Set in your ways...

[Kristen.NewCreation]

Any other single's out here who have been single a very long time and set in your ways? Wondering if there will ever be someone for you and if there is, could you put up with them and them with you because you've been alone for so long?

Curious about your thoughts. Every now and then I think about dating, and then talk myself out of it. I really don't mind being single, but I'd like to be in love. LOL Who knows!

 

[dluvs2trvl]

I know exactly what you mean! I often wonder if I'd be able to adjust to having someone in my "space" 24/7 and then what if he wants to decorate the house differently then what do I do - gasp!!! I might actually have to have some lazy-boy recliner in my livingroom - double gasp!

But then I realize that I desire to be married very much so I'm willing to make the changes necessary if it were to happen...does that mean that the adjustment will be a breeze - probably not - but I think that the blessing of having a loving man in my life will be worth it...

Now if I could only find that man! LOL!

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

I know exactly what you mean! I often wonder if I'd be able to adjust to having someone in my "space" 24/7 and then what if he wants to decorate the house differently then I do - gasp!!! I might actually have to have some lazy-boy recliner in my livingroom - double gasp! B

But then I realize that I desire to be married very much so I'm willing to make the changes necessary if it were to happen...does that mean that the adjustment will be a breeze - probably not - but I think that the blessing of having a loving man in my life will be worth it...

Now if I could only find that man! LOL!

LOL I don't care so much about the re-decorating, except when it comes to my computer. Don't EVEN touch my puter!

I told God that He'll have to knock me in the head when I meet the right person, because I don't want to pick the wrong one.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

LOL I don't care so much about the re-decorating, except when it comes to my computer. Don't EVEN touch my puter!

I was being silly with the redecorating thing - well sort of silly but I do think about what it will be like incorporating someone else into my home or incorporating myself into their home...but it's also exciting too...to think about creating a life and home for my husband and I!!! Someday...

I told God that He'll have to knock me in the head when I meet the right person, because I don't want to pick the wrong one.

I understand that feeling but don't let the fear of possibly making a wrong choice keep you from getting out there and trying to meet people...if you keep everything before the Lord in prayer then I believe He will show you if the person you are with is a wrong choice...but I don't think that God is just going to have the right guy knock on your front door - not that He couldn't make that happen - but I just think that we do need to do our part and make ourselves available...

 

[GritsnGrace]

I can relate to both of you. I have been divorced since 1990. My divorce was extremely painful for me, and it took me years to come to terms with it. During that time, I have become very set in my ways. I don't have to share a bathroom, or my queen size bed, with anyone. If I don't feel like cooking, I don't. But, by the same token, when I was married, I enjoyed doing things for my spouse. Making meals for him was a pleasure. I strived to be a Godly wife. Maybe one day, God will bless me again. I'm not saying it will be an easy thing to get used to, but nothing with God is impossible!

 

[soccerdad66]

Not a problem for me

 

[GritsnGrace]

I might actually have to have some lazy-boy recliner in my livingroom - double gasp!

d, I happen to already have one of those, but it's MINE!! lol!

 

[catofhope]

Been single all my life.
And since college have had no roommates.
Even owned my own house although now back in apartment.

I guess I sometimes wondered about being set in my ways.

But I think everything will be fine sharing my life with Randy.

He too has always been single.

It'll be an adventure worthwhile with someone you love.

 

[PassionateOne]

I understand that feeling but don't let the fear of possibly making a wrong choice keep you from getting out there and trying to meet people...if you keep everything before the Lord in prayer then I believe He will show you if the person you are with is a wrong choice...but I don't think that God is just going to have the right guy knock on your front door - not that He couldn't make that happen - but I just think that we do need to do our part and make ourselves available...

I think alot of people that get to be our age & single, have been 'burned' badly by past experiences & it makes them be 'fearful' about new possibilities.

 

[GritsnGrace]

I think alot of people that get to be our age & single, have been 'burned' badly by past experiences & it makes them be 'fearful' about new possibilities.

Now see, that is where I am at. I had two bad marriages, and the second was worse than the first. I just came to the conclusion that it was much safer to stay alone. Don't risk getting hurt again.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

This is a depressing thought for me today. I have been single for 2 years and 9 months due to my husband of almost 25 years dying of cancer. I have 2 boys that are 13 and almost 10. I really AM happy right now being single, and don't really want to date until they are grown (unless prince charming really does knock on my door LOL!) but that would make me in my mid 50's. Do I seriously think I would be able to find someone at that age? Or would I even want someone at that age? Don't know the answers to those questions....and thinking about it is ....well.....depressing.

 

[soccerdad66]

This is a depressing thought for me today. I have been single for 2 years and 9 months due to my husband of almost 25 years dying of cancer. I have 2 boys that are 13 and almost 10. I really AM happy right now being single, and don't really want to date until they are grown (unless prince charming really does knock on my door LOL!) but that would make me in my mid 50's. Do I seriously think I would be able to find someone at that age? Or would I even want someone at that age? Don't know the answers to those questions....and thinking about it is ....well.....depressing.

Kind of a long time to be alone. I'm not helping but you had 25 years with a good man...

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Kind of a long time to be alone. I'm not helping but you had 25 years with a good man...

Thanks! It would be hard to find a replacement I'm sure.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

This is a depressing thought for me today. I have been single for 2 years and 9 months due to my husband of almost 25 years dying of cancer. I have 2 boys that are 13 and almost 10. I really AM happy right now being single, and don't really want to date until they are grown (unless prince charming really does knock on my door LOL!) but that would make me in my mid 50's. Do I seriously think I would be able to find someone at that age? Or would I even want someone at that age? Don't know the answers to those questions....and thinking about it is ....well.....depressing.

One of the ladies who used to be in my Sunday School class got married in her late 80's or early 90's... I don't remember exactly how old she was but she could run circles around us younger folk! She and her new husband were both widowed.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

One of the ladies who used to be in my Sunday School class got married in her late 80's or early 90's... I don't remember exactly how old she was but she could run circles around us younger folk! She and her new husband were both widowed.

That's encouraging....I think . If I have to wait until I'm 80.....well I just don't think I'll live that long . But I will keep an open mind and heart. It's whatever the Lord wants for me, that's what I want. Some days I need someone to hold me and love me, and other days I'm fine with how things are. That's my journey.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

That's encouraging....I think . If I have to wait until I'm 80.....well I just don't think I'll live that long . But I will keep an open mind and heart. It's whatever the Lord wants for me, that's what I want. Some days I need someone to hold me and love me, and other days I'm fine with how things are. That's my journey.

I hear you. I think I most desire to be held... to have someone to cuddle up with. I know my friends love me, but it doesn't fill that need for physical affection.

Someone told me once that we need like 5 hugs a day to thrive. I don't know if I need that many every day, but definitely I need lots of hugs.

 

[country woman]

yes at my age Iam set in a rut

 

[jesusfreak_2008]

I actually want a boyfriend! A godly boyfriend of course! i do not plan on being single for the rest of my life! i mean, don t get me wrong, being single is ok sometimes. but i would prefer to have a man wrap his arms around me and tell me that he loves me and cares for me. hopefully God will send me that man one day!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I actually want a boyfriend! A godly boyfriend of course! i do not plan on being single for the rest of my life! i mean, don t get me wrong, being single is ok sometimes. but i would prefer to have a man wrap his arms around me and tell me that he loves me and cares for me. hopefully God will send me that man one day!

It's easier at 21 than at my age. You have plenty of time left and you are still in your youth to find your special someone. You haven't had too much time to be "set in your ways" so to speak. God Bless

 

[RussArtLover]

Grin. I don't think I'll ever be set in my ways. I've decked out a few bachelor pads. My current residence is decorated in office/museum style which I would happily drop like a rock for the right lady. I might even learn a new language for her.