Respect

[Im_A]

i voted for "given." because if you require people to earn your respect then that means you are holding them to a negative outcome of how they will treat you, when you have no right to judge or be critical of people when they did nothing wrong to you in the first place. this is something i've applied to my life daily, because for awhile, i used to be a very critical person of people, and now, this has greatly influenced my life for the better.

 

[Shane Roach]

Kind of both, really, though I voted "earned" because I feel it is primarily an earned thing. But there is a minimal amount of respect we all owe one another just as human beings.

 

[sandman]

I am very intrigued by sandman's post...... and would like to ask him -- could you elaborate on the following statement, particularly the part I'm putting in bold? What do you mean by "the respect of desire?" [/font]

blessings
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It is not to look at the outcome {performance} but to look at the heart {desire}

Proverbs 24:16For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: …

Looking at the mans good will desire rather then the performance: that is what you respect in him. (i.e.) Conquests – Thank him for going to work everyday for the family for bringing home the bacon so to speak regardless of how big or small the bacon might be.

Cheer his success in business or in sports.

I have dreams, all men do, ask me about my dreams, my goals; you ignite those dreams when you ask me about them and show interest.

There are several more areas, but that is just one along the lines of respect of his desire.

 

[praying]

Do you think respect is something that should automatically be given to certain people, or that it needs to be earned?

YOu need three options, some is earned, and some should just be given. It depends.

 

[Chajara]

I said given, based on my experiences. Basically, when I meet someone, they automatically have my respect because they are a fellow form of life. Simple as that. However, they only get so many "respect points" upon my meeting them and most of the time they do something to destroy them. Then they have to earn my respect back. Does that make sense?

 

[ravenscape]

How can I not respect someone who has never lost my respect?

My going in position is to respect people. It is theirs to keep or to throw away.

 

[Dennis Moore]

Decency = Given
Respect = Earned

Best answer given, and the one I was going to give.

You can approach someone with open decency ... but respect is, IMO, somethong you can't give sight unseen. Sure, I have automatic respect for people in certain positions, but even that can change given experience with the individual. I have much respect for the Office of the President, for example, but if I ever met the current President face-to-face, I'd take the opportunity to spit, because I've zero respect for the man.

 

[gizmo03]

Earned!!