Romantic rpg?

[searchingsoul]

I've noticed that there isn't a lot of romantic rpgs... Of course, I can't say that for sure, because I haven't looked, but I was thinking we should have a romantic rpg. There's going to be strictly no love making. We're going to stick relatively within the confines of PG. I'll need both girls and guys to participate. There can be more than one romantic relationship, and if there's a love triangle, all the more interesting. I haven't decided what genre to put it under, though. It would also be good if there was something else going on, other than the romance, though that should be a big part of it. Let me know if you're up to it.

Oh, and I'd rather you not play someone opposite your gender, please.

 

[GrayAngel]

I might give it a shot, but my gender is a secret. Is it okay if I choose whichever gender I want, then?

Also, we need a little more to go on. You want this RPG to have a dramatized average-life theme (like a Soap opera)?

 

[searchingsoul]

Well, not a dramatic, overdone soap, but kinda... The reason I asked for people to play their genders is that I feel uncomfortable "falling in love" with another girl. It just screams wrong to me. I must tell you though, your name strikes me as girl.

 

[GrayAngel]

People are always saying that. But the name comes from my late brother, Grayson. The angel part was just because I have a fascination with angels, and because it fits the Christian theme.

Also, I think most people would be interested in a romantic RPG would be girls. So if this RPG takes off, the characters would be dominately female.

 

[searchingsoul]

Yikes! Well, as long as I don't know their gender already, then I guess they could be either...

 

[Nova Scotian Boy]

What about a period of 10th centurie Ireland or mideval times there would be loads going on for that.

 

[Nova Scotian Boy]

What about a period of 10th centurie Ireland or mideval times there would be loads going on for that.

 

[searchingsoul]

That would mean it would have to be in the historic/realistic area, and I would also have to research Irland in that time period. I'd rather not, If I can avoid it.

 

[SolidFaith247]

Yikes! Well, as long as I don't know their gender already, then I guess they could be either...

So...I'm curious. Do you think it's possible to roleplay romance without all of the feelings and emotions involved?

I am fascinated by such an idea, as to be totally blunt and honest- am desperately in need for romance in my life- but the feelings, the emotions, the heartbreak, the drama, the real life, the roleplaying and separation of "it's not real"...

Well, would it not be emotionally dangerous for everyone involved?
I'm interested in thoughts and discussions of this topic, just as long as anyone debating or discussing would know that there is absolutely no changing my mind that it is impossible for any human being to not form emotional attachments, even if under the guise of roleplaying and it being "fake, make-believe, not serious, etc."


What a great positive though... no lovemaking! When people include that in roleplaying, the emotional attachments get heavy, even for the people who claim they dont get attached (whatever, liesssss)



Anyways, I just wanted to ask what you thought about the emotional danger of roleplaying romantically. It's basically just dating in real life, just on the internet and with the ability to just tell yourself "It's okay, it's not real. Not reason to feel guilty/hurt." whenever you break someone's heart or have your heart broken.

As a psychologist, and having tons of experience with online roleplaying and interaction, I have come to the conclusion that no human being is capable of roleplaying romantically without having serious REAL LIFE attachments. Plenty who will deny it, plenty who will lie and say "It's not serious, it's fake.", but no one who can truly not form real life romantic attachments to those they roleplay with. (With the exception of those so unhealthy in rela life that they are unable to form attachments anywhere.)

So...wouldnt it be dangerous ground?
Worth the risk and danger?
Safe?

Discuss. I really would like to hear what people think about all I just stirred up.

 

[Sapphiraleoht]

I'll join...

 

[searchingsoul]

To answer you, solidfaith, I think that there could be a risk. Currently I am in an rpg where my character could easily be in a romantic relationship, but the dude's "unstable" and there is plenty of action. (My character, btw, is the only girl in the whole rpg) For me personally, I find that the risk is worth it. You do touch on an ineteresting subject though...

 

[GrayAngel]

I don't see why anyone would have any emotional attachments. It's fiction. I hope to make a living writing fiction, and I make a habit of writing frequently. I admit that I sometimes feel sympathy for my characters as if they were real people, but I've never allowed them to control me, and I still allow bad things to happen to them.

And honestly, I think this RPG would get pretty boring if we never created any conflict between our characters. I would do it on purpose just to keep things interresting.