Sex Poll

[Ryder]

I think sex outside of marriage is a sin too. Also, I don't think marriage needs to be a giant hooplah, if two people really consented to be wed at that very moment, and entered sexaul relations after that honest commitment, then had a big fancy wedding for the families. Well, it's not my call to make, but I could think of worse things to do. Of course the legitimacy of that would depend on the honesty of each persons commitment to each other under God, but then again doesn't any marriage of any degree of formality depend on such anyways?

 

[DaveKerwin]

Ryder, I disagree, and for the sake of this thread, do not wish to get into it here. I value the marriage relationship more than to just make a committment verbally and start shacking up.

Anyways, sex is a very dangerous tool, and should be used with utmost caution.

 

[FroZenDeSire]

Most don't share my oppinion but I think sex is much more then just marriage. A little certificate with a signature here and there is nothing compared to the vow you make when you are with your lover one on one (no pun intended) With my own country allowing gay and lesbien marriages I am now forcing myself to realise that my relationship with my soul mate is something much more then a marriage as the world views it. This is so hard for me to explain but this is how I feel. I intend not to move in with my bf but I know that he is the one for me as God has showed me this and when I'm fully ready I will submit myself to him as his "wife".

 

[DaveKerwin]

Not that you asked for my opinion, but don't move in with him, and don't have sex before you actually get married. You will understand in hindsight. I think what you are tying to say is that there is something very important beyond the actual marriage certificate. I agree. It is a very serious committment before God, and before your state. It should not be messed with, or dealt lightly with.

 

[JesseB.]

It is not a sin. It's the couple's decision and nobody's business...

 

[S Walch]

Would you like to show us some bible verses that show us it isn't a sin?

Would you also like to show us some bible verses that tell us that what other christians do which we think are wrong is non of our business?

 

[DaveKerwin]

It is not a sin. It's the couple's decision and nobody's business...

I would inform the Reverend Kathy Gibson-Christensen of your sexual activity before you think you can lead a bible study at SouthCross Community.

 

[HigherPraiz]

Well, I really have no room to talk because I did have sex outside of marriage and got pregnant and had a baby girl but as a married woman now...I think its fornication and is wrong and I regret it (even though it was with my husband now)

 

[Wolflily]

Sex before marriage is sin.

When you enter into a sexual relationship with a person, you are binding yourself to that person in such a deep, intimate way that it is as the Bible, says, "two become one flesh". God intends marriage to be a relationship on a par with His relationship to us - it is permanent, deep, committed, and sacred.

 

[GirlieGirl]

I'm kind of concerned by the results of this poll (8 people said sex before marriage was okay). I thought the question of whether or not sex before marriage is a sin was a bit of a no-brainer if you're a practicing Christian.

 

[mgutie2002]

Sex before marriage is wrong. And I will admit that I sinned in that area. I really admire my baby brother who is now 20 years old and attending Baylor University. He is really committed to not have sex until he gets married.

 

[stonehands]

What about a couple who gets married at the courthouse and has the legal documentation of marriage but no ceremony? They are considered married in God's eyes as well as everyone else no?

 

[charligirl]

3) Nowhere in Scripture does it indicate that a couple can be considered married in the sight of God without following the laws of the day. Yes, the customs in today's culture are different and more flexible but some things are still followed. (ie: A marriage license, an official, and wittnesses.)

If God had wanted to extend the definition of marriage to committed relationships He would have indicated this in His Word. We must be careful never to allow our feelings to override Scripture.

I think this is the crux of the 'What actually is marriage in God's eyes?' argument God told us to follow the legal law sof our government and for two people to be married they must adhere to the lawful and cultural regulations of the land.

If two people are willing to make that binding commitment together in front of God, I find it hard to understand why they would put off a legal wedding? I would get married in a registery office one lunchtime and have the blessing and big family celebration when I had finished college/got more money/whatever the reason was.

 

[charligirl]

What about a couple who gets married at the courthouse and has the legal documentation of marriage but no ceremony? They are considered married in God's eyes as well as everyone else no?

Yes they are

 

[JillLars]

If two people are willing to make that binding commitment together in front of God, I find it hard to understand why they would put off a legal wedding?

The legal ceremony has legal effects, and for some people, it just isn't do-able right away. God never said anything about health insurance, social security benefits, tax rules when he talked about marriage, but with legal marriage comes all the secular stuff as well.

 

[psychoceramic]

if a marriage ceremony is not something that we as people in the new testament of Christ Jesus, the Son of God and the Son of man, the creator of all things, should be a part of when getting married then why would it be one of the first acts and functions that we see him at.

If it was the first place that Jesus performed a miracale (the water into wine) then it must be an important event. And it must be something that we as Christians follower of Christ regard as a cherish act for our own lives.

Now do you have to have a big ceremony? no, our wedding (wife and myself of course) had a small back yard wedding with our pastor and our families and friends.

Another reason to look at a wedding ceremony as an act that God and Christ both enjoy and look forward to in our lives is the way man and satan are perverting it in this day and age. countless numbers of men marrying men and women marrying women perverts the very nature and the very act itself. And as every one can see and knows Satan attacks what God made for good.



just my thoughts,

in HIM,
psycho