scared!

[Fexx-Saved]

I have 3 siblings who have died. 2 sisters and a brother. I can just about cope with there death, i miss them dearly, and there isnt a day that goes by that I dont miss them!

A few months ago my dad killed himself..this has had a big effect on my family and my mum who is a medium tried to talk to him...I think she has lost the plot! I need my father, I can not live without him, I remember all of the times that we have shared together and I wish that he could still be around! He wasnt a christian either, he was against me mum being a medium, and I worry incase there is a heaven, cos i dont think he'll be there. ive heard christians say that if someone commits suicide they do not go to heaven. this is all i need. my mum is not one, my dad is not, nor am I! I will never forget him, he was the type of person who u would never forget!

My mum has cancer, and I dont think that she will recover. I know that if she dont she will not go to heaven to be with God -- if there is one! and I need peace!
I need to know if jesus is there really, so i will be able to tell her, and then she will be okay, otherwise she will be eaten by worms or go to hell,

just thinking about it scares me!

love from Fexx. Thanks for reading this, i hope u will be able to help!

 

[The3rdhero]

thats rough, i know how you feel, i lost 1 brother, he died at birth, my other brother has cancer, but has recovered, the secret is you need to be strong for your mum, let her believe that she is going to be ok, let he believe she will recover, her body will do the rest. You will definatly be in my prayers tonight.
i heard if you commit suicide you stay in purgetory, which isnt bad, it's just basically a waiting room. you stay in there until God decides to let you in the gates, i wouldnt worry too much about that, i'm sure God will let him in. You need to focus on the good things in life at the moment, i know from your point of view it may be difficult, but believe me, in time, the smoke will clear!
as i said about your mum, always make her happy, treat her like a goddess, if she truely believes that she will be ok, there's a good chance she will.
i know two people with cancer
the 1st guy, after finding out he had cancer, he was told if he had chemotheropy he would live, after 6 months he said, what the heck, this is a waste if time, he gave up, he lost hope, and he passed away.
the 2nd guy, he was told he would be dead within 3 months, there's nothing that could be done, he refused to believe this, he refused to give in. he's still alive 10 years later

two years ago my brother who has cancer was told in september that he would be lucky to see christmas.
that was two years ago and he's now approaching his 3rd christmas!

just keep her hanging in there!

god bless

 

[Fexx-Saved]

thanks, i suppose its easy for u being a christain, u believe ur going to heaven but i dont!

 

[The3rdhero]

ooooh no, its not easy!
you obviously have some sort of "faith" otherwise you wouldn't be posting on a christian forum

but i'm not talking about that, i just mean you should support your mum, get here through it etc

 

[Fexx-Saved]

I will try to support her the best I can! I know she needs me at this time, and I need to be loveable!

 

[The3rdhero]

thats the best thing right now
don't let her see you sad, when you're around her, be larger than life!
in otherwords, act is if the sun shines out of your ass
be jolly and cheerful!

 

[Fexx-Saved]

I dont think i should be really happy though.. my mum is not exactly the type that u can have a laugh with. I love her so much, but she believes some weird things, and tries to talk to the dead!

i will be jolly and cheerful for her,, I hope that we both will find out what religion is true and that if she does die, she can see me again, if heaven is real

 

[carmi]

He wasnt a christian either, he was against me mum being a medium, and I worry incase there is a heaven, cos i dont think he'll be there. ive heard christians say that if someone commits suicide they do not go to heaven.

God is the Judge. He has made heaven and earth, they are His and He decides who will go there and who not. Because He can see into the heart of any man, woman and child and know. No human being can do that, we can only see on the outside, we cannot see for sure what happens on the inside.

I will never forget him, he was the type of person who u would never forget!

And you are not the person that God would ever forget. He knows what is happening in your life, with your family and He knows your sadness and your loss.

My mum has cancer, and I dont think that she will recover. I know that if she dont she will not go to heaven to be with God -- if there is one!

I do not know whether your mother will recover from her cancer. But neither you nor I, not even she herself at this moment knows whether or not she will go to heaven to be with God. You don't have to be cancerfree to be able to go to heaven.

When a person recovers from cancer - that is called remission. The person who is cancerfree is in remission, she won't die of cancer but she will one day die (either because of old age or by another disease or through a fatal accident). To be in remission means to be cured from cancer.

But there is another remission - and yes, God is there. God's remission does not only take care of cancer but of all other things.

and I need peace!
I need to know if jesus is there really, so i will be able to tell her, and then she will be okay, otherwise she will be eaten by worms or go to hell,

just thinking about it scares me!

I remember how scared I used to be - as a child I was so scared I had troubles sleeping because I was afraid I might not wake up. Since I know that He is there and here, I am not afraid anymore.

 

[Fexx-Saved]

thank u carmi!

 

[BlessedVegan]

UnsureOfJesus...If you are so sure that you will go to Hell for not being a Christian then why don't you become one? If you are so sure that you're family is going to Hell for not being Christians then it'd be good for you to encourage them to find Jesus..not to say that you should go on about "hellfire and brimstone"..that would probably only stress your Mom more...but maybe you could gently bring it up to her? I'm not trying to be rude or anything I just don't understand.

 

[crossrunner]

I agree with Blessedvegan...why not just turn your life to Christ now. Share Him with your mum...Jesus loves you both so much. He has brought you here to hear His good news of salvation that is for YOU!! I posted a reply to your thread on the "Prayers from Non-Christians" forum...it has a list of scriptures about salvation. Please read them, pray about them and share them with your dear mum. I truly care about you and I really feel that you and your mum need to make your decision concerning Christ soon. God loves you and so do I.
God bless
cr

 

[Bain_Adaneth]

Hello Unsure,
If you want to know, then I'm telling you from what I believe and know. I know that God is real and that He has sent His son to die for us. And that if you want to, and say that you will take Jesus Christ to be your Savior, and you're asking Him to forgive you, you will be saved. Because if we do believe and say it, it's done. He has already died for us, we just have to ask for forgiveness and for Him to be our savior. That means that we do have to be sorry for our sins and try not to sin anymore after we have ask Him to be our Savior. Our sins were washed only by the blood of Jesus Christ, so that's why we shouldn't sin. I'm telling you that this is true, because I believe and have a relationship with God and Jesus Christ my Savior. Ask God to guide and pray to God, ending with "I pray in Jesus' name, Amen." We pray this because through Jesus we can talk to God. You can tell God that you don't know about the Truth and that for Him to help YOU find the Truth. You have to ask Christians, and seek the Truth and read the Bible. He will guide you. And just remember that Jesus said He will never leave you. It's hard for us humans to understand, because we're so used to judging fact on things that we can see. Sometimes we feel weak and struggle in life, but a lot of it is because we didn't ask God to help us. Ask the Lord to give you strength and understanding. You can read the Bible to your mom and tell her that she can ask Jesus to be her Savior. If she claims it, and really takes Jesus to be her Savior, and that God has sent His Son to die for our sins, she will be saved. A lot of people fear death. Unsure, once I knew my purpose on earth and who I will be with when I die, I didn't have the fear like I did before. God didn't create us to have fear of earthly and evil things. But fear Him because He has the Judgement. And he knows all the bad things we've done. Unsure, pray that God will give your mom strength, and that she will have no fear. I long to be with the Lord, but I will do what He wants me to do while I'm on earth. Unsure, my purpose is to do God's will, not mines. He wants me to tell others about the Good News, the Truth. To be a friend, a wife, a sister, a child....to love everyone like I love myself.... to comfort... to give and receive...to live out the life he has given me....Find out what God wants for you....I will pray for your mom....I would give you a hug if I was there with you....but I'll give you an email hug... And remember that God knows everything that is happening and he is waiting for you to turn to Him. He want you to, so that He can hold you in his arms. You are His child and so your mom. He never wants any of His children to suffer....it is sin that has brought death to the world. Accept Him....thank you for telling us about your stuggles...I will pray for your family....keep on seeking...and you can pray today to have Jesus be your Savoir....pray also for your mom....

 

[TLC4God]

you should't be scared God is here with you and he will hlep you in your time of need you need to aske him to hlep to hlep to you.

 

[Fexx-Saved]

Thank U!

 

[Suzannah]

I have 3 siblings who have died. 2 sisters and a brother. I can just about cope with there death, i miss them dearly, and there isnt a day that goes by that I dont miss them!

A few months ago my dad killed himself..this has had a big effect on my family and my mum who is a medium tried to talk to him...I think she has lost the plot! I need my father, I can not live without him, I remember all of the times that we have shared together and I wish that he could still be around! He wasnt a christian either, he was against me mum being a medium, and I worry incase there is a heaven, cos i dont think he'll be there. ive heard christians say that if someone commits suicide they do not go to heaven. this is all i need. my mum is not one, my dad is not, nor am I! I will never forget him, he was the type of person who u would never forget!

My mum has cancer, and I dont think that she will recover. I know that if she dont she will not go to heaven to be with God -- if there is one! and I need peace!
I need to know if jesus is there really, so i will be able to tell her, and then she will be okay, otherwise she will be eaten by worms or go to hell,

just thinking about it scares me!

love from Fexx. Thanks for reading this, i hope u will be able to help!

Dear Fexx,

I care about you and I care about what you are saying here....you can have peace about all of this because our Lord Himself said,

"Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God!" Nowhere here, does He say they "might" or "maybe", or "if they are good enough" or "as long as they wear a label and a name tag". He said, "They shall see God!"


He never said "Blessed are the pure in heart, but only the ones who believe certain things about Me..."

Only God sees in the hearts of other people...Is there an Orthodox priest in your town? I'm sure he would welcome you and talk to you about all this. Death is a birth into eternity....and only God can judge who goes to hell...and since God is all loving and all kind, and all merciful we can trust Him to do what is absolutely merciful.

 

[mypersiapuppy]

Unsure,

I won't tell you I know how you feel, because only you and the Lord know that. I can say that there were times in my life when I was in a great deal of emotional pain. I am much older than you, but we all start out the same age and I was fourteen once upon a time. A time before I knew Jesus and my mother was an alcoholic on top of dabbling in the occult. She introduced me to the ouija board and psychics at this time. I knew very little of who God was and the only thing I knew about Jesus was that there was a song my aunt used to sing that told me He loved me. Though my life was quite dismal, somewhere deep down I believed He was real. It would be years later before I would know for sure.

My parents both passed away from cancer many years ago and I doubt whether they were saved. I myself have had cancer and lost one of my eyes, but by God's grace I am still here over ten years later. He filled the emptiness of my life when I became saved and I can now rest in His peace either way. Times have been extremely difficult but His peace never left me. Sometimes we don't understand why bad things happen, but we need to trust that God is sovereign and nothing is done in this universe without His knowledge and purpose. Most importantly, we need to understand that God is good. Even when it looks as though everything is falling apart, we must trust that there is a bigger purpose for good.

Contacting this forum is no accident. You are truly seeking answers in a positive way. God says that if you seek Him with all your heart you will find Him. That was directed in the Old Testment to the Israelites but it also applies to us.

You can't change your mother, only Jesus can do that, but you can come to a saving faith and receive the peace and strength to deal with what is happening in your life. You are in a very difficult situation and your mother is inviting demonic entrance into her life and all who are around her through her involvement in the occult. You need the protection of the Lord. Jesus said, "I am the way and the truth and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me." John 14:6.

Yes, sweetheart, Jesus is real. I don't have enough room to give you all the reasons I say this but there is biblical and secular evidence that this is so. Here are just a few facts:

It is well documented in the Jewish Talmud that Jesus performed miracles. (The Talmud is a commentary on the Law and contains pieces of Jewish history)
Christian and secular historians noted an unusual darkness occuring at the time of the crucifixion. There was no cosmological reason for it.
The account of the resurrection when analyzed carefully cannot easily be disputed. Though He was crucified, he rose again.

There is much more, but it would be much simpler to read for yourself. If you have a bible, go to the gospel of John first. If you can't get a bible, I will be happy to send you one though it would take a while to reach you. Only the bible is truth. Believe those words. In them contain the words of life. I suggest that you call a local pastor, perferably Baptist, and speak with him. A man of God will understand.

In practical terms, the way of salvation is not what you can do or have ever done. Jesus loves you just as you are. No matter what you've done, no matter how bad you might feel, Jesus loves you and wants you to come to Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your life. Ask Him to wash you clean from all your sins (all of us are sinners). The Apostle Paul said, "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." Romans 3:23. But the good news is that Jesus died for your sins and all you are required to do is believe. I will pray that He will open your heart to respond to His message of hope in Him. He died so that "unsure" could live. You can know His peace. In the middle of the storm of your life, He will be a wonderful friend and comfort. There is no other way to heaven but through Jesus and no pain on this earth will compare to what He has in store for those who trust in Him will receive.

Sweetheart, don't give up. There is hope. There is hope in the Lord. I will be happy to answer any questions if there is a way to get in touch. I am new to the ways of the forum.

I will pray for you sweetheart. God bless you.

 

[Writing4Jesus]

Read Corinthians 13:13

So now these three things reamin: Faith, Hope, and Love. And the greatest of these is love.

That is all you need.

Have Faith.
Have Hope.
And love unconditionally.

God Bless,
Melissa

 

[JBrian]

I beleve in Jesus. I do not take a blind leap of faith as many would have you believe. There is hardcore evidence that He existed, lived a sinless life, performed miracles, was killed by the Romans and was raised for the dead. The New Testament has been historically verified. If it is not true then no ancient document is true. Only you can believe for your salvation. Pray and ask God to open your eyes to see if He is there. I would be happy to talk to you more about the evidence and why I believe. I know EXACTLY what you are going through. If you would like, send me a private message and you can call me. I would love to talk to you!

Brian

 

[persianboy]

I have 3 siblings who have died. 2 sisters and a brother. I can just about cope with there death, i miss them dearly, and there isnt a day that goes by that I dont miss them!

A few months ago my dad killed himself..this has had a big effect on my family and my mum who is a medium tried to talk to him...I think she has lost the plot! I need my father, I can not live without him, I remember all of the times that we have shared together and I wish that he could still be around! He wasnt a christian either, he was against me mum being a medium, and I worry incase there is a heaven, cos i dont think he'll be there. ive heard christians say that if someone commits suicide they do not go to heaven. this is all i need. my mum is not one, my dad is not, nor am I! I will never forget him, he was the type of person who u would never forget!

My mum has cancer, and I dont think that she will recover. I know that if she dont she will not go to heaven to be with God -- if there is one! and I need peace!
I need to know if jesus is there really, so i will be able to tell her, and then she will be okay, otherwise she will be eaten by worms or go to hell,

just thinking about it scares me!

love from Fexx. Thanks for reading this, i hope u will be able to help!

Suicide is a sin like any other, The vatican has imposed the thought of suicide being a ticket to hell which is not true. The bible says the only way to heaven is through Jesus, the bible says "For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved" thats all it takes is a sincere call to God asking for his mercy and forgiveness in your life and in faith you believe that!
Anyone who has not accepted Jesus cannot enter into the kingdom of heaven. Do you have a void in your heart that no matter what you do cannot be filled? ASK JESUS IN TO YOUR HEART AND YOU CAN KNOW THAT YOU CAN GO TO HEAVEN....I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND I DO HOPE THAT YOU WILL ASK THE LORD INTO YOUR LIFE SO YOU KNOW THAT YOU CAN GO TO HEAVEN...PRIVATE MESSAGE ME IF YOU'D LIKE, IF I CAN HELP YOU IN ANY WAY ILL CALL YOU IN THE UK FROM TEXAS TO READ TO SHOW YOU HOW TO BE LEAD TO THE LORD...GODBLESS YOU

 

[Fexx-Saved]

I remember how scared I used to be - as a child I was so scared I had troubles sleeping because I was afraid I might not wake up. QUOTE]

I can relate to that, that is what i feel like when i go to bed every night