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Im feeling really sad today.. I dont like being single anymore :-( I have been single for 3 months now... And I dont want to be anymore. I have a crush on a guy that believes in God but doesnt follow God's path.. And I know he isnt the one God wants me to be with.. Or thats what i think at least.. But Im drawn to him, everytime i see him i get butterflys, He makes me feel like my ex boyfriend did when i first met him.. Its weird. And i guess having a crush on this guy is making me sad that i dont have anyone :-( And im not the type just to fall for some cute looking guy. In fact I never fall well sept for my first boyfriend and this guy. What should i do??!?!?! I just want to feel like someone loves me just as much as i love them.. And i know Jesus loves me But its not the same.. I want a man in the flesh to love me.. I think i need to get more involved into a singles group with the chruch so i dont stray with this guy i like.. :cry: HELP!
 

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Call it a crush, puppy-love, or whatever...you're dealing with some powerful emotions, aren't you? Those emotions cause your body to release chemicals that create a wonderful feeling, for sure. And wouldn't you know that being denied the chance to explore those feelings,whether it be by your own doing or something/someone else just makes it worse. :sigh: Well, take heart because I know you have what it takes to deal with it.

You realize that a shared faith is one of the most important elements of a successful long-term relationship. You are wise not to pursue it with this fellow. Not many your age would have the strength to make that same decision. There are lots of people who say they believe in God (even Satan is included in that group) but don't follow Him, and if this guy is one of them, you've made the right choice.

Satan's probably pretty ticked off that you've made this choice and is doing everything possible to make you stumble, so hang in there and know that God's with you all the way!
 
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Oky doe-ky. I have a whole lot to say about this but I will try to say only the really important stuff. I could write a novel on this subject. ugh. ha ha. Okay, I met a guy that said he loved Jesus and said he was a christian and said he loved me and would care for me forever. We dated for a while, he joined the military, he moved away, came back to our hometown and asked me to marry him so that we could be together finally. Of course I felt like I loved him but also knew he didn't ACT like a christian (all the way). I let my emotions make my decision instead of my brain and prayer. I married this guy. We've been married for almost 5 years now. He has slowly gotten to the point where he doesn't care about anything I think, believe, or feel. He actually acts like he hates me. He says he loves me soo much. I think he is mentally ill or oppressed by the devil. NOW he says he hates Jesus!! and this isn't the song he sang when we were dating. I don't think our marriage was the will of God. I think the devil decieved me into thinking he was the ONE for me. I love him a lot but wish I had taken a different route in life. I have a loveless marriage and I feel lonely a whole lot. If I didn't have my little doggie (my son) I don't think I would have made it this far. THANK YOU JESUS! So, what I'm trying to get at is: it sounds really good that you are using your brain instead of your emotions to drive you. I think most people feel lonely. ...but... when you ask the Holy Spirit to take over your life (baptism in the holy spirit) then your whole life can be transformed. These emotions are normal. Be thankful you are free. Don't make rash decisions. Be careful in who you hang out with and for God's sake....don't marry anyone until you have been together for quite a while. ....cause once you get married, you develop emotions for the person, but you are stuck...you can't leave unless you are major strong. Plus when you live with someone (in my experience) you get close and the longer you live with them the more scared you get to be alone again. You need to pray and talk to God. You need to ask God to bring someone like you into your life - most especially someone who loves Jesus. Just remember these feelings are normal and healthy. Leah sarcastically says, "You gotta love life". ha ha. Jesus is your only salvation and living water. Drink him daily and this will surely help. I love you and would love to talk to you again.
Lord, touch Kristina's heart and fill her cup to overflowing. Help her through this tough trial and send her someone that can love her and treat her the way she wants to be loved and treated. In Jesus Name. Amen.
God Bless. PM me anytime, girl. :bow:
 
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Romans 5:1-11

Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by Faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us. Because of our Faith, Christ has bought us into this place of highest privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory. We can rejoice when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us; they help us learn to endure. And endurance develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation. And this expectation will not disappoint us. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.

Patience is spelled FAITH

1 Corinthians 2:9
No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him.
 
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HI :sigh: Kristina84,
I feel for you, and your sadness and lonliness. If you read Psalms it will comfort you, songs will help, a church group would also.Is there anything you can do to focus on something you enjoy doing. Have you got a pet, like Paris and Nicole. Pets give you someone to hug and kiss and love. Try praying the word.Here is a good prayer: "The joy of the Lord is my strength" The bible says to "put on the garment of praise" when we are down. Sing songs of praise or just any happy songs.
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:cool: Hi, from Rosieace,
I think that is good advice from homewardbound. To have a shared faith has to be the #1 priority in a long term relationship. And the bible says that to know someone you can tell by their fruits whether they are a good person or not. If someone has the fruits of the Holy Spirit then they have to be a good person. Especially if they are saved ,love Jesus, read the bible, talk about Jesus and the word, have holy goals,thoughts,words,actions.; that is their fruits. God Bless. :sleep:
 
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