Yip. Slowly over the last couple of days the devil has managed to steal my wife's joy and the little victories we have experienced over the last 2 months. Once again she is hopeless and wants to give up. She is withdrawing again and I find myself completely distraught.
I received so much from God over the weekend and again last night. Things that I believe are meant for me to take heart, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm not just seeing what I want ot see. Read James 4:1-10. So much in there for both my wife and I:
- You don't get because you don't ask.
- You ask, but with the wrong motives.
- Draw close to God and He will draw close to you.
- Resist the devil and he will flee.
- God honors the humble.
And so it goes. Why can I see these things and my wife not. Although she does, she just doesn't have the same conviction. I made a"promise" last night that I will not interfere with God's work in my wife's life. (It is really difficult.) She loves me. But for the sex thing she feels our marriage is perfect. I have asked her to concentrate on other things as I believe the devil is holding this in front of her face the whole time and she just sees failure. Please pray for her eyes to be opened.
I made three "agreements" with God last night. I said that if my wife wants me to share with her the part in James God gave me last night I would. If she said no, I would leave it. She listened and I know it touched her.
I said that I would seek counselling for us. If God opens a door I will take it. If not I'll leave it. She seems keen.
I also said that I have shared with my wife that there is an abundance of resources out there to fix a broken marriage. I named a few, but I will not interfere. If she starts using them, great. If not, I will let it go.
As hopeless as she is at the moment I know she will be back. She loves me to much to give up, but I think it is time to apply Tough Love. It just hurts to much otherwise, but that is so difficult to do.
Let me know what you guys think.
I received so much from God over the weekend and again last night. Things that I believe are meant for me to take heart, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm not just seeing what I want ot see. Read James 4:1-10. So much in there for both my wife and I:
- You don't get because you don't ask.
- You ask, but with the wrong motives.
- Draw close to God and He will draw close to you.
- Resist the devil and he will flee.
- God honors the humble.
And so it goes. Why can I see these things and my wife not. Although she does, she just doesn't have the same conviction. I made a"promise" last night that I will not interfere with God's work in my wife's life. (It is really difficult.) She loves me. But for the sex thing she feels our marriage is perfect. I have asked her to concentrate on other things as I believe the devil is holding this in front of her face the whole time and she just sees failure. Please pray for her eyes to be opened.
I made three "agreements" with God last night. I said that if my wife wants me to share with her the part in James God gave me last night I would. If she said no, I would leave it. She listened and I know it touched her.
I said that I would seek counselling for us. If God opens a door I will take it. If not I'll leave it. She seems keen.
I also said that I have shared with my wife that there is an abundance of resources out there to fix a broken marriage. I named a few, but I will not interfere. If she starts using them, great. If not, I will let it go.
As hopeless as she is at the moment I know she will be back. She loves me to much to give up, but I think it is time to apply Tough Love. It just hurts to much otherwise, but that is so difficult to do.
Let me know what you guys think.
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