But the problem here is this doesn't in anyway prove your assertion weeping and gnashing of teeth in the outer darkness is not final judgement.
Everybody has been taught from their first day of salvation That "weeping and gnashing of teeth and outer darkness" is the worst possible thing ever.......Hell. So it's going to be very hard to argue for a different interpretation..........the mind is SET. Possibly, it is not hell and we have made the bark worse than the bite?
Weeping and gnashing~~~regret. We will know our failures in time in heaven. There is no remorse in heaven but we will be fully aware of our failures. There is no longer sin or the sin nature in heaven so we will see and understand our failures perfectly. That doesn't take away the JOY of heaven.
2 John 1:8~~
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Watch yourselves, that you do not lose what we have accomplished, but that you may receive a full reward.
1 John 2:28~~
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Now, little children, abide in Him, so that when He appears, we may have confidence and not shrink away from Him in shame at His coming.
Outer darkness~~outside of the 'know.' Excluded from something we had the chance to be included in. But our failures in time, left us with less than a full reward.
Paul uses many analogies of the military in his writings. And the idea of 'reign.'
Eph 6:11~~
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Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.
2 Tim 2:12~~
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If we endure, we will also reign with Him; If we deny Him, He also will deny us;(Reign)
So we could use the analogy of the military. Do we stay a private or do we live the Christian way of life and become a General?
The Private had the same opportunity to become a General as the General did. The private still participates and has his perfect, joyful place.........but he isn't in with command central and the General planning operations.
Or we could use the analogy of growing in the grace and knowledge of The Lord Jesus Christ. Do we stay a babe in Christ or do we fully mature by living the Christian way of life?
The babe has to be taught bible doctrine, they neglected it in time. Rather than teaching it(excluded in something that they should have been included in/ they are in the dark/ outside of the 'know') they need to be taught. This doesn't take away the joy and perfectness of heaven. Everyone has their perfect place, but it is not all equal.