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Melbelle · Aug 10, 2008

not sure I told ya, but we are moved in to our new place, and we are loving it... I've taken Seth Swimming twice since we been moved in, he loves it, and wants to go everyday, lol but I just don't have the energy to take him everyday...

Neenie1 · Aug 13, 2008

faithmom said:
Hey folks!

School already starts here in just 2 weeks (the 21st). I am so not ready for summer to end. I've had blast with my kids this summer. It makes me sad that it is ending so soon, and they are growing so fast. Glad I am at home to have these summers with them.

I actually started playing with the idea of finding part time work during the school days, and ya know what, the more I look at it, the less I can see it fitting into my family needs.

Two girls on the verge of periods, my son getting his lip sliced open at gymn class last year and I could be there in 5 minutes to get him to the ER, all the things I pull together during the day to make family time happen at night....kids being at school definitely doesn't make you a non-parent during those hours.

At the same time, I see the economy slowing, and know our lives our dependant upon the realestate market, and I am pulled to find some steady source of income to suppliment it all.

Just thought I would throw that out there...some stay-at-home-mom thoughts.....if you get my drift.

I know what you are saying. at the moment I work casual for our family business dh and I are trying to get going, (well dh is doing most of the work, I am prayer support and everything else support lol)

I also do some babysitting every now and then, when I can get it. I have one in school (year 1) and one at home (3 years old) so I somehow manage to do these things, but yes, a part time job would be hard to fit. At least with what I do I can fit it in around my family a little bit better, most of these things are done at home.

-~Truth_N_Trust~- · Aug 13, 2008

Glad to hear your all moved in Melly, hope you all settle in well!

angelsgirl · Aug 14, 2008

WARNING... mainly ranting ahead!

ooohhh... I am SO annoyed right now!
My DH made a comment at his parents place last night about how I shouldn't need a break from looking after Maddie/the house cause she sleeps for 4 hours of a morning!!! And what do you think I do when she is sleeping... Relax??? I don't think so. Why do you think the washing and washing up is done... How does the house look at least a little presentable??? Seriously... I don't sit on my bum and do nothing...
Ugh... I know he wasn't serious, but it really made me MAD!
Sometimes I think he thinks he does more than me cause he works out of the home. But i really don't think so. It's not a "who does more" competition. But it would be nice to be noticed for what I do. I am very lucky to have a baby who sleeps for so long of a morning, it really does help me get things done. And I do take breaks. I come on here... I'll watch some TV with breakfast. But i don't do that ALL day!

But getting away from ranting... Things have gotten ALOT easier around here. Probably starting about 3-4 weeks ago. Maddie started sleeping the whole night through and having a morning sleep every morning. So we have some sort of routine going which is good. I'm getting between 6 and 8 hours of unbroken sleep at night (usually anyways) which makes a HUGE difference.

How is everyone else going?

Melbelle · Aug 14, 2008

angelsgirl said:
WARNING... mainly ranting ahead!

ooohhh... I am SO annoyed right now!
My DH made a comment at his parents place last night about how I shouldn't need a break from looking after Maddie/the house cause she sleeps for 4 hours of a morning!!! And what do you think I do when she is sleeping... Relax??? I don't think so. Why do you think the washing and washing up is done... How does the house look at least a little presentable??? Seriously... I don't sit on my bum and do nothing...
Ugh... I know he wasn't serious, but it really made me MAD!
Sometimes I think he thinks he does more than me cause he works out of the home. But i really don't think so. It's not a "who does more" competition. But it would be nice to be noticed for what I do. I am very lucky to have a baby who sleeps for so long of a morning, it really does help me get things done. And I do take breaks. I come on here... I'll watch some TV with breakfast. But i don't do that ALL day!

But getting away from ranting... Things have gotten ALOT easier around here. Probably starting about 3-4 weeks ago. Maddie started sleeping the whole night through and having a morning sleep every morning. So we have some sort of routine going which is good. I'm getting between 6 and 8 hours of unbroken sleep at night (usually anyways) which makes a HUGE difference.

How is everyone else going?

My husband makes cracks like that, if I even complain about wanting a break and he really doesn't want to give me one, he'll say something like "All you do is stay home all day, its not like you are out there making money" its war when that is said... Cus though I'm home, I am trying to make money... and I do as much if not more then he does. but like you said, its not a competition, we should help each other out... My husband has been really good recently I can't complain...

marezee · Aug 14, 2008

for you gals with the "witty" husbands!

I cannot complain about my DH...sure we kid when he says I sit around all day eating bon bons and watching the "stories." hehehe!
but i know it's just a joke...our joke!
He also says to me "i don't know how you do it!" or "i couldn't do what you do."
and if i want some time to myself, he encourages it. he even sometimes has to kick me out of the house for a break! LOL!

on the other side of the coin, he works very hard at his job, 12 hour shifts. he loves our boys and cherishes his time with them. however, sometimes daddy needs a time out of the house by himself also.
so i give him that time as well. it's a give and take ladies!

Neenie1 · Aug 14, 2008

My dh has made those kind of comments too. He doesn't do it very often. He is pretty relaxed about it all, if the house is a mess he doesn't even notice - however because he doesn't notice he doesn't help either, but at the moment he is working really really really hard to get a business off the ground. That's cool, I get that.

I guess what helps though is having some good friends that I can "offload" with when it all gets too much. It happens occasionally.

Also now he works from home sometimes he KNOWS what goes on here all day and since he started working from home the little jokes have stopped lol.

Angelsgirl, maybe it might help if you do a routine plan and stick it on the fridge or something somewhere where he can see it, put feeding times (which I know when breastfeeding take a while) changing times, houswork times, get it all written down so he can see that yes you actually do things.

Hadassah · Aug 15, 2008

DH made a comment like that today just a bit ago on the phone. It was tempting to say the baby kicked the phone and it hung up... but I was good. I promise!

Our LO is teething, and though we got an amber bracelet, is fussy when he gets tired or bored. What do you do with a baby that just doesn't sleep!? He was up before DH left (540am!) and has not slept but a few hours. He's refusing to eat, and is just screaming up a storm before daddy gets home.

Once daddy is home, whole other ball park. I told DH I wanted to cook some tonight and rest, he can have baby time. "Why, it can't be that hard really.. what happened?" and thank goodness the baby started his fussing then and he could hear it.

I would ask for a break, but my inlaws are going to see a sick parent (my FIL's dad) in the hospital tomorrow, so no chances of that this weekend.

marezee · Aug 15, 2008

hi hadassah! so sorry your little one is teething! poor thing!
I had a mesh feeder for my little ones. i put an ice cube in it and had them bite on that, or a biter biscuit. i also gave them ibuprofen or tylenol according to the doctor's dosage.
sometimes a little fresh air gets them sleepy too.
i will be praying for him! and for you to get some rest!

angelsgirl · Aug 15, 2008

HaddassahSukkot, I so know how you feel. Maddie is starting to teeth too. Sometimes she will just yell for ages. Others she will just be fussy. Her fist is constantly in her mouth, pressing on her gums to try and stop the pain. I have a teething ring thing, but she is a little young for that atm... she can't hold it in place...but she is getting heaps better at that. I think a couple more days and she'll be able to! We are going through SO many dummy's she just keeps chomping down on them. Same with bottle teats! Ah well, it can't last forever!!!

My first weekend back at work this weekend... I'm going to miss Maddie. But DH is looking after her, today and tomorrow. So hopefully he will get a taste of what it is like to be me! I just wish she would wake up so I could get some cuddles in before i go!

angelsgirl · Aug 15, 2008

I can still stay in here with you guys... even though I'm working outside the home for 3 days a fortnight???

I don't want to leave my baby girl... what if she needs her mummy???

Melbelle · Aug 15, 2008

URG, I been in aginizing pain for the past 3 days, and last night was worse, was in ER, tonight is pretty bad, I've taken a muscle relaxer, 2 tylenols the doc gave me, and a night time excedrin, still no releaf I just wanna scream, and my husband shows no sympothy all I hear from him is "Well I'm not taking you back to the ER" I don't wanna go back, but even more I hate this pain I wish it would knock me out so I couldn't feel nothing, I just wanna cry

marezee · Aug 16, 2008

angelsgirl said:
I can still stay in here with you guys... even though I'm working outside the home for 3 days a fortnight???

I don't want to leave my baby girl... what if she needs her mummy???

big hugs to you angelsgirl!! you can still come here, no problem!
i will pray for your peace of mind while you are away from your baby!!

Melly Monster said:
URG, I been in aginizing pain for the past 3 days, and last night was worse, was in ER, tonight is pretty bad, I've taken a muscle relaxer, 2 tylenols the doc gave me, and a night time excedrin, still no releaf I just wanna scream, and my husband shows no sympothy all I hear from him is "Well I'm not taking you back to the ER" I don't wanna go back, but even more I hate this pain I wish it would knock me out so I couldn't feel nothing, I just wanna cry

I'm so sorry that you are in pain melly!! your DH does not sound very empathetic! i will pray for your pain to cease!

mbrobeck06 · Aug 17, 2008

I am not only a sahm but a sahm of a child with disabilities i have been a sahm off and on for years since 6 months before my dd was born i love every second of it yes sometimes it is crazy and yes sometimes i need a break and yes sometimes i miss working but ill tell you what i would rather stay at home send my kids to school and when the time comes when all my kids are in school (i have another year) then and only then will i look for a job and work when they are in school.
mom to 5 sd 11 dd 8 ds 7 ds 5 ds 4

-~Truth_N_Trust~- · Aug 19, 2008

welcome mbrobeck06, sounds like you're quite a busy mum! I hear you on the loving staying home despite the craziness sometimes!

Oh Melly, that sounds awful... do you know what is wrong?

Melbelle · Aug 19, 2008

lots of things are wrong, now I'm really sick, with the flu, been running fever for 2 days and my head is spinning... Hope the antibiotics start working soon.

angelsgirl · Aug 19, 2008

Oh Melly... I hope you start to feel better soon!!!

Melbelle · Aug 19, 2008

How do you SAHM's be sick and still manage everything? I feel like with each day I feel worse and worse... I'm not as tired as I was yeseterday, but I ache more then yesterday, plus ontop of that, my husband felt my head and said I am burning up, but still, refuses to lift a finger I got mad at him earlier and pretty much told him how it was going to be, I know he worked all day, but so have I, maybe I don't get paid for my job, but being a SAHM ya do work. Well I told hime I really didn't feel like cooking, that my body was telling me to just relax, but he insisted that I cooked, I kinda pouted about it, but delt with it, and got up to cook, I know Seth won't eat what I cooked, so I asked Coby to come in and cook Seths while I prepair ours, he said he would, Seth is bouncing under me, "Mommy, I'm hungry" well I tell him "Please go bug ur dad, he is cooking ur food tonight" so he goes and tells his daddy "Just a minute" this goes on for about 5 times, finally I'm thed up and say "Never mind, sorry I bothered to ask you to help me" and he had his head phones on so he didn't hear me. I start to prepair Seths, and he comes in "I told you I'd do it" and I tell him "I asked you to do 5 times, I got tired of asking you, if you really wanted to help me, you would have done it" well at this time, I'm upset, and not feeling good, so it rolls together, and I almost pass out, The he asks "Whats wrong?" and I tell him "Hmm, well I been running fever the past 2 days, I feel horrible, I look horrible, I can't relax because you couldn't just cook dinner tonight and let me just relax." He says "I don't know how to cook what ur cooking" Well thats not good enough I say "I could walk you through it, its easy" well at this point I'm crying, and I look at him and say "After dinner, I'm going to take a 2 hour nap, you are taking care of Seth, if Seth comes up stairs to bug me, I'm not going to be happy"

Maybe I didn't handle it good, but I'm tired, I don't feel good, I just want to beable to relax... Dinner is ready, I'm off to eat, and go take my nap.

Neenie1 · Aug 19, 2008

I can't believe he made you cook!!!

My dh hardly does any housework, his main job is yes to work outside the home (well work at home job lol so he's working at home too a lot)but he does put dd to bed and does make her bed too lol. (she's daddy's little girl this one) that's about it. So I manage everything else, if I am sick I just don't do much and if I really can't be bothered cooking, I either have a freezer meal (a precooked casserole and frozen type thing) or he gets takeaway (no he doesn't cook) he never complains about the housework, in fact he tells me I am too anal. So in that I am blessed that if I let things slide he won't complain.

My suggestion is that when you are better you cook up a few casseroles and freeze them so that when you can't be bothered cooking you just reheat it, if your dh and ds don't eat it then too bad. I have a fussy dd and this is what i have had to do - no longer do I cook 2 meals, if she doesn't like it, then she doesn't eat that night. In the end she will at least eat something on her plate.

Neenie1 · Aug 19, 2008

I can't believe he made you cook!!!

My dh hardly does any housework, his main job is yes to work outside the home (well work at home job lol so he's working at home too a lot)but he does put dd to bed and does make her bed too lol. (she's daddy's little girl this one) that's about it. So I manage everything else, if I am sick I just don't do much and if I really can't be bothered cooking, I either have a freezer meal (a precooked casserole and frozen type thing) or he gets takeaway (no he doesn't cook) he never complains about the housework, in fact he tells me I am too anal. So in that I am blessed that if I let things slide he won't complain.

My suggestion is that when you are better you cook up a few casseroles and freeze them so that when you can't be bothered cooking you just reheat it, if your dh and ds don't eat it then too bad. I have a fussy dd and this is what i have had to do - no longer do I cook 2 meals, if she doesn't like it, then she doesn't eat that night. In the end she will at least eat something on her plate.

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