First, ur is a horrible abomination in God's Plan and Sight. To make as if people do not need to repent of their sin, to make as if after people die they still have a chance at life if they rejected Jesus during life, to make as if Jesus' Death and Resurrection means nothing/was for nothing,
to deny the overall Scripture, to deny God's Way, means death for billions , billions , billions of souls.
Second, Growing up , so to speak, "in a Christian community" is neither lucky nor a sign that anyone is saved. That's a common error, and leads to more being without repentance, thus not forgiven
Third, many followers of Jesus, immersed in His Name, have tremendous SORROW and GRIEF, not only for family and neighbors, but also for fello countrymen and people of other nations who are lost.
The apostle Paul grieved seriously and deeply that he could not give his life to save his own countrymen .......
The answer is truth. The answer is Jesus. Complete with all the sorrow and grief of loss of souls.