yeah, I sturggle a lot with self-injury. I haven't cut in over a week, but I have a HUGE problem with pulling hairs. It is horrible. I do it because it is a scarless form of s/i. I have tried asking for God's strength and searching to others for help, but I can't stop. I want to get rid of this before cutting get backs in my life (I am still struggleing to keep that away.) I just don't know what to do. I can't continue to live like this. This is horrible. If I don't cut or pull hairs, I feel like killing myself. So, in all reality, it is one horrible circle. I need you guy's help on what I should do. I can't go on like this.
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Pink Angel
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Wow
I am really sorry to hear you are going through that
I am not sure what to say to that.....i know my sister for a long time had that same problem. She even tried to commit suicide tons of times, but i promise you thats not the answer. What i think is happening is Satan is wanting you to do this and loves every moment when you do(STUPID SATAN )
If you ask me i would suggest that you go to your minister and tell him whats going on, that way you have someone to walk you through it. EVerytime you feel tempted call him that way you have a physical person to tell you no, and you know that he is there just as much as God is. YOu can overcome this....i promise, DONT GIVE UP!
If you give up your letting Satan win. Dont let him win. Stay strong and get some help, you can not handle this on your own...pray.....talk to a minister...join a club....anything...but please dont let it take your life
I love you in Christ,
Pink Angel
I am really sorry to hear you are going through that
I am not sure what to say to that.....i know my sister for a long time had that same problem. She even tried to commit suicide tons of times, but i promise you thats not the answer. What i think is happening is Satan is wanting you to do this and loves every moment when you do(STUPID SATAN
)If you ask me i would suggest that you go to your minister and tell him whats going on, that way you have someone to walk you through it. EVerytime you feel tempted call him that way you have a physical person to tell you no, and you know that he is there just as much as God is. YOu can overcome this....i promise, DONT GIVE UP!
If you give up your letting Satan win. Dont let him win. Stay strong and get some help, you can not handle this on your own...pray.....talk to a minister...join a club....anything...but please dont let it take your life
I love you in Christ,
Pink Angel
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I pull my hair still now at 40, or chew on it... really did a lot when I was a teenager. When I am edgy tend to scratch at any wounds I happen to have, and those are frequent because of my autistic son who scratches me. And he will bite me or himself, beats his head on the walls or floor - big knot on his head all the time... so likely I just have some symptoms that are related to autism without being disabled.
But cutting?!??! ... I really think that is the point where you need to see a professional unless you can get rid of this soon. (Try lifting weights, aerobics, running, doing something active and avoid too much time online or in front of the tv.) You probably need something like paxil. There are medicines that will help take that sort of nervous edge off, and also I wonder if there isn't something more going on. Pray too, but get some help.
Do your parents know you cut yourself? If not, tell them. They will want to help you. If you don't trust them, why not? Then talk to a counselor at school. Somebody you trust. But cutting is not within the realm of normal nervous behavior, hair pulling and chewing is fairly common among adolescent girls. My son would pull his hair out too, and there was a medicine he took that lessened that problem (can't recall, maybe tegretal? .. he has been thru a lot of different medicines).
Marcia
But cutting?!??! ... I really think that is the point where you need to see a professional unless you can get rid of this soon. (Try lifting weights, aerobics, running, doing something active and avoid too much time online or in front of the tv.) You probably need something like paxil. There are medicines that will help take that sort of nervous edge off, and also I wonder if there isn't something more going on. Pray too, but get some help.
Do your parents know you cut yourself? If not, tell them. They will want to help you. If you don't trust them, why not? Then talk to a counselor at school. Somebody you trust. But cutting is not within the realm of normal nervous behavior, hair pulling and chewing is fairly common among adolescent girls. My son would pull his hair out too, and there was a medicine he took that lessened that problem (can't recall, maybe tegretal? .. he has been thru a lot of different medicines).
Marcia
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Ah, I don't tell anyone about this kind of stuff. I told my best friend once, but that's about it. As far as ever even thinking about telling my parents, I won't do it. Once when I was forced to tell them i was suicidal, they freaked out, yelled at me, made me feel even worse than I was, and never got me help. So, telling parents will never be in my head again.
Pink Angel, I am not close to my church. I overall enjoy the church and I attend there regularly, but I am not close to anyone there. I don't really talk to anyone enough there to where I could tell them what is going on.
marciadietrich, I am rather confused when you said, "and also I wonder if there isn't something more going on." What exactly did you mean by that? Sure, I didn't mention everything, but what exactly do you wonder as far as what is going on?
I can't bring myself to talk to anyone, I have been pushing away some of my close friends. I don't know why, it is a feeling I have. I just sit in my room and cry and try my best not to cut, because I know God would rather have me cry, scream, and let out all my fustrations than cut myself. So I am trying, but, no promises on wether or not I can restrain from it.
~Amanda
Pink Angel, I am not close to my church. I overall enjoy the church and I attend there regularly, but I am not close to anyone there. I don't really talk to anyone enough there to where I could tell them what is going on.
marciadietrich, I am rather confused when you said, "and also I wonder if there isn't something more going on." What exactly did you mean by that? Sure, I didn't mention everything, but what exactly do you wonder as far as what is going on?
I can't bring myself to talk to anyone, I have been pushing away some of my close friends. I don't know why, it is a feeling I have. I just sit in my room and cry and try my best not to cut, because I know God would rather have me cry, scream, and let out all my fustrations than cut myself. So I am trying, but, no promises on wether or not I can restrain from it.
~Amanda
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Pink Angel
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[quotep] know God would rather have me cry, scream, and let out all my fustrations than cut myself[/quote]
AMEN
i would rather you do that too
Well if you were to go to a priest and talk he wouldnt tell anyone or judge you, and maybe thats what God is trying to tell you is to get out of your comfort zone to witness or do anything, in order to be a servant of God you must get out of your comfort zone. Now i am not saying thats what he wants you to do but it is a possiblility
And if that IS what he is trying to show you the first step is stepping out of that comfort zone, whether it be talking to your priest or some people at your church. Cuz if you have two or more people praying the stronger that prayer can be.
"For where two or three are gathered togethor in my name, There am I in the midst of them." Matthew 18:20
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AMEN
i would rather you do that tooWell if you were to go to a priest and talk he wouldnt tell anyone or judge you, and maybe thats what God is trying to tell you is to get out of your comfort zone to witness or do anything, in order to be a servant of God you must get out of your comfort zone. Now i am not saying thats what he wants you to do but it is a possiblility
And if that IS what he is trying to show you the first step is stepping out of that comfort zone, whether it be talking to your priest or some people at your church. Cuz if you have two or more people praying the stronger that prayer can be.
"For where two or three are gathered togethor in my name, There am I in the midst of them." Matthew 18:20
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LynneClomina
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hi skeetercts!
i s/i by pulling out my hair too. it's really bad at the moment, i have a lot of bald spots.... i hear ya. i dont know why it's bad right now. it really frusterates me when someone says, well, just stop! sit on your hand! grrr. dont work that way, does it? pm me if you ever want to talk, k?
be blessed hun,
Lynne
i s/i by pulling out my hair too. it's really bad at the moment, i have a lot of bald spots.... i hear ya. i dont know why it's bad right now. it really frusterates me when someone says, well, just stop! sit on your hand! grrr. dont work that way, does it? pm me if you ever want to talk, k?
be blessed hun,
Lynne
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Pink Angel
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I am sorry i hope i didnt aggrivate you, but i am trying to help and i am left speechless on what words to say on this topic, but it seems lynn, that you have you the words to say and you know what your talking about. I hope you can help skeeter more than i can. I am praying for you all!
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by all means, I am not aggrivated. I am fusterated with myself, however. It had been at least 2 weeks since I have cut...and last night, I cutted again. back in the cycle once again. See, I haven't pulled many hairs lately because I am focusing on cutting...but when I try to kick that, hair pulling jumps in. *sigh* am trying to quit...
But thanks for the prayer and the caring attitudes you guys have shown, thanks
~Amanda
But thanks for the prayer and the caring attitudes you guys have shown, thanks
~Amanda
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Pink Angel
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I have an idea!
instead of cutting yourself, what if you get like a stuffed animal or a block of wood or anything, and cut that instead of your self? Have you tried that yet, maybe that might help.....
Love in Christ,
Pink Angel 
instead of cutting yourself, what if you get like a stuffed animal or a block of wood or anything, and cut that instead of your self? Have you tried that yet, maybe that might help.....
Love in Christ,
Pink Angel
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err...I don't know...it doesn't give the same effect. cutting helps me relax...doing it to another object doesn't seem the same...I can try it, though...once I find something I can actually destroy in this manner...I will have to try this...
~Amanda
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WithHisBloodWentOurSin
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I just have to say i understand, i dont cut but i do self harm, I use brute force and give myself limps and stuff. I cant seem to stop either, i stop for short periods of time
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I don't want to seem that I am being hard on you skeetercts, I am probably just being a mom and overly worried. It is just that I have never heard of cutting within the realm of normal nervous behavior, it is on a different plain than hair pulling. It is usually connected to some sort of deeper problem. Sometimes a problem that is repressed.
http://health.discovery.com/premiers/cutters/articles/sib/sib.html
My autistic son hurts himself, but he also has serious learning and behavior problems - plus self abusive behavior often comes with autism and is a trait looked for in diagnosis, they have obsessive compulsive aspects to their behavior.
Maybe I am just in mom-mode ... it is painful seeing your child hurt themself and perhaps I'm just projecting my concern over my son on you.
Take care of yourself. There are people who love and care about you. Not to mention Christ who died for you.
Marcia
http://health.discovery.com/premiers/cutters/articles/sib/sib.html
My autistic son hurts himself, but he also has serious learning and behavior problems - plus self abusive behavior often comes with autism and is a trait looked for in diagnosis, they have obsessive compulsive aspects to their behavior.
Maybe I am just in mom-mode ... it is painful seeing your child hurt themself and perhaps I'm just projecting my concern over my son on you.
Take care of yourself. There are people who love and care about you. Not to mention Christ who died for you.
Marcia
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Hey, skeeter.... I've never cut myself, but when I was real young, I used to flog myself, and I've attempted suicide more times than I can even remember. It runs in my family...
You know what I think it is, though? It's a way of being in control of the pain. On some level, you're saying, "Yeah, you might hurt me, but you'll never make me bleed -- only I can do that!" Once you've cut yourself, you feel calmer, more self-assured, because you're the only one who can say when it starts, when it stops, and how deep it goes.
That's not a strong position, though. We need to think like warriors, every one of us. We need to assess the situation and figure out the best counter-attack, wherever we are. We cannot give in to the enemy's demands, even if it seems to provide some temporary relief, because you know yourself that you will only feel worse the next day -- you will have your same problems to face, compounded with the guilt and confusion that go along with self-injury.
We are conquerors in Christ. YOU are a conqueror in Christ! Live like a conqueror, not a victim -- He has already paid the full price for us on the cross! How do you think He feels when He watches you cutting yourself? "Wasn't My sacrifice enough for you??"
~~Cheryl
You know what I think it is, though? It's a way of being in control of the pain. On some level, you're saying, "Yeah, you might hurt me, but you'll never make me bleed -- only I can do that!" Once you've cut yourself, you feel calmer, more self-assured, because you're the only one who can say when it starts, when it stops, and how deep it goes.
That's not a strong position, though. We need to think like warriors, every one of us. We need to assess the situation and figure out the best counter-attack, wherever we are. We cannot give in to the enemy's demands, even if it seems to provide some temporary relief, because you know yourself that you will only feel worse the next day -- you will have your same problems to face, compounded with the guilt and confusion that go along with self-injury.
We are conquerors in Christ. YOU are a conqueror in Christ! Live like a conqueror, not a victim -- He has already paid the full price for us on the cross! How do you think He feels when He watches you cutting yourself? "Wasn't My sacrifice enough for you??"
~~Cheryl
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My parents don't react well to things, and they get upset easily. Upset as in mad. Otherwise, I would tell them. I just don't have the kind of parents I can run to whe I need them. I don't have anyone like that in my life...
I pray for myself and everyone who causes me pain everyday. Hopefully, since I have been praying about it for many days, God will send me someone to talk to. Someone I can pour my heart out to and they will love me. Someone who can make my life meaningful. Hopefully oneday He sends them...
I pray for myself and everyone who causes me pain everyday. Hopefully, since I have been praying about it for many days, God will send me someone to talk to. Someone I can pour my heart out to and they will love me. Someone who can make my life meaningful. Hopefully oneday He sends them...
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I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. For over two years, I've suffered from mild self-injury, and I've never really had anyone to talk to about it. My parents have a completely different view of me from this darker side I have, and I'm a PK so I can't go to anyone at church. But it's really important to remember that God is with you through everything. I know with me at least, my mind kind of blocks out any help from God when I'm focused on hurting myself and it doesn't even feel like he's helping. It makes a big difference if you look outside of this tunnel vision and really ask for help. Just stop yourself before you do any damage and say, "Ok, God, you got anything to say before I do something crazy?" He'll help so long as you listen to Him. But I get that sometimes your mood is so severe that the only cure in sight is pain. And, even though you're trying to listen, you can't hear God over your own thoughts. I'll pray that you find someone to talk to who can speak helpful words aloud when you can't hear God and that you find some peace.
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Just figured I would you guys know....it is day three without cutting....Last night I was going to...but I stopped myself...so today is day three
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hey skeetercts,
Listen I am a well.... I still feel like cutting sometimes. It's called cutting or being a cutter it is a problem and there is help out there for it if you could pm me i would be willing to give you some more advice and that way maybe I can think it over with the person that got me help.
All it took was one call for me well just PM me and Ill chat some more...I am praying for you.
Love Nikki
You can always find a friend in me.
Listen I am a well.... I still feel like cutting sometimes. It's called cutting or being a cutter it is a problem and there is help out there for it if you could pm me i would be willing to give you some more advice and that way maybe I can think it over with the person that got me help.
All it took was one call for me well just PM me and Ill chat some more...I am praying for you.
Love Nikki
You can always find a friend in me.
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