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Settling or waiting

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I understand that some people don't like being alone and single,and I wanted to know if you would just settle or wait,for me I would wait.

I am willing to settle (within reason) but I still haven’t met anyone.
 
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I admit that sometimes I feel desperate and put on rose colored glasses. However the thought that I married someone that I just settled for but wasn’t really in love with would be especially awful if the man of my dreams appeared in my life and I was madly in love for the first time but couldn’t be with the love of my life because I settled just for the sake of getting married. At the end of the day I want to be with the love of my life
 
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Waiting. The way I see it, I'd rather be alone and still have a chance of finding a good relationship than stuck in a bad or mediocre one. I'm not looking for perfection. God knows I'm not perfect, but I'm looking for genuine compatibility.
 
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If "settling" means dating and getting to know someone who may not appear to be my ideal and taking the time to know him, then I'd settle. I think too many people "wait" for the idea when it comes to dating.

As for marriage, it would have to be someone I can't imagine living without.
 
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I understand that some people don't like being alone and single,and I wanted to know if you would just settle or wait,for me I would wait.
If I were still in the market, I'd never settle; I'd wait. But I'd make sure I evaluated each person not based on her current attributes, but based on the ones she'll possess in 20 years. What does she want, what's she aiming for in life, what are her priorities, who does she eventually want to be -- that sort of thing. To steal a software-engineering term, every human being is in development mode. That means what you have by your side in a couple decades won't be even close to what you have now. On each individual's level, that's a train no one can stop. Caution is advised.
 
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ThisIsMe123

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I understand that some people don't like being alone and single,and I wanted to know if you would just settle or wait,for me I would wait.

There's a fine line between "settling" and being realistic.

For instance, a woman who won't date a man because he's not 6 feet tall, and she's only 5'1"...would likely need to "settle" (if you can call it that) for someone shorter, as height isn't really that important of a factor in a long term relationship.
 
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