Hello,
I would say this is my first post here. It is. I live in an apartment with 4 people, including me. One of my roommates just ****ed me off. I spent the last few days cleaning after finals because the place had become messy. I cleaned up the kitchen, vacuumed, mopped. Everything was perfect. Then, when I wake up today I see a small pile of what looks like poop on the kitchen floor. I didn't know what it was so I checked my shoes and they were ok and then I checked around and I saw lettuce/meat on the counter and opened the microwave and found lettuce/meat/cheese. I looked at the floor again and assumed it was meat and smelled it and picked it up off the floor. Then I'm like ok, my roommate saw me cleaning the other day and now he ruins the perfection I was trying to create in this house and deliberately left his **** on the counter (from Taco bell) so I would know it was him. I was the only one left along with him as the two other roomies left and I don't eat taco bell. So I'm like what the hell, Jesus died for my sins and it's not my responsibility to suffer for the sins of others because he already suffered for them.
This happens a lot around here. People will break glass all the time in the hallways when they have been drinking just to make the place less perfect and demonstrate to the residents that the black man has been persecuted and if you don't accept the broken glass/ food on the floor, you don't accept them and you're racist. If you try to share the bible with them you'd be shot. So I'm like what the heck do I do, they have the choice to improve their own life and if I don't accept them for who they are they get mad and start cussing, playing rap, reinforcing their social identity.
What can I do as a christian to help them?
It's almost a dichotomy living with these people. They won't do something unless they know what their getting into. They pride themselves on their personal appearance and hygenics. They try to maintain their personal order to such a high degree others suffer for their unattention to communal responsibilities.
I come form a understanding yet defensive lutheran/catholic background and get defensive when someone does something like this just because they want to make a point/ reinforce their suffering upon others. I feel like leaving (flight) but want to fight.
Peace,
Doug
I would say this is my first post here. It is. I live in an apartment with 4 people, including me. One of my roommates just ****ed me off. I spent the last few days cleaning after finals because the place had become messy. I cleaned up the kitchen, vacuumed, mopped. Everything was perfect. Then, when I wake up today I see a small pile of what looks like poop on the kitchen floor. I didn't know what it was so I checked my shoes and they were ok and then I checked around and I saw lettuce/meat on the counter and opened the microwave and found lettuce/meat/cheese. I looked at the floor again and assumed it was meat and smelled it and picked it up off the floor. Then I'm like ok, my roommate saw me cleaning the other day and now he ruins the perfection I was trying to create in this house and deliberately left his **** on the counter (from Taco bell) so I would know it was him. I was the only one left along with him as the two other roomies left and I don't eat taco bell. So I'm like what the hell, Jesus died for my sins and it's not my responsibility to suffer for the sins of others because he already suffered for them.
This happens a lot around here. People will break glass all the time in the hallways when they have been drinking just to make the place less perfect and demonstrate to the residents that the black man has been persecuted and if you don't accept the broken glass/ food on the floor, you don't accept them and you're racist. If you try to share the bible with them you'd be shot. So I'm like what the heck do I do, they have the choice to improve their own life and if I don't accept them for who they are they get mad and start cussing, playing rap, reinforcing their social identity.
What can I do as a christian to help them?
It's almost a dichotomy living with these people. They won't do something unless they know what their getting into. They pride themselves on their personal appearance and hygenics. They try to maintain their personal order to such a high degree others suffer for their unattention to communal responsibilities.
I come form a understanding yet defensive lutheran/catholic background and get defensive when someone does something like this just because they want to make a point/ reinforce their suffering upon others. I feel like leaving (flight) but want to fight.
Peace,
Doug
