Roman Catholic & Mennonite???

[Radfahrer]

Hello,

I will make this very straight-to-the-point. In October of last year, I met a wonderful woman in my university. She's a Mennonite (19yrs old) and I am a Roman Catholic (22yrs old). Since then, we have gotten to know each other quite well. We also got along very well, and there was blatantly obvious chemistry between the both of us. Despite enjoying each other's company immensely, each time I have asked her to do something with me outside of school, she has always made an excuse to avoid it. And then, a couple of weeks ago I had asked her again, to which she finally agreed, and then a week later, changes her mind and bails on me. After asking her four times since October last year, I have finally decided to give it up.

What puzzles me the most it how obvious it was that she was really interested in me. I can say that with 100% certainty. I was very interested in her too.

So then, why is she so reluctant to get together (like for coffee) with someone she obviously is interested in? I thought, maybe her parents are strict Mennonites and don't allow her to date? Are Mennonites like that? I know that some of them don't even permit dancing for fear that it will lead to sex. Seriously now, how strict are Mennonites (parents, specifically) when it comes to dating and such relationships? This woman and I would make such a wonderful duo. We make each other laugh like no other can, that it would be a shame to waste a relationship that has so much, tremendous potential.

Thanks.

 

[Sketcher]

I don't know, but when they're strict, they're STRICT.

They also have very different beliefs than Catholics. You'd have to recocile those.

Of course, you'd be better off asking a Mennonite. They've got a forum here. I believe it's this one.

 

[sweetmercy]

I'm Mennonite, so maybe I can shed some light on this situation for you. First off, there are different types of Mennonites. Most "modern" Menno's aren't too strict, and are a lot like most other Protestant denominations. Does she wear skirts all the time? Does she wear makeup? If she wears makeup and pants, chances are she's a modern Mennonite. I really don't think her parents would have too much to do with her behaviour.
What I think is that she's reluctant to get into a relationship with a Catholic. Perhaps she's looking to the future and realizes the problems that could arise by marrying someone with such different doctrines than hers. I know that would definately hold me back from marrying a Catholic (please don't take that as a put-down, its not intended to be ). However, the only way to know for sure is to ask her directly. It might be awkward, but at least you'd know the truth directly from the source, rather than speculating and assuming.
Good luck and God bless
Jen

 

[Radfahrer]

I'm Mennonite, so maybe I can shed some light on this situation for you. First off, there are different types of Mennonites. Most "modern" Menno's aren't too strict, and are a lot like most other Protestant denominations. Does she wear skirts all the time? Does she wear makeup? If she wears makeup and pants, chances are she's a modern Mennonite. I really don't think her parents would have too much to do with her behaviour.
What I think is that she's reluctant to get into a relationship with a Catholic. Perhaps she's looking to the future and realizes the problems that could arise by marrying someone with such different doctrines than hers. I know that would definately hold me back from marrying a Catholic (please don't take that as a put-down, its not intended to be ). However, the only way to know for sure is to ask her directly. It might be awkward, but at least you'd know the truth directly from the source, rather than speculating and assuming.
Good luck and God bless
Jen

hi Jen thanks for your input

she does wear a lot of makeup but dresses conservatively. She comes from a small prairie town that was pretty much founded by Mennonites and she's active in her "church" community. (do they call it church too? i'm not sure).

 

[Radfahrer]

anyone else have any input on this?

 

[vibrant]

i agree, ask her what's up.

 

[Stanfi]

My opinion is that someone who is serious about their faith is going to be relunctant to become seriously involved with someone who believes differently than them. Obviously at some point it will become a huge issue. For many, religious differences are non-negotiable, because of the deep convictions we have about our faith.

 

[JPPT1974]

My opinion is that someone who is serious about their faith is going to be relunctant to become seriously involved with someone who believes differently than them. Obviously at some point it will become a huge issue. For many, religious differences are non-negotiable, because of the deep convictions we have about our faith.

Agreed there!!