friends with lots of old people!).

There is a young adults group (called Sub25) that meets wednesday nights, but I manage to be working most wednesday nights. I've only gone once all summer.

Oh well, I don't feel like I am ready to be in a relationship at the moment. I have not been a devoted Christian for very long, and never been in a Christian relationship. Not to mention I am moving in a few months (probably) to go back to school.

A lot of things need to be settled in my life before I am ready for a real relationship, I'm sure. That doesn't stop me from feeling lonely though...

 

[koban4max]

sweet, by looking at that signature...it kinda urges me..hahah

 

[fungku]

sweet, by looking at that signature...it kinda urges me..hahah

Whose signature is urging you to do what?

(I hope it's not the type of urges being discussed in this thread! )

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I think the urge to want to be with someone is something we all do.. I hate feeling lonely and when I do I wish i was not alone.. hence being with someone for all the wrong reasons..

I know I do not think about sex every 7 minutes gosh I would never get to work or do anything then..

 

[winglovesall]

Yes, I agree -- sex is something done after marriage!