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Sojourner<><
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Yeah that sound's pretty level headed to me. But when you're actually trying to make the decision it can be kind of difficult to think about all that stuff.
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i know what you are saying however..I can testify that you can be restored to natural affection/attraction..how you say:?Sojourner<>< said:This brings up another question (and I think it would be smart to keep the subject quarantined here so it doesn't snowball into a problem) :
For those of us who get really strong urges, is it wrong to marry because you have these urges? I would think it might leave you in an awkward spot years later when the sex drive starts to die down a little.
I also keep thinking that I'm waiting to meet someone I can fall in love with. But honestly when my urges are too strong, it makes it harder for me to wait for my heart to catch up, know what I mean? I remember those really strong emotions I would get when I was younger, before my sex drive started to take over. I guess I'm hoping that that sort of thing will happen again but am I just kidding myself? My worst fear is that I'll have to wait for my sex drive to get out of the way before I can have a big crush on someone again.
Darned biological responses. I wish I had an on/off button for everything I can do.
-pray and ask God to give to you!
-stop lusting! Seriously get rid of any dirty magz./web imanges etc.
GET A WEB FILTER ! netmop is very good
-Do not touch yourself, when you stop doing that, your sex drive will drop dramtically! You will become once again like a you once were..when you use to look at girls as the whole picture..rather then checking out there sexual organs, and comparing them in your mind etc.
trust me, if you make purity a top concern the lord will bless you and restore you to his wonderful way of things..and in due time you will be married..of course there are other facors invloved..but try it you wont be the same.
Also walk in the spirit and you wont fullfill the lusts of the flesh.
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i also get strong sexual desires (frequently)... scary stuff.
Its normal for us to feel it (we're only human), but we must try to avoid it of course because its a sin... easier said than done though, i know.
Its normal for us to feel it (we're only human), but we must try to avoid it of course because its a sin... easier said than done though, i know.
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Just some verses to consider.....
Don't you know that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, 'The two are united into one'. 1 Corinthians 6:16
- Run away from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18
- Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2
- For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
- God wants you to live a pure life. Keep yourselves from sexual promiscuity. Learn to appreciate and give dignity to your body, not abusing it, as is so common among those who know nothing of God. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Heb 13:4
Don't you know that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, 'The two are united into one'. 1 Corinthians 6:16
- Run away from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18
- Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2
- For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
- God wants you to live a pure life. Keep yourselves from sexual promiscuity. Learn to appreciate and give dignity to your body, not abusing it, as is so common among those who know nothing of God. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Heb 13:4
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Sojourner<><
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Well, obviously, it's a sin to act upon one's sex drive and actually go out just to have sex.... If one needs to have sex that badly then he/she should just get married.
It's also obviously wrong to give in to prostitution and all other sexual immorality.
I don't think that's what we're really talking about here in this thread.
Is it wrong to want to have sex?
What exactly is lust? If I were married it would be wrong for me to look at other women with desire. But if I'm single is it wrong for me to desire a single woman?
If you, being unmarried, went on a date and your body began to tell you that it wants to have sex with this person (but you don't give in to it), is that lust? Is that wrong?
Also, if there were no sexual desire, what reason would there be for marriage?
It's also obviously wrong to give in to prostitution and all other sexual immorality.
I don't think that's what we're really talking about here in this thread.
Is it wrong to want to have sex?
What exactly is lust? If I were married it would be wrong for me to look at other women with desire. But if I'm single is it wrong for me to desire a single woman?
If you, being unmarried, went on a date and your body began to tell you that it wants to have sex with this person (but you don't give in to it), is that lust? Is that wrong?
Also, if there were no sexual desire, what reason would there be for marriage?
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Bless the Lord! stay pure in mind and body..purity is a great blessing, that few find! Though, if you ever get married enjoy, that desire for your husband.JPPT1974 said:
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easier said then done!koban4max said:
we live in a sex starved society..everywhere its upon us..TV/Internet/Radio ads, magazines, newspaper.billboards, posters, books, then of course the men and women dress sexual and preverse everywhere..Praise God not everyone! but those who do stand out!
Just thing about pure things..and dont even give harlots the time of day with a look! (unless they are talkingto you, then be a witness!)keep yourself from idolizing the female body.! it is wonderful to admire..but in the right way, (obivous with clothes on
..nakedness causes lust, bottom line!
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