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Self-esteem bring down

Aquadoodle

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Lately this girl, has been cyber bullying me... I'm 18 and this is really degrading... She calls me repeatedly a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] (for which I am not) and calls me a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]... (sorry for the vulgar language) and other things. I've told her to stop, but she just keeps on going.. And now I just cease to reply. She even told me once or twice to kill myself, which I don't plan on, nor do I have any desire to do so, but it is just very degrading to me as a person... I do have a past of SI (self injury), but I'm a month and a half clean, and I'm never gonna go back there.. I've told my mom, but she doesn't know what to do, because when she was growing up, she never really went through this kind of stuff... I feel so alone and ugly.
 

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Lately this girl, has been cyber bullying me... I'm 18 and this is really degrading... She calls me repeatedly a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] (for which I am not) and calls me a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]... (sorry for the vulgar language) and other things. I've told her to stop, but she just keeps on going.. And now I just cease to reply. She even told me once or twice to kill myself, which I don't plan on, nor do I have any desire to do so, but it is just very degrading to me as a person... I do have a past of SI (self injury), but I'm a month and a half clean, and I'm never gonna go back there.. I've told my mom, but she doesn't know what to do, because when she was growing up, she never really went through this kind of stuff... I feel so alone and ugly.

Hello, are you okay?
 
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Carmenere

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Yeah, just in need of advice. :-/

The first thing is you are not alone and not ugly.

http://www.christianforums.com/users/369692/ He is cool! I would recommend him.

http://www.christianforums.com/users/368612/ She is kind! When I first meet her, she donated a blessing and that is how we become friends on Christian Forum.

My advice is block and report her. And great job on not replying to the person. Is she still bothering you?

I hope the people I recommend will help you. I don't know them personally, but I'm going with faith that they are great people. And I hope I can be of help online. :)

And I remember you because of your other post on 'General Struggles'. And I came on 'Self-Esteem' because I had a mean woman send me PM on Christian forums, and I was still bothered by it and wanted advice. LOL I'm telling the truth, I didn't do anything to that person. The funny thing is that they are still on my friend's list. I won't say who.
 
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Hi! How have you been? I saw your thread and decided to message you on here, because we have so much in common and I understand what you're going through.
First off, you are not alone and certainly not ugly. You are made beautiful and perfect according to God's will. He sees you as amazing and strikingly gorgeous and anyone who doesn't agree with that is just not worth your time!

Second, you need to understand that the girl's opinion on you just doesn't matter. Please realize that ANY person doing something like this is very lonely and insecure (even if they don't realize/admit to it). Who is that girl? If she's someone from your school, you might want to report this to your principal or guidance counselor. Also, you can easily 'block' her on Facebook - this way she won't be able to either see your account or contact you at all. This is what I'd do.

The best thing you can do to protect yourself in the future is to boost your self esteem. I know it's mighty hard, since I myself used to struggle with SI and self esteem, but you can do this! Just look at yourself and see the beauty in you.. Imagine yourself as a confident, bold individual, and then put that 'vision' on like an article of clothing. You are priceless and beautiful! Always remember that!

Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk.
 
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