Scars don't hurt!

[SUNSTONE]

I don't understand this analogy where present problems come from past scars.
I have several scars and they don't hurt at all.

I think it is the same with peoples lives.
People can hurt you in the past, but what does that have to do with the present?

I think most problems are based on your present way more than your past.

 

[Oyunlari]

Well it depends on how the wound was treated Sunstone.
Some people don't tend to the wound they receive, eg give their pain to God, and just kick some dirt over it and pretend it's not there, then it festers, and becomes infected, turning into a bigger problem later.

So it depends on whether the scar is healed

 

[SUNSTONE]

If it's not healed then it's not a scar.

People get hurt in the past, then you fast forward and they have problems still from that past problem.
It haunts them, I know what's that like, I live it every day.

But you need to take a look at their present situation.
What sins do they currently have?
What is their lifestyle? Are they taking care of themselves? Do they have goals, or are they just busy bodies with no goals?
A major one is who do they hang out with?

There are so few wise humans in America, and that is probably the biggest problem right there.
If you don't have wise people in your life, then you have fools.
I am a fool, and every single person I have met is a fool.
We do dumb things and this rubs off on each other.

Just the lack of a wise person in our lives is going to cause all kinds of problems.
And those problems often times bring up bad feelings in the past "oh if I wasn't hurt so much, I wouldn't have this pain like I do, and maybe I wouldn't be such a loser."
And then someone comes along that is wiser than most, and they rub off on us in a positive way.

It's about the here and now, it's about God and the family of God.

 

[Oyunlari]

The thing you need to understand about others I think is that THEY think it's a scar, but it's not really.

And about wise people, Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to us to help us with that, so potentially that wisdom is in each and every one of us, we just need to embrace it.

I've had lots of past problems, serious ones, but they hinder me no more, since even the scar of it was removed

 

[drich0150]

If you want to speak of scars from a medical perspective, Scars themselves may be dead to pain, but like scars in the physiological realm, they still may be a source of pain if the said scar tissue is built up in a sensitive area. Like say you have a build up of scar tissue in the knee. the scar tissue doesn't hurt by itself. it's when the tissue mass misaligns the joint that you get inflammation of the surrounding tissue that causes a great deal of pain. The same thing can happen emotionally. When a person experiences a traumatic event, yes they can heal but often times it will leave an emotional scar. If this scar is located in an act or a reoccurring portion of the persons life, The person can experience similar pain as the original event may have caused.

There is a great deal a person can do to minimize the pain but in the end it will still hurt to some degree. But the only other option is to stop functioning as an adult should, and box yourself up in your home and try to remain numb, to everything.. In my opinion it's better to feel something, even pain, than it is to Die before your natural death.

 

[Anti Existance]

They say: getting physically wounded might heal, but getting spiritually wounded stays with you forever.

This people are still wounded, what you describe on these people aren't scars but injuries that spiritually still bleed up till this day. Their aura's have been violated by negative events in their lives to which they don't know how to deal with. Until they find the solution on how to deal with their problem, they cannot heal, the reason for that is , that a problem remains to be a problem till the end of time, until it is solved. Problems simply do not go away by themselves. They don't auto-dissolve. If you can handle the problem, like in your case. Hey then its not a big deal, but imagine you had to solve a puzzle that you cannot solve. Your puzzling for days, the days become weeks, the weeks become months, and the months become years, until someone helps them out on how to solve it. There's situations where people just cannot get themselves out of, like addictions. They need Gods help, you don't understand it because you never have been in such a situation before. God forbid that you come into one, but if you do reach out to the help of God and others to get yourself out of the mess if such a time comes.

 

[SUNSTONE]

The problem isn't the past, it's the present.
You can do nothing for the past except learn from it.

Everyone in my life from the time I was born till this day is nothing but a negative influence.
Everyone.

Now they may not seem like it at times, and they may have never intended it to be that way, but it's true.

For most people it's as simple as doing nothing at all, wether good or bad.

 

[Johnnz]

Life will teach you otherwise. Inner pain is very real.

John
NZ

 

[Angeldove97]

Just a reminder--- please let this place be a place of comfort and healing. If you're lucky enough not to have your past haunt your present and make you terrified of your future, you are truly blessed. Christ has given some of us this cross to bear and bear it we must--- but we will shall have our reward in heaven

And also, remember that when you see one of your scars on your body (since they can sometimes stay with you for a lifetime and never truly disappear from being seen) it will often remind you of what happened. You'll relive those events.

When we have mental scars, we do the same thing: relive the events, which can often be very traumatic and almost seem like we're going through the event for real. We shouldn't use these mental scars as an excuse to not let ourselves heal--- but often they are a great hindrance to healing.

May you all be blessed

 

[SUNSTONE]

The reason why you keep reliving those events is because your life is out of balance.
I know, I keep reliving the events, I have the same problems.

But when life is balanced, even for a short time, I feel really good. I don't dwell on the past.

It is not God's will for anyone to dwell.
But a life that is out of balance can't seem to help but dwell.

 

[Angeldove97]

The reason why you keep reliving those events is because your life is out of balance.
I know, I keep reliving the events, I have the same problems.

But when life is balanced, even for a short time, I feel really good. I don't dwell on the past.

It is not God's will for anyone to dwell.
But a life that is out of balance can't seem to help but dwell.

How quick we are to think that we have the answers to heal a person when we don't have any clue what that person has gone through in their life.

My life is perfectly balanced Sunstone--- I'm in a healthy relationship with a wonderful guy, I have a loving family, I have a strong relationship with God, I have close friends who I love and cherish and who love and cherish me, I have a career I'll be starting shortly and I'll have my own place in about two months time. My life is balanced--- I know how to take care of myself.

But these scars that I have, that I still relive in my life, do not keep showing up because I have an unbalanced life. It's a reminder of what I've lived through and how not to make the same mistakes again. It's a painful lesson, but its the cross that I personally bear and I know that God has ways of using those scars to help others.

 

[SUNSTONE]

I have never seen a family in America that did more good than harm to each other.

This doesn't mean they don't care, or that they are doing it on purpose. But familys don't look out for each other the way they should.

And you only gave examples about you and your life. You didn't mention what you were doing to help fight the good fight of faith.
That right there means your life is out of balance.


I don't have to know anything about anyone to know a formula that fixes all problems.

 

[Angeldove97]

I have never seen a family in America that did more good than harm to each other.

What a shame, but I have seen amazing Christian families who truly support and love one another. I pray God will show you them as well.

And you only gave examples about you and your life. You didn't mention what you were doing to help fight the good fight of faith.

That right there means your life is out of balance.

No that's me being modest about what I do for Jesus to continue His work on this earth. I don't have to brag to you or anybody else--- I don't have to prove myself to you or anybody else. Jesus Christ sees what I do and that's all that matters.

 

[SUNSTONE]

If your life wasn't out of balance, then you wouldn't be haunted by the past.

If there were Christians that lived the right way, their lives would stand out.
They would be changing lives left and right.

 

[Johnnz]

It's sad that you have not met Christians who stand out. But then, God still works on behalf of very ordinary Christians too, and many have wonderful testimonies about Jesus in their lives.

John
NZ

 

[Angeldove97]

If your life wasn't out of balance, then you wouldn't be haunted by the past.

Regardless of what I say to you, you still won't believe that a Christian can have a very balanced life, but still have to deal with past hurts/scars. I'm simply stating that I don't see your point of view as correct because I do have balance but I do still deal with past hurts. It's as simple as that.

 

[DRL]

Angeldove, It is because as we grow in our relationship with Christ that we can have balance in our lives and that in turn helps us deal with our past. Just the way I see it from my experience and the experience of others in CR at my church. I wish each of you could hear the series of sermons our minister is giving. It is about this subject. He calls this in his sermons-Character Assassins. If it is okay, I can put the url for the website. I will wait until I hear from you before doing anything.
Diana

 

[Johnnz]

Balance has very little to do with past trauma. I know some very successful, vital people who carry wounds not because they have 'failed' to appropriate what Jesus offers, but rather that some things take time, and some experiences leave us with a limp, like Joseph.

John
NZ

 

[SUNSTONE]

There is so much evil in this world that it has warped people's minds on what success is, and on what a good balanced Christian life is.

A bad life seems like a good life in these times.

 

[cloudstrife007]

I would agree that "success" is a term which is very different for modern society than what it should truly mean for followers of Christ.
With regards to past scars, they might have been experiences that have hurt us deeply and it isn't as easy as wiping a blackboard. Wounds in our hearts/minds are healed through time and having the right attitude. The bible does teach us how to mentally deal with struggles that we face. We are temporary citizens of this world.. Despite all things that may happen to us in this life, we can still REJOICE because our goal is eternity with God