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[Jesusisgood]

Hi, like in my title please dont come here if your not a sensitive person. I'm going through a really difficult situation and Im so depressed over it. Its a long story about a guy I like and a Christian club that makes me feel like I am not as good as the girl the guy I liked is now dating who was my friend whom I told I liked the guy to. Im so lost in my faith and angry at everyone involved. Mostly some of the people in the club are kinda socially off so they dont know how to handle emotional stuff as they say. Im really frustrated and hurt but bascially getting to the point in this, I want to find acceptance and love in God. Im struggling alot in my faith and trying to find a place or a hobby I can excell in and be proud of. Its hard dealing with the feeling of jealousy and that Im not good enough for this guy or any guy. I thought that if i would be pretty guys would like me more but now I only get the worldly desprate nerdy guys and the decent Christian guys only seem to like tomboys or girls who dont wear makeup. its totally backwards! I used to be so strong in the Lord, but now I just want to die.

 

[twnsrkr]

The key to finding the best partner possible is to be yourself. Cultivate good and righteous qualities within yourself, and good men will automatically be drawn to you. All things come to he who waits. Hang in there.

 

[Woven]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I think it's natural to feel jealous and hurt when your friend ends up with the guy you like. Don't beat yourself up about having "negative" emotions, it's a natural response. You just need to trust that God knows exactly who the best person is for you. Don't let your self-esteem and value be tied to who shows an interest in you. You're valuable and beautiful and worth it because you're a daughter of the King.

I'll be praying for you, that God helps you to work through the anger and let go of any resentment, and that you find your identity and purpose in Him.

 

[m.a.r.X]

Just hang in there !

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[icoo]

That's a tough situation, maybe you should consider changing social circles to get away from them, cos it might be hard to make these emotions go away if you are seeing them all the time.

Also, they might get an egotistical kick out of seeing you there, knowing you liked him and now she ended up with him.

As much as it seems impossible now, there are plenty of fish in the sea and you will find someone you like even more than the other guy.

Just a note though, try to respect even the guys you are not interested in, calling them "desperate and nerdy" could hurt their feelings and as a guy, I like to be with a girl I know treats other people with respect. Jesus wouldn't want to insult anyone, and guys will notice if you say hurtful things about other people.

Its hard dealing with the feeling of jealousy and that Im not good enough for this guy or any guy

That is hard, but it's just a feeling and it's not the truth.. truth is, God has made you special and there is someone out there right now who you would like alot, and who would like you.. you just gotta meet them.. But like with everything in life, the best thing you can do is put it into God's hands.. pray about it.. He is faithful and He ALWAYS comes through...

Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalms 37:4

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

I agree that it might be time to find a new social circle.

Also, as far as hobbies, try to think of what you enjoy doing, are naturally inclined at, or simply have always wanted to do or learn and look for groups in your area.

I know what if feels like to be hurt by female friends, guys, and even a best female friend over a guy i liked that i confided in and she swore she didnt like him then went off behind my back with him. Many years later, we are both happily married now to guys way better than that guy ever was. He was trouble in so many ways. We are no longer best friends after everything that happened, it was a huge horrible mess. But we can be civil and and keep up with eachother a tiny bit.

Anyways I know what that hurt feels like, so I'm very sorry that you are experiencing that right now. All I can say is that one day it will help you to regonize the right kind of people and be that much more appreciative when you find them.

Most importantly, look to God. I grew so much after the first time I was broken up with, in fact its when I first came to cf. It took years to get over the hurt and to heal but I grew so much in my walk with God. So seek out God and try to find your identity in him, not in other people or things of this world. If you aren't in a bible study group, I would encourage you to find one.

 

[ann216]

pray for a christian guy a real christian one that does bible studies who doesnt cheat and one that doesnt control your life i was married to one